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[Hash Swan]

Staff: Any idea why you're here today?

A special stage?

[Hot topic rappers have gathered for the SMTM6 Finals Special Stage!]

[Who are the rappers that will stand on that stage?]

*counting number of chairs*

Seems like there are 7 chairs in the room.

Staff: Who do you think will be coming?

Penomeco hyung,

Penomeco hyung, Double K hyung,

Penomeco hyung, Double K hyung, and Punchnello?

Even I find that (their elimination) was such a waste.

[Then, another rapper appears]

Because their elimination was really unexpected.

[Penomeco]

Hash Swan: It's been awhile. [Welcoming faces after not meeting for awhile]

Penomeco: Hello...

[Rushing in with coffee]

[The third rapper part of the Special Stage]

[Penomeco is intensely greeting...]

[A welcoming sight, Punchnello]

Penomeco: Actually, I think it would be great to do this with Punchnello.

Because we both got eliminated in the 3rd Round (1 vs. 1 Battle)...

[Black Nine]

Hash Swan: Who's next?

Black Nine: I can't tell you who I saw outside, right?

Black Nine: He's quite a tall person.

*Knocking*

[The tall rapper who's entering while bending over]

Sleepy: What? What's going on?

[Sleepy]

Sleepy: Ah, even so, it's nice to see you guys.

Penomeco: Yeah. After getting eliminated, I think I met up with Sleepy hyung pretty often.

During the time I couldn't really get back to my original state of mentality,

He had amazing expertise to help me get my mentality back to what it should be.

Sleepy: I don't really mind when he wants to call me.

(Penomeco) would start talking about why he got eliminated

He'd probably not feel good about it since I was still in the competition...

It was like that...

Then I was eliminated immediately right after that.

Penomeco: I called him then!

[Getting closer through consolation phone calls]

Penomeco: As if I knew he would get eliminated!

Sleepy: There were so many people who got eliminated.

But if the staff chose us...

We must be the ones known for our skills, right?

Hash Swan: Do you mean, known for our visuals instead?

[Hash Swan outsmarting Sleepy]

Sleepy: Visuals?

[Olltii]

[And the next rapper with confirmed(?) skills + visuals]

[Ignito]

Sleepy: (Being straightforward) Any thoughts about Woo Wonjae doing well?

Ignito: Hmm...

Ignito: Hmm... I don't look at what he does.

[All of them can relate to that feeling]

[Finally, all the 7 rappers have gathered]

Sleepy: Let's talk about the producers that you want beats from.

Hash Swan: I want Dok2 hyung's beats.

Sleepy: Dok2's beats are great. But he won't give one to me.

[Even so, he still wants Dok2's beats]

Sleepy: In a situation like this, what should I do...

Even if he tells me he won't give me one.

Penomeco: (Raising his hand) Zico and Dean for me.

We're in the same crew, but...

I've never gotten one from them.

Sleepy: They won't do so even when you guys are friends?

Penomeco: Ah, it's not that they don't want to. [Don't misunderstand]

Penomeco: Ah, it's not that they don't want to. Sleepy: But you knew Zico since elementary school...

Penomeco: Rather than not wanting to give me a beat, Sleepy: But you knew Zico since elementary school...

When I want to ask them for a beat, they happen to be busy.

As soon as I think, "Shall I ask him for a song?"

and he releases an album. [His friends Zico and Dean are always busy]

As soon as I think, "shall I ask him for a song?" [His friends Zico and Dean are always busy]

and they participate in SMTM6.

That's why I came to SMTM6!

"That's right! I'll join your team and you guys will finally make me a song!"

But ah, I got eliminated, huh?

Ignito: I want to do something different from what I usually do.

Sleepy: Perhaps, a love song?

Penomeco: I'm that girl's Hades~

Hash Swan: Yeah, that kind of thing!

Olltii: Maybe do something with a ukulele...

[Ignito = Love song + Ukulele]

Penomeco: Like displaying cherry blossoms fluttering on the screen at the back...

Ignito: I think I'll just stick to what I've been doing.

Gloomily.

Staff: Let's listen to the beat given to you guys.

[An addictive and strong beat]

Sleepy: I love it!

There will be an explosive number of events that will play the song!

Sleepy: But I wonder who produced the song.

[Hearing some "HO!"s during the song]

Sleepy: Who's the one saying "HO!"?

Black Nine: I think it's Dok2 hyung!

Hash Swan: I think it's Dok2 hyung.

[Show me the money! It's Dok2!]

I'm pretty familiar with his beats.

Sleepy: So you're tired of them?

Hash Swan: That's not what I meant! [I love you, CEO]

Hash Swan: Are we done with the meeting as soon as we decide who's rapping at which part?

Olltii: From what I can tell, people get turnt up when Penomeco shows up first.

Hash Swan: Yup.

Olltii: Penomeco's also the #1 person who should not have been eliminated.

What do you think?

Penomeco: To be honest...

I want to avoid being the first person!

[It's burdensome to be the first to rap]

Sleepy: Okay so, who wants to go first?

Hash Swan: Hyung, you go first.

Sleepy: Me?

Hash Swan: I think it's quite okay for you to go first.

Sleepy: I'll go first.

Olltii: You're going first?

Sleepy: Everyone agreeable?

Sleepy: Let's make it a song that's even better than the songs by the guys in the finals.

Olltii: Hangzoo,

Olltii: Hangzoo, Woo Wonjae,

Olltii: Hangzoo, Woo Wonjae, Nucksal!

Olltii: It's the end for you guys!

Sleepy: We are better than them, because we were not supposed to be eliminated!

[Guys, agree with me]

[It ends with an awkward atmosphere]

[Although eliminated, these rappers are making a special stage during the live broadcast of the finals]

[Another chapter written by these guys]

[Don't miss their Special Stage during the SMTM6 Finals live broadcast]

Punchnello: To those in the finals, I think we'll be creating a bigger splash. What will you guys do?

Ignito: Please look forward to it. I'll deliver a really cool rap.

Black Nine: We'll probably win on that day.

I'm sorry to the other participants.

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Custom Offsets Match Up: 34x11.5 on 20x9 +18 - Duration: 1:55.

(heavy metal music)

- Hey, guys, Shawn, with Custom Offsets,

Custom Offsets TV on YouTube.

Got another one of these match ups for you

where we'll show that wheel wheel size

with that tire tire size to show you

how they match up.

So, this is gonna be your 20-inch,

20-inch by 9 wide

plus 18 gear big block

and it's gonna be wrapped

in a Nitto Ridge Grappler.

It's gonna be a 295/60R20.

295/60R20 pretty much equates to about a 34 tall,

so she's a little taller,

by an 11 and a half wide.

So, it's 34 by 11 and a half.

And what that means is that you've

got 11 and a half wide tire on a 9 wide wheel.

So you're gonna get some sidewall protection.

You're gonna get that little bit of bubble

and more of that off-road look

and off-road protection out of that tire size.

As far as the sidewall size,

to the top of that lug,

you're looking at about a 6-inch

and remember that this is our Ridge Grappler,

so this is gonna be our hybrid.

It's between an all-terrain and a mud tire.

As far as from the sidewall to the tread seam,

you're looking at about 4 and 7/8.

So, you've got a decent size sidewall

and that's because you've got that

34-inch tire and that 20-inch wheel

and that's what gives you

a little bit more beef as far as sidewall.

It's gonna ride a little better

'cause you're adding that little bit of air cushion

versus your low profiles and then,

like I said, you'll have some wheel protection

because of that little bit of bubble on that 9 wide.

That's all I have to know about that.

Peace.

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Arsenal's players want Alexis Sanchez to be sold: Squad fed-up with wantaway star - report - Duration: 2:56.

Arsenal's players want Alexis Sanchez to be sold: Squad fed-up with wantaway star - report

Sanchez wants out of Arsenal and Manchester City are trying to sign him. Theyve failed with a £50m bid for his services, but are likely to bid again.

The Chilean fancies linking up with Pep Guardiola for a second time after previously working for the Spaniard at Barcelona. And despite being the clubs standout star player, the Gunners squad want Sanchez to get his wish, report The Telegraph.

Its claimed several first-team stars at the Emirates are fed-up with his moody attitude, and want him out of the picture. .

Sanchezs attitude has reportedly alarmed several members of the squad, and its feared that negativity could spread through the dressing room if the attacking ace stays put.

The Telegraph add the feeling its time to sell has been spreading for a while, but Sundays 4-0 hammering at Liverpool was the final straw.

Earlier this year Sanchez was dropped for a Premier League match, also at Liverpool, for storming off the clubs training pitch following a row.

Gunners fans were furious their star player was axed, but the squad backed Arsene Wengers decision.

Sanchezs stroppy mood when being substituted has also irked the dressing room, as well as his public outbursts of dissatisfaction, such as ripping off his gloves and storming off the pitch at Bournemouth last Christmas.

Arsenal legend Ian Wright also thinks Sanchez should be sold. Thats the end of our news for today. thanks for watching, please comment and subscribe for me to keep up with the news everyday. I really appreciate it, thanks!.

When asked on Radio Five Live earlier this week if the Gunners need to cash-in, he said: Yes. He doesn't want to be there.

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This is the second video for what to expect when registering with FEMA.

Step Two: Inspections

After you register, a FEMA-contracted inspector

may call you to set up an appointment to assess your damaged property.

Inspectors will never ask for bank account information,

and there is no cost for the inspection.

When FEMA inspectors arrive at a home, they will display official photo identification.

If the photo identification is not displayed, it is important to ask to see it.

Make sure your home or mailbox number is easily visible from the road.

As part of the inspection process, you must provide proof of ownership or occupancy.

Homeowners may show a tax bill,

mortgage payment receipt

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Renters may show a lease,

rent payment receipt,

utility bill

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at the time of the disaster.

Homeowners and renters must also present a valid driver's license or other photo ID.

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After registering for assistance, you will receive a letter

regarding your application status.

Some applicants may receive an SMS/text message.

The letter will explain the status of your application and how to respond.

It is important to read the letter carefully.

It is important to read and follow up with any correspondence from FEMA.

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to keep the application process moving.

You are also urged to keep your contact information updated with a current address and phone number

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DeLorean - Everything You Need to Know | Up to Speed - Duration: 9:51.

but it's such a crazy story that we have to tell it,

so buckle up baby, 'cause where we're going.

- We don't need roads.

- Most of America was introduced to it

in 1985's Back to the Future.

It was a car unlike anything else on the road

and for generations car fans and film buffs

looked for Doc's flying car to leave flames

instead of skid marks.

It's perhaps the most recognizable car ever made,

though it was only in production for barely two years.

It had gullwing doors, tiny windows,

and was built out of stainless (bleep) steel.

But its fame and desirability came three years too late

to save the company that made it,

created a name for a man who was perhaps too close

to the rock star that Marty McFly wanted to be,

but how many know the tale behind the stainless steel wedge,

about the maverick auto engineer

who built a car company, stamped his name on it,

and lost it in a whirlwind of jet setting excess

that culminated in a $6 million cocaine bust?

It's a story that so perfectly sums up the '80s.

You think Scorsese made it up, but he didn't.

This all happened.

This is everything you need to know

to get up to speed on the DeLorean DMC-12.

(retro video game music)

John Z. DeLorean was an automotive success story.

He began working for Chrysler will still in college,

learned his commitment to quality at Packard Motors,

and worked as an engineer at American Motor Company.

He then moved to General Motors,

where he rose through the ranks as a young designer.

DeLorean is credited for the birth

of the historic Pontiac GTO and the Firebird.

As the youngest head of Chevrolet,

he was tasked with rolling out

the much less iconic Chevy Vega.

To distract from its shortcomings,

DeLorean harnessed his reputation

as a jet setting auto exec hot shot

and stepped into the spotlight doing magazine interviews

and TV spots touting that the Vega could beat

any European car in handling an acceleration.

It couldn't.

But his claims drove the car's success

and helped garner Motor Trend's Car of the Year in 1971.

By 1972, John DeLorean's work ethic,

commitment to quality, braggadocio,

and, "Hey, (bleep) you, I know what I'm doin'," attitude,

made him the youngest vice president in GM history.

The public saw him as a six foot four American dreamboat.

He had cultivated a reputation

as the automotive industry's golden boy.

After a decade at GM, he had grown tired

of the politics between execs and designs

and emboldened by his new public image,

he left GM to build his dream car.

- (bleep) you, (bleep) you.

You're cool, and (bleep) you, I'm out.

- In 1973, he formed the DeLorean Motor Company,

and by 1976, DMC had his mitage and prototype

making the rounds to garner investment.

The private capital came from DMC Inc.

DeLorean himself put in no cash but owned over 80%

of the common stock in return for car development work

that he valued at $3.5 million.

Smart guy.

DeLorean went all Nick Fury

and put an all-star team together to build his car.

He tasked chassis design to Colin Chapman,

founder and owner of Lotus, and he designed the body

with Giorgetto Giugiaro of Italdesign.

They settled on a stainless steel car

with gullwing doors that was under 45 inches high

with about five inches of ground clearance.

To further the upfront cash flow,

DeLorean promised four gold-plated DMC-12s for $80,000 each.

Those all exist.

Also, I just wanna point out how badass this dude is

for making a gold car named after himself.

That's like me making a car and naming it the Pumphre 502.

502, shout out, Louisville area code.

That's where I was raised, baby.

For his legacy, DeLorean had to find new technology

to accommodate the groundbreaking design.

To make the doors lighter, only half the window rolled down

and they needed special struts designed by German aerospace.

For weight, the body had to be fiberglass

with stainless steel panels,

and they couldn't find an engine suitable

for the design, so they commissioned one.

This flying wedge would be powered

by the Peugeot-Renault-Volvo, PRV, 2.85 liter V6,

which produced around 130 horsepower.

- That sucks.

- Now we have an American company

in charge of an Italian designed car

in an Irish factory powered by a Franco-Swiss engine.

What could go wrong?

Turns out, everything.

John DeLorean was a risk taker who gambled on himself.

He toed the line between success and disaster

and he was about to find himself

in a perfect storm of bad luck and bad timing.

For starters, DeLorean was facing

allegations of drug trafficking.

Drug trafficking.

- I don't know what even that is.

- DMC's PR was doing a good job

dismissing the allegations, which we now know

looked more like rich guy buying coke in 1980.

Investment was still solid

and the cars began rolling off the line.

Unfortunately, the DeLorean DMC-12 was introduced

at the start of the largest slump

in the American auto industry since 1930,

and while the prototype was estimated to cost $10,000,

the production cars had to sell at $25,000 each.

That's in 1980s money.

That's $58,000 today.

Here's what he did right.

Design, handling, marketing,

cutting edge digital technology.

Here's what he did wrong.

Literally everything else.

First, to recoup debt, he rolled it out too soon

and it was plagued with bugs that probably

would've been worked out at a larger car company.

The innovative windshield embedded antenna didn't work,

so the high tech digital radio

would scan for stations continuously.

Also, the alternator didn't generate

enough current for the car's new tech.

The battery would discharge and strand drivers

wherever it died, and the engine produced 130 horsepower,

all for just 7,000 more dollars

than a fully loaded Corvette,

which hit 60 miles an hour almost two seconds faster.

I wanna remind you guys that we're talking about

probably the worst Corvette in history.

In 1982, teetering between bankruptcy and breakout success,

DeLorean outsourced development of a twin turbo version

of the PRV engine that proved quicker

than both a Ferrari 308 and a Porsche 928.

All they needed was a little more money

to get over the hump.

Talk of a public offering at $12 a share

would've brought 120 million into the company,

but it kept getting pushed as John DeLorean,

who, you know, knows best, sought instead

a partnership with a larger automotive company.

By January of '82, production was curtailed

to three days a week because of capital concern.

DeLorean is still riding on the reputation of his name,

and though he was just a phone call away

from a lucrative payday by going public,

he was searching for a way

to get an influx of private capital.

Had he made the call, who knows?

Maybe we'd all be driving DeLoreans now, but he waited,

and this is where the story of a stainless steel,

time traveling gullwing gets really, really (bleep) weird.

- You're gonna see some serious shit.

- Undaunted by reason, the feds put a plan in place.

In October of 1982, John DeLorean got a call

about an investment opportunity,

an offer that could save his business,

so naturally he hopped on a plane from New York to LA

and went to a meeting in an LAX hotel,

but it was a (bleep) sting.

The FBI set him up with more than 59 pounds of coke

with about $6.5 million in 1982 money,

and nabbed him leaving the hotel.

They allege that he tried to finance

a drug trafficking ring to turn 220 pounds of cocaine

into financing to save his company.

DeLorean wanted desperately to get back to his plant

in Ireland, but while he was on the plane,

the British government suddenly concerned

over his debt closed his Ireland plant.

What followed was a media firestorm, and two days later,

the FBI broadened its charges against Mr. DeLorean

to claim that he tried to import heroin from Thailand.

I mean, who hasn't?

Almost immediately after his arrest,

DeLorean Motor Company declared bankruptcy,

not making it through the month.

(bleep).

In 1984, a jury found John DeLorean innocent of all charges

and asserted that it was a clear cut case of entrapment,

but the damage was already done.

After his acquittal, DeLorean was asked when he planned

to return to the automotive industry.

His response?

"Would you buy a used car from me?"

- Step right up and get yourself

a brand new DeLorean, just $60,000.

- So how did a generation of car lovers

fall in love with what could've been

just a never rusty footnote in automotive history?

Everyone knows that time travel happens at 88 miles an hour

and if we're fact checking in the DeLorean DMC-12,

it would've taken a lot more than the Twin Pines parking lot

to get there, but Hollywood doesn't care about facts,

and neither did kids watching the silver screen.

But seeing it on the screen somehow made it even more real

than seeing it on the street ever could.

A DeLorean was never featured on Trapper Keeper folders

like the Contosh or Ferrari Testarossa.

It was on lunchboxes with flaming skid marks

and Michael J. Fox lifting his glasses to check his watch.

The company had folded, so for all intents and purposes,

the car didn't exist.

The DeLorean became whatever fiction we wanted it to be.

A blazing fast anomaly that left flames in its wake,

a purebred American motor car if we decided.

Seldom sought but sometimes spotted,

like a unicorn or automotive artistry.

DMC has long since folded but a generation

of car loving film fans kept their eyes peeled

on road trips for the time traveling DeLorean.

Everyone remembers the excitement of seeing one on the road.

I've seen five, and I remember all of 'em.

After summer break you'd get back to school

and tell everyone you saw the Back to the Future car

and they'd be all like, "You're a liar,"

and I'd be all like, "(bleep) you Mark, I saw it.

"You're the liar."

Now, let's get back to the future.

In July 2007, DMC Texas announced

that the car would be returning

in a very limited production, about 20 cars a year.

Taking old chassis, they rebuilt new stainless steel panels

to churn out mint refurbished time machines.

The new cars are made with 80% original parts,

so the term return to production,

while welcome, is a bit of a stretch.

In 2009, the price of a refurbished DeLorean

from DMC Texas started at like, 57 grand.

That's not bad.

In 2015, the Low Volume Vehicle Manufacturing Act

was signed into law and DMC Texas announced

they would be producing replica DeLoreans

with an expected release date of 2017.

Clock's tickin', fellas.

According to their web site,

the company's official statement is,

"A number of hurdles exist before production can begin,"

something their founder, John DeLorean learned the hard way.

This is everything you need to know

to get up to speed on the DMC DeLorean 12.

If you had $60,000, would you spend it on a DeLorean?

How many times have you seen Back to the Future?

What's your favorite Back to the Future?

Mine is two.

Is it totally creepy that I'm not bothered

that Marty kissed his mom?

(bleep) you, Dad, I kiss my mom all the time.

What other cars do you wanna see us cover?

What did we miss in this video?

What did you like about this video?

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8 Things To Expect When You Break Up With A Narcissist (A Relationship Specialist Explains) - Duration: 14:04.

8 Things To Expect When You Break Up With A Narcissist (A Relationship Specialist Explains)

Ending a relationship with a narcissist is incredibly difficult, for many reasons.

Your loyalty, compassion, and desire to be true to your promises make it hard for you to consider leaving the

relationship.

The narcissist can also make it hard for you to leave because he wants to be in control of the decision to end the

relationship.

As long as keeping the relationship is the most important factor to you,

the narcissist has free rein to dominate you and your decisions.

Caretakers are most likely to leave when the narcissist crosses a line that they finally can't or won't tolerate.

But over the years, I have found it hard to predict when a caretaker will leave.

The client whose narcissistic husband suffered a stroke and became physically abusive didn't leave.

But the client whose husband moved his pregnant girlfriend into the spare bedroom,

saying she was an old friend from college down on her luck, did file for divorce.

Caretaking men seem less likely to leave than women, perhaps because of the extra burden of responsibility that men

culturally feel to take care of women.

When caretakers do leave, they find it is difficult to stick with their decision due to feelings of guilt or pity for

the narcissist.

And if the narcissist doesn't want you to leave, (s)he'll keep pressuring you to change your mind,

often with those same old promises to change.

The narcissist can make your life extremely arduous in order to keep control of you and the relationship.

Will the narcissist ever be the one to leave?

Sometimes a triggering event will motivate the narcissist to leave.

These are usually life-altering events for one of you.

If you become ill or incapacitated or unable or unwilling to participate in the life the narcissist has designed,

that may prompt the narcissist to leave.

Even a positive event, such as having a child, can upset the delicate balance of the relationship,

especially if it requires the narcissist to be more responsible and emotionally involved.

Illnesses, aging, and job losses or promotions can act as triggers for the narcissist to suddenly abandon the

relationship.

Regardless of who makes the first move to leave, here's what you can expect at the end of a relationship with a

narcissist:

1.

Blame

When things don't work out, the narcissist puts the blame entirely on someone else.

You were on a pedestal at the beginning of the relationship.

You were wonderful and perfect, and the narcissist was thrilled to have "won" you as a mate.

Now that the narcissist sees the relationship as broken, damaged, and ending—and it's all your fault.

(S)he says you're too fat or too needy or too happy.

You have wrecked things, destroyed the trust, ruined the best thing you ever had, crushed his love.

You're unappreciative of all he has done for you.

You would be nothing without him/her.

You have single-handedly destroyed all the two of you have built.

You're selfish and demanding.

Overnight you have become the most despised person in the narcissist's life.

Obviously that is shocking, hurtful, insulting, and thoroughly unfair and wrong.

When the narcissist reaches this point, (s)he will no longer listen to you or give you any consideration and may no

longer be willing to even speak to you.

If you apologize profusely enough and beg for reconciliation, you may get back together for a while,

but things between the two of you will probably never be good again.

2.

Attempts to convince you you've made a mistake

After months or years of being told you're wrong and having your decisions devalued by the narcissist,

you are probably prone to second-guessing yourself.

And the narcissist will certainly try to convince you that you've made a mistake.

(S)he tries charisma, coaxing, persuasion, and then intimidation, goading,

and outright provocation to get back in control of the relationship.

The narcissist will say, "You just misinterpreted what I said.

Of course, you should know that deep down I love you; why do I have to say it all the time?

What about all the good times we've had together?

You look at the negative too much.

You don't understand the stress I've been under lately.

You take things too personally.

You're overreacting.

You're too emotional."

Although the narcissist tries to sound positive about the relationship and why you shouldn't leave,

you'll notice that all these "reasons" are actually negative remarks about you and what is wrong with what you're doing.

These are not real encouragements to stay in the relationship; they are actually manipulations to lower your

self-esteem so you won't leave.

If the coaxing and persuasion don't work, the narcissist can bring out the especially negative evaluations to trigger

your sore spots and make you feel bad about yourself: "You were nothing before you married me.

Go back to that stupid family of yours and rot.

You'll be sorry when I'm out in California and making loads of money.

I can find somebody who will really love me and always put me first."

If the narcissist still needs you, (s)he won't want you upsetting their plans.

Your leaving gives you more emotional strength and power in the relationship by moving you further out of the

narcissist's control, and (s)he doesn't want that to happen.

3.

Attempts to guilt-trip you into staying

Guilt is a powerful tool for the narcissist to pull you back into the relationship.

The narcissist brings up every time he has done something nice for you, or stresses how much he cares about you,

or reminds you of the wonderful times you've had together.

If the positives don't work to bring you back, narcissists default to their devaluing attacks.

Any complaint you have made about the narcissist will be turned around on you.

Narcissists consistently blame their partners for behaviors they are actually exhibiting in that very moment—screaming,

name-calling, hostility, selfishness, hatred, and passive-aggressiveness, to name a few.

Being told you are selfish, unkind, cruel, greedy, stingy, or hurting someone's feelings can be especially painful to a

caretaker.

You work so hard to never do or be those things and almost never even have those kinds of feelings,

so you feel deeply wronged.

These comments are such a clear indication that the narcissist doesn't know you or see you for who you are,

and that can be heartbreaking.

These kinds of accusations also increase your feelings of guilt, so you're more likely to redouble your efforts to

prove to the narcissist that you're not that kind of person.

That's just what the narcissist wants, because it reengages you in the relationship.

Once the narcissist has goaded you into reacting, (s)he can keep you feeling powerless, guilty,

and participating in the relationship until (s)he's ready to end it.

4.

Demands for attention, even after you've broken up

It is easier to leave a narcissist if you cut off as much contact as possible.

However, narcissists can be extremely persistent in grabbing your attention.

Clients have reported many types of attention-getting behaviors from narcissists who feel rejected, for example:

drunk calling in the middle of the night, "accidentally" breaking into your house to get their belongings,

hundreds of texts or emails in a day, constant pleas for you to "explain" why you want to leave—all of which lead to

the narcissist's denouncing you for being so negative.

If you have children together, these pleas for attention can go on and on.

One client was so anxious from all the pressure that she actually lost her voice when she saw her former husband.

He was so determined to get her attention that he even pressured the court to "order" her to speak to him in public

"for the sake of the children." Of course it was actually for the sake of his own egotistical need to be acknowledged.

5.

Promises to change

If persuasion, guilt, and attention-getting behaviors don't pull you back into the relationship,

the narcissist pulls out the promise to change.

Suddenly the narcissist says (s)he understands why you are upset and ready to leave.

(S)he appears to be taking responsibility for his/her behaviors.

(S)he promises to go to therapy, do everything you ask, do things your way.

(S)he is so, so sorry to have hurt you.

This is a tempting appeal for a caretaker who truly wants the relationship to work.

Now it seems that the narcissist finally understands what you've been saying and is ready to make things right.

(S)he seems genuinely sincere.

You breathe a sigh of relief and hope builds in you again.

Inevitably this hope disintegrates.

Narcissists can't stop trying to control you, and they can't seem to control their own behaviors for any length of time.

For a while, you think things are getting better.

However, when the narcissist gets comfortable in the relationship again, (s)he'll go back to being self-absorbed,

inconsiderate, arrogant, insensitive, and blaming.

And invariably if things don't go his/her way, (s)he's instantly back to the same defensive and antagonistic patterns.

How many times you're willing to believe the narcissist's false promises is up to you.

6.

Social attacks and gossip

It is hard to keep the end of your relationship with a narcissist out of the public eye,

because the narcissist demands that everyone you know choose sides.

As soon as possible (s)he will tell your friends, neighbors, church members,

and club acquaintances in person and on social media his/her version of the story of your breakup.

That is very distressful for most caretakers.

During your entire relationship, the narcissist insisted on extreme privacy about your interactions together,

and now (s)he is spreading all kinds of misinformation and slander and trying to ruin your good name.

Too often caretakers continue to keep their promises not to talk about the relationship,

which means the narcissist's lies stand without challenge.

Gossip is a manipulative tactic designed to make you the bad guy and to garner the narcissist as much sympathy as

possible.

It can also work effectively to reengage you with him and bring you under control.

7.

Stalking

Although stalking is usually not blatant or threatening by narcissists,

it is not uncommon for narcissists to fortuitously be at the grocery store when you are,

to suddenly appear at a community or social event you attend, or change their running schedule so they go down your

street every morning.

Be prepared ahead of time that these unexpected meetings might occur.

They're designed to keep you aware of the narcissist's presence and emotionally off balance.

8.

Neediness

Narcissists appear to be strong and independent, but they are actually extremely needy.

You may find it hard to let go of taking care of the narcissist.

You may get calls to come fix her car, or he may still expect you to keep doing the accounting for his business,

or she wants you to take down the Christmas lights on her house, or he expects you to still make his dentist

appointments.

It can be exhausting and difficult for you to say no to these persistent requests.

Too often you get pulled back into interactions with the narcissist that really don't benefit you.

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