About 35 years ago I got obsessed with a simple question what makes the
difference in the quality of people's life what makes some people leaders and
other people followers what makes most people talk about a dream and never
follow through and other people just a small percentage kick ass take names
you can throw any obstacle and they find a way to break through what's the
difference and when I first grew up I grew up very poor financially I grew up
in a very tough environment when I met my fourth father I said mom I'm confused
I was confused cuz I always loved people loved people just my nature but when I
was in high school I was not the most popular kid in school in fact the most
popular in school treated me like how he was so vicious and mean I thought what
what things that I popular so it made me obsessed to want to know why people's
lives turned out so differently and my first answer growing up poor with no
great role models was well some people are just lucky they grew up in a family
where everybody loves each other and they stay together you know some people
are lucky they were up in a family and everybody's educated and so they work
hard to educate their kids or some people are lucky they grow up in a
family with lots of money so they have resources to travel and learn and expand
and do whatever they want and as much as I wanted to believe that story that some
people are just lucky that they had a better family when you pay attention
even slightly honest with yourself that story doesn't hold out does it because
when you look around on what happens to people that we're truly given everything
and they don't have to work for it what happens to the person who's born and
they got total love and support from their family they have total financial
abundance didn't have to worry about it whatsoever they got all the great
education what happens the majority of those not all but the majority of those
people don't build any muscle they're not hungry because everything was given
to them so they don't have any hunger that could give them Drive which if you
asked me Tony what's the single most important key to success above anything
else it's not talent it's not skill it's hunger
if you get enough hunger going in you for an answer you'll find the answer
if you get a hunger enough inside of you that says I gotta take things to the
next level I got achieve I gotta make a difference
I got expand you will find the answer people's intelligence will expand if
they got enough hunger but if you got everything and you're not hungry
you're not gonna have much look at the pathetic people you read about in the
rag newspapers who are giving everything and as a result what do you find out the
majority people are giving everything you find them living in rehab they begin
everything else they're going in and out of rehab for drugs or alcohol or
something else and then you find these people that wife seems to have stepped
on you're the kind of people I'm talking about my life has kicked them in the
face they've experienced tremendous injustice
nothing has been fair to them they've been abused mentally emotionally
sexually spiritually whatever and very often those are the very people that
most of us are inspired by who achieve levels that most people never dream
about and in touch Society for example what would you guess would be the future
for a child if I described their background because most people think
biography is destiny what you've been through determines who you are and most
of us if we're not succeeding can tell everybody the stories of why we're in
that place but it's much more fun to tell people where you are today in spite
of what happened in your life that's a much more interesting story isn't it but
if you look around what if a personal story is this true story and persons
born and their father's not there as a baby their father left before they got
there their mother is gonna raise them and their mother's 13 a child being
raised by a child if that's all I told you what would you predict the future
this child would be good real positive uplifting expansive powerful influential
or concerning concerning what if I said this 13 year old mother didn't know what
to do with his baby he was overwhelmed so she gave the baby most of the time to
her grandma who had lots to deal with and what if I told you with Grandma not
noticing before this child was 13 she was sexually abused more than three
times by different people in family and friends now a little baby being abused
the child being abused what's the future that look too bright does it
what have I told you at 13 when the baby turned 13 this baby became exactly like
her mother and became pregnant as well followed exactly in her mother's
footsteps what if I told you at 13 when the baby arrived the baby was stillborn
the baby died at birth what would that do to an adult's mom having a baby much
less a thirteen-year-old child what have I told you the kid went a little crazy
with her behavior got so outrageous and out of control they put her in an
institution but fortunately the institution didn't have enough beds so
they couldn't keep her there more than a few days and they finally released her
to a man who claimed to be her father cuz she's not mad by now I'm sure you
figured out whose story this is who is it this is Oprah Winfrey story Oprah
Winfrey went through all that we just said plus she was african-american at a
time in the US when the president States was not African American and when many
people in the u.s. did not judge people by their character they judge them by
their color based on nothing whatsoever this woman's becoming the most
influential people in the world females on the planet and that's her story so
the reason is whatever story you're being told about the economy whatever
story you're being told around you you have to be so aware not to buy until a
limiting story either someone else telling you that are you telling
yourself that and I'll tell you something it's gotten worse as the years
gone by and I think the US has been the leader in and I'm not attacking my
country is just it's interesting what's happened in my country in the last two
decades some of you may be old enough to remember 20 years ago when things
started to change because America likes to export their stories so I think many
of you if you're around them can remember there was a story of two young
men who killed their parents in Los Angeles
their names were the Menendez brothers does anybody remember that story the
Menendez brothers keeping hands up so I can see a sense yeah quite a few of you
can remember the story if you didn't know the story it's about these two
young men they kill their parents their mother and father at point-blank range
with a shotgun murder them in cold blood but when they went to a jury trial the
jury couldn't decide they admitted they did it they admitted it but they said by
our parents were abusive and so the jury literally was deadlocked it took
to jury trials to convict them now all because they were abused so many people
abused they don't kill the parents with shotguns right see if you're not gonna
be successful we're never gonna get it by blaming somebody else including God
people say I'm poor cos god I wanna be poor I'm fat cos guy got me fat no
you're poor in fact cuz you sit on the couch and watch TV and eat Cheetos all
day it's not God's fault so what I'm suggesting to you and I have to come up
with a better story a story that can make things works and I want you to tell
me the truth on something here tell me right now who here in this room has ever
failed to accomplish something that really mattered to you we all know we
failed at some point the first time I ever asked this question on stage was
spontaneous I was at this group called tad Technology Entertainment and design
and I asked everybody in the audience because they're all multi-billionaires
the guys that started yahoo the guys that started Google this really unique
group of people and then there's darkness and they weren't responding
slice let me ask you a question how many of you ever failed no one raised their
hand I said thank you for your full participation however you've ever failed
they all raised their hand I said great when you failed in the past why did you
fail and this is where you hear people's story remember why I'm telling you this
because I want to tell you right now you might write down something change your
story change your life we all have a story about why we are where we are if
you're not where you want to be in your life in some area like maybe your body's
great but your finances aren't or your finance is great but your relationship
sucks or doesn't or whatever the bottom line is you've got a story why it's that
way and the story we tell ourselves protects us from pain it gives us a
reason why it's not our fault or it's going to be okay in the future but the
story that protects you also imprisoned you it keeps you from changing your life
so in order to create a change in your life you really truly got to change your
story you got to shift your story you got to
find a story that's going to empower you a story that's going to strengthen you a
story that will push you beyond anything you've ever done in the past so the
story most people have and that they had at this TED piece was I said why have
you failed in the past didn't have the money didn't have enough time didn't
have the right resources didn't know the right people didn't have the right
contacts didn't have the technology some people said we had we had a lousy
leader the leader said I had lousy people isn't this stuff if people tell
you and then in the darkness herethis voice say I didn't have enough Supreme
Court justices and I looked into the dark room down there in the front row
and it's Vice President Al Gore who lost the George Bush and the whole crowd I
was in Northern California it was a democratic crowd so they all stood up
and cheered like crazy and when they're done cheering I just stood there and I
said that's one way to explain why you didn't compress the United States you
didn't have enough Supreme Court justices but I might suggest there might
be a different reason and everybody was like quiet going what's he gonna say and
I said let's look at everybody else first
those who told me you don't have the money you don't have the time you know
the education and the right people didn't have the right skills then have
the right technology the other right Supreme Court justices or enough of them
I would submit to you you've all told me the reason you failed is you didn't have
the resources time is a resource money is a resource technology is a resource
knowing the right people is a resource and I said to the audience here's my
experience working with the most successful people on the face of the
planet athletes presidents night state's
multi-billionaires here's what I know from them resources are never the real
problem a lack of resourcefulness is the real problem I'll say it again lacking
the resources is not the problem lacking resourcefulness is the real problem what
I mean by that is very simple the ultimate resource is human emotion what
starts Wars is it logic hell no it's emotion what makes you get married or
get divorced it's emotion what will make you stay up all night work to build your
business emotion won't make you give up emotion if you don't master your emotion
if you don't become resourceful then you're gonna think the problem is
resources because I'm here to tell you every great person I know didn't have
the resources but they got them because they're resourceful and what that means
is if you're creative enough creativity is an emotional resource can you find an
answer to the problem yes or no if you're determined
enough can you find the money that you don't have can you find it yes or no if
you care enough and get other people to care with you can you get them to help
you yes or no if you are bold enough if you're strong enough if you're
disciplined enough can you get yourself to do things other people cannot find a
way to do yes or now see the ultimate resources resourcefulness and I tell you
that my friends because I grew up with no resources but I became very
resourceful that's why I have the privilege to be with you today and I
said sir you mr. vice president I watched you speak last night and the
previous night he spoken to this who's who crowd and he had spoken on the
Inconvenient Truth and there's the first time you did that speech that they made
into a movie and he was so passionate and you never saw him passionate but he
was passionate he grabbed everybody people like some people didn't like him
I said listen let me tell you something you said you didn't have enough Supreme
Court justices here's the truth I watch the debate with you and Bush I wanted to
vote for you but I couldn't there wasn't any energy there was just he go there I
said I watched those debates I said if the guy that was up here last night was
the guy in those debates you wouldn't need the Supreme Court justices and the
whole crowd went berserk they started clapping standing ovations
and he came over give me a high five and said you're right and we begin good
friends out of it and people came to me afterwards the guys from kleiner perkins
multi-billionaires they took me to dinner they go we've all been thinking
that no one would ever say that how could you say that publicly it's because
it's the true think'll yeah but no one said it and guess what the truth is I
don't care where you are today I don't care if you're totally broke and getting
here was a huge stretch for you if you can find the hunger inside of you and
you can remember I don't need resources I need
resourcefulness that'll get me the resources then anything you dream about
you can make real but the minute you forget that you come up with a story
there goes I know the money and all the time I can't do it it's too far away
that's what's gonna kill you change your story change your life and we all have a
story because we're afraid all of us to fail we're afraid to not look good we're
afraid to be disappointed we're afraid to get our hopes up but the own
way that you get courage courage means you're afraid but you do it anyway it's
not courage if you're not scared and so there's gonna be people talking here
let's see days or today there they're gonna give you some great strategies
whether you do it or not is not gonna be based on your ability
what you're capable of is amazing what most people will do is disappoint it it
has nothing to do with the content of what needs to be done it's everything to
do with the mastery of your own States so here's what I believe my passion is
not just get up and talk my passions get people to rewire themselves so how many
of you came here not just for information how many came here for some
breakthroughs a breakthrough means a new quality of life or things that were
impossible possible who's with me on this AI so let me give you three keys to
a breakthrough any one of these three can give you a breakthrough but if you
do all three of these you're gonna have an extraordinary breakthrough so let's
start with something so simplistic that none of us would be emotionally attached
to it and we all know it's true and that's let's take a symbol in society
all over the Western world including Australian you guys are a bit better
than America but not by a whole lot what's happened to societies Western
societies in terms of their health and fitness now I don't know the current
numbers here in Australia but I'll tell you how bad it is in the US I know
you're a slightly better than this one third of Americans are obese now one
third literally 60% of Americans are overweight now I want to ask you a
question is that because the strategies required to losing weight are so complex
that it's just completely overwhelming is that why yes or no no however if you
have the wrong strategy you're guaranteed failure even if you're
motivated and driven and excited is that fair to say like I can remember a few
years ago when on the cover of Time magazine was a guy called the Atkins
diet and it said I don't never the exact number I think it was 13% of Americans
the largest number ever were all on this diet now if you knew anybody was on the
Atkins diet of course you'd lose weight first the number of calories who came
down but second of all you ate such an acidic diet that you literally had a
pee on a stick so you wouldn't go into acidosis then if you ever smelled the
breath of someone on that diet you wanted to stay as far away as you
humanly could be now that's not too hard to figure out but if I got a pianist fix
I don't go into acidosis and my breath is this bad this may not be a
sustainable approach to losing weight but everybody did it so if you have the
wrong strategy it's not going to work so let me give you three things in reverse
order of importance okay reverse order least important first if you want to
break through one things to give you breakthrough as a strategy a new
strategy could change everything does that make sense a new way to do
something if you come up with the right strategy could save you a decade it
could save you five years and one reason to come to a seminar like this in my
opinion is to gather up as many strategies as you can and what I want to
do in just this short little time I have with you you see if I can give you some
strategies that'll give you breakthroughs and whatever you want to
go after some real quick strategies that really work what is a strategy it's a
specific way to do something then if you do it that way you get the result every
time a sustainable strategy like a recipe if you know someone's recipe and
they took 25 years to figure how to make the perfect chocolate cake and you're
not a baker but you got their strategy you got their recipe how often can you
get the same quality chocolate cake if you follow their recipe if you follow
the strategy how often will it work how many times every single time that's the
beauty of strategy so there's gonna be a lot of strategies available to you here
during this course I'd be listening find the strategies that appeal to you most
but I'd submit something to you my friends I'm a strategist I'm a business
and life strategies I'm always finding a little thing that'll change it all I'm
obsessed by it and I filled up my events with them but I know something about
strategies you can give someone the perfect strategy and they can still not
do it they can even know it's the right strategy and still not fall through
that's why the problem in our society is not a lack of strategies if I said to
you right now okay we got to lose weight and we're in downtown Brisbane and we
were to walk ten blocks how many places would we pass within ten
blocks that can help you to lose weight for example or get fit or get strong how
many in fact you don't even have to get about this building to learn how to lose
weight because today God forbid you really
you can just pull out your iPhone or your iPad or whatever phone you have and
you could download ten books right now that you'll never read right on how to
do it maybe you'll start reading the first one then you'll get a little
tattoo hole what's the text saying you won't read the rest of the chapter
how many trainers are there in the Brisbane area that could get you fit and
strong are there plenty yes or no so is it a strategy problem do you think no so
don't get me wrong I believe strategy is invaluable but strategy without the next
two is basically worthless in my experience you know what to do but you
don't do what you know but the right strategy versus the wrong strategy is
critical and once you make a note of this really important you have to do the
right thing at the right time I'll give you an example my country buying a house
right thing to do in my country 2007 wrong time if you bought a house in the
United States in 2007 right now you're upside down anywhere from 30 to 70
percent 70 in places like Las Vegas they're down 70 percent I have a friend
there a 10 million dollar home just sold for 3 million bucks that's why my
friends I'm a student of Seasons that's why you have to understand become so
incredibly bright and aware as to what's really going on so when someone tells
you the strategy you go is that really right now because they'll show you a
strategy that worked the question is is it working now you want someone who's
done it and is doing it people go all the time and they go see someone let's
say you know let's say a really nice stockbroker who then tells them what to
do their finances but you got more money than he does that ought to be a clue
he's not the person to talk to people go to psychiatrists all the time that are
taking antidepressants for their depression and they wonder why they
don't get better I mean we're weird this way I'm telling
if you're going to get a strategy you better get somebody who's doing it
summers getting results now strategy is it critically important even though I
beat up on it is it still a huge advantage with the right strategy yes or
no so what's the second thing the second element though that affects
what are you gonna use the strategy not is the story you tell yourself does that
make sense because if your story is I'm big-boned or I've tried what I've tried
what everything if you tried everything you'd have the answer right but when
people say I've tried everything what does that do it makes your brain go see
I've tried everything there's no reason to try anymore it's not my fault I'm
just big-boned I just have low metabolism right it's just I've always
been this way and by the way people's stories are often true but they're not
effective it may be true that you have low metabolism it may be true that
you're big-boned but that's not why you're fat it's cuz you're doing nothing
to change your metabolism make sense or I don't have a relationship with a great
man a great woman because all the good ones are gone or they're gay and I'm not
or I'm gay and they're not something of that nature right isn't that a common
story people tell themselves and what does the story do it kills your hunger
it kills your drive it gives you a reason not to face the discomfort we've
all lived in a society that has trained distance we're this tall now most of you
by the time you're 21 saw two million commercials and how to instantly get out
of pain instantly out of pain you know the problem is getting out of pain is it
takes away the purpose of Drive how many of you know somebody who takes
antidepressants right now and they're still depressed that's because they have
the same story even though they change their biochemistry the same story brings
them to that lousy place if your story is I don't have the resources that story
is gonna kill your future if your story is I get any resource I want if I find a
way to add enough what value to other people's lives then you can get the
resources it's so amazing I don't know because the Australian other one places
ago I know there's a few but how many of you in this room ski or snowboard the
skiing or snowboarding if you take up the sport and you get on a really
vicious Hill what they call a Black Diamond Hill there's edges where if you
don't stop you go to the edge and you'll die and what happens is when you're
brand new and you're starting to skid out of control most people slam themself
on the ground trying to hang on the hill for dear life
and those are the people that will never master skiing or snowboarding because
they let their fear of the edge push them down the person that goes I'm gonna
dig in I'm gonna work even harder I'm gonna carve it's scary as hell but I'm
gonna stay with it they learn to carve those the people
that have skiing or snowboarding be something they love for the rest of
their life your story is everything my friends and by the way I'm not lecturing
you I'm sharing with you because I've learned by my own stupidity that's the
only reason I can share this but you change that story you'll change your
life give up the story that limits you it may even be true you may have a Dede
you may have been abused as a child it may be true but that story is not why
you don't have great relationships or a great business now you know if great
relationship great business now because you're so afraid of trying and failing
you keep telling that story instead of taking action third key the most
important key because by the way if you come to somebody to go well I'm big
boney goes that's just your story they're gonna I'll show you story I'll
beat you to a pulp we have to do this to ourselves but if you are gonna help
someone change including yourself you need the third elements the most
important element and that is you need the right state state or Australians
called sight it's fine if you're gonna have the rights fight
then what you have to understand is your sight determines how you think and feel
right how many of you in this room can number a time when you got really angry
at somebody Jimmy knows when you're really angry at somebody suddenly
remember everything they've ever done because when you go in there angry
States it makes you take the parts of your brain that relate to a story that
supports that state on the opposite how many of you in this room commit more
time in your life when you fell head over heels in love with someone out of
your mind how many commemorat I my dad say I it's been a long time for some of
you is that all of you make the sound of
head over heels in love go on make the sound is that short-lived for you let's
try this everybody so head over heels in love you couldn't stop thinking about
the person you want to make love to them every moment you're just dreaming of
them you felt them wanting you you wanted them you're out of your mind make
that sound what does that sound like go ahead much better much better see in the
beginning of a relationship when you love somebody what will you do for them
when you love somebody what will you do anything if they say would you take out
the trash you go take out the trash
right but after seven weeks seven months or seven years or 70 years somewhere in
that range something clicks different in you and they go could you take out the
trash you go what do I look like your janitor I mean I don't know what it is
we used to have so much passion where to go I'll give you a clue write this down
if you do what you did in the beginning of the relationship in the end of the
relationship there won't be an end if you do what you did in the beginning of
the relationship in the end of the relationship then there won't be an end
how long have you two been together a year 20 years from now there'll be no
worries for you two he's got his arm around her they're snuggling they're
connected during the middle seminar learning and they're totally connected
duly you did in the beginning a relationship at the end of the
relationship there won't be in it it's so simple that's the difference in state
isn't it because when you go in a different state you come up with a
different story about your partner and then use different strategies that
aren't very good if you're in a great state great story great strategies you
tend to maximize is this helpful so tell me which one of the three here do you
think is the one that can screw things up the fastest and can mess things up
the most which one of these three tell me
story is the one that will sustain the problem the one that can change
everything the fastest is the state the strategies useful don't get me wrong I
live for I mean I I can tell you some strategies in business I've taken
companies I buy them for next to nothing and turn them around make millions of
dollars just using a couple of little strategies some of you'll come to my
business mastery program you'll see I tell people on day one of my business
mastery you come if today the first day is not worth a minimum of a million
dollars to you day one million dollars minimum but I'll give you all your money
back plus your kids keep everything got on a day one only for any program my
clients are like multi-billion dollar companies we've helped turn around home
acts the largest home builder to give you an idea in Mexico they credit us in
the last two years to seven hundred and fifty million dollars of increases from
what I did with him that's their words not mine or taking a chiropractors got
three people and doubled as businesses in six months I've done that with
strategies simple business strategies where if you don't know the strategy
ignorance is not bliss ignorance is poverty ignorance is pain and the way I
got those strategies is I willing to fly anywhere do anything spend any amount of
money because I knew the value of the strategy but all that still would have
been worthless if I didn't apply it what got me to apply it was the right story
in the right State if you want to change your story first thing you do is change
your state does this make sense yes or no so now let's take a look at you and
what you want if you and I want to say why do people's lives turn out
differently than other people we can come up with one word and I'll show you
where it is decisions right down decisions not conditions determine my
destiny decisions not conditions determine my destiny
if you look at your life and you look back on it over the last 10 or 15 years
I'd be willing to bet there have been some decisions that if you would have
made a different decision your life would be radically different today your
relationships or your income or your happiness or your body weight
everybody's got a story about how the condition affected them but I can take
you to people that went through the same conditions and one person comes back
from war and they killed himself or other people and somebody else comes
back and they spend all their line working for peace I can find two people
who are abused as a child one of them lives totally inside themself feeling
sorry for themselves the other one becomes somebody has an
incredibly passionate relationship because they're never gonna let anybody
hurt who they love same conditions different decisions so
when the economy that you're going through right now it doesn't matter what
the season of your economy is what matters is the decisions you're gonna
make and let me give you the three decisions you're making every moment
you're alive including in this moment and you see if it's true or not first
decision you're making right now in this moment every moment of your life is what
the focus on what to focus on totally affects your life think about it
whatever you focus on you're gonna feel even if it's not true if you're focusing
on oh my god you know the economy's gonna go to hell when you focus on like
that you're gonna feel like hell and your decisions are gonna be hang on to
what you got if you're focusing on everybody scared to death this is a
perfect time for me to find an ultimate advantage because during times of
maximum pessimism is when you can do the best if that's your focus you're going
to find a different set of opportunities focus equals feeling focus equals
Direction focus shapes everything what's the problem most of us don't control our
focus we let the world around us do it don't we if you're gonna turn on the
television set tell me something what does the news always try to do to get
our attention tell us what's rosy and beautiful and
magnificent now or find something that will jolt us which one show us in the
old days today the news is in your pocket right it comes to you through
your Twitter feed it comes to you life being fed to you know for example by
text to my friends however the news follows us but to get our attention the
world wherever one's fighting for our attention they're
looking for a story to jolt you in the old days before you had news in your
pocket you walked by a newspaper stand and if it said something like headline
it's offset great weather this weekend what did you do smiles that's cool did
you buy the paper all right I buy the paper great weather I know what I need
to know but if the headline says big storm coming what happened
boom some money when that sucker you pulled out you need to know more so the
news is so competitive today 24/7 there's not enough news they've got to
constantly play this game so if you don't take control of your focus the
world will do it for you if you want to feel good about something what kind of
news what if there was a movie you went to the movie and here's the beginning of
the movie the main protagonist the main character it's cool having a great time
physically healthy strong happy great family great finances great everything
that's how it starts Kay second part of the movie it's still good third part of
the movie phenomenal and the movie everything's cool who's gonna go to that
movie what are we gonna say that movie is the most boring what movie on the
planet so you and I if we don't take control of our own focus we let the
environment do it for us because they're always looking to get your attention
filming levar your child could die by drinking the natural water here coming
out of this area and when you get to the story it's never quite the story but
they use that headline to get you there are headlines in your own life too
though aren't there headlines we use on ourselves if you want to change your
life change your focus I'll give you three examples real quick everyone has a
pattern of focus not what you focus on in the moment that affects you it's what
you focus on regularly so for example do you tend to focus personally you on what
you can control or what you can't control those of you focus on what you
can control tend to feel more in charge of life those that focus on what you
can't control by the way is there plenty of stuff we can't control in this world
yes or no puns and if you focus on it you will be depressed depressed people
constantly focus on what they can't control second it doesn't matter what
drugs you take if you keep focusing what you can't control your gonna get
depressed if we add two more here's another pattern if you tend to
focus on what you have or what's missing in your life the
tendency today is what's missing and sometimes we make up what's missing if
you focus on what you have when you focus on what you're grateful for how
does your life feel when you start thinking oh my God look at how I'm
living I mean the worst Australian person who's having the worst toughest
time is having a better time than ninety percent I should say more like eighty
percent of the planet because about 80 percent the planet lives on $2 a day
most of us our worst nightmare is somebody else the world's greatest dream
but if we don't focus on what we have we focus what we're missing
you're gonna feel like don't get me wrong sometimes looks at what you're
missing will give you some Drive cool but just got to balance it out people
are depressed always focus on what they can't control always focus on what's
missing and here's the third one they have third one and by the way most of
you have one of these maybe two not all three if you have all three I know you
get depressed pretty easily okay third one can tend to focus on the future the
present or the past now we all do all three right but which one do you tend to
put more focus on the future the president of the past what is for you
just say it out loud quit now in this room you hear a lot of the future but to
my country is called future and most of you came here because you're interested
in the future aren't you is that why you came here that gives you an advantage
doesn't it because most people tend to look at the past
if you focus in the past since you can't control it it's gonna probably many
times lower your energy or even depress you
if you focus on the present you'll probably be happier because the present
moments got more to it a great business person looks at the future and the
present back and forth a great happy human being tends to live in the present
a merciful human being tends to live in the past now there's some exceptions if
your past is the best part of your life you might want to spend more time there
but the problem is if you're trying to drive yourself into the future and
you're using a rearview mirror called the past what's gonna happen my friends
tell me what's gonna happen you're gonna crash you're not gonna Barbara you're
gonna crash make sense so these are just three I could give you so many more and
if you psyche them to seminar we're just gonna tell you this we're gonna work on
it but I want at least make you aware of it
so if you catch yourself focusing on what you can't control okay of course I
can't control this but this is what I am in charge of this is what I can control
I'm since that may be true but here's what I
do have that will shift your state which is going to allow you to come up with a
better what story which is going to get you to possibly be able to use a better
strategy here's the second decision you're making right now as you're
sitting here second decision as soon as you focus on something you never have to
give it a meaning what does this mean what does this mean so for example is
this problem in your life a problem is it God punishing you would it feel
different if you said I have a problem versus God's punishing me
or is it a challenge or what if it was a gift what if this problem was truly a
gift would it change how you felt the state you're in the strategy you would
find versus if you thought this was a curse you better believe it in every
moment we're making decisions once we focus on something on what it means
were you just humiliating me were you teasing me who are you challenging me do
whichever one you come up with is gonna change a very different relationship
between you and I and it's all what you make up and you're had the meaning you
give it is this the end or the beginning if you think this is the end of a
relationship are you gonna treat the person the same ways if you think it's
the beginning of a relationship yes or now if you think this is the end of your
career the end of opportunities to invest versus the beginning of them then
your whole experience is different if your economy really would have taken a
huge explosion and take a huge drop down it would be one of the greatest
opportunities of your life the fact that it's no longer growing geometrically is
an advantage to you if you understand that because by the way things you make
more money when things burned down than when they grow because they burned down
faster takes years to build the towers in New York burn them down in a couple
of hours and if you're smart you can know how to do well no matter what the
economy is doing that's really the skill set you got a master but none of that
will you get to unless you can come up with an empowering meaning from the
situation that's what makes somebody successful what makes Oprah Oprah and
she focused on what she could control Oprah focused on what was possible what
was in the future and how she could do something right now to make it happen
Oprah mastered meaning she didn't say I'm african-american I'm poor and I'm
broke and had no resources she goes I'm a Tower of Power
and I'm gonna find the way to make this world change those belief systems got
heard those states and believes to the strategies that made her open make sense
so the piece here is meaning what does it mean and then the third decision
you're making right now and again when I say you're making it be honest you may
not be making these decisions consciously they may be being made in
your unconscious just habitually because you're not paying attention that's why
you and I want to change our life we got to wake up so we decide what we focus on
we decide what things mean and then the third decision we decide what to do what
to do do I've quit or move forward do I go interview this person and figure
out what they know or die just go home and have lunch you are enrolled in this
course so I keep growing or they go home and say let's just see how I do
your decisions are going to be affected do I stay married or do I get divorced
do I walk up that person and say I want to meet you or I just stay here and go
maybe it's not the right time your decisions of what to do are powerfully
shaped by the emotions you are feeling and the emotions came from the meeting
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