Hello everyone so
This is a coffee talk for me Sunday morning and
Yesterday I had a pretty abundantly epic day where I got to go with my Thai learning
class and
learn about weaving and how to make cotton and
cooked a bunch of traditional Thai food and then later in the day I ran my
bimonthly
Woman's sharing circle and
In that space I just you know just like
energy, just kept coming and consuming me and starting to make me realize that I
Really, it would serve everyone if I did a live video
regarding
suffering and
Whether or not it actually plays a use in our life or
If it's really even necessary and
What is our addiction to focusing on our suffering?
So this topic is
Definitely not something that I think is
Easy to digest I definitely will
touch on
Parts of us that may be triggered or
Parts of us or you that
You know you've been holding dear to that defines us that is
Something that makes us feel
like
That's you know, it's justified who we are you know and and Here I am
kind of rocking the boat a little bit on
Whether or not that's really even Ness sorry
So
The questions that I'm going to be asking you today, and then you know as well as just discussing my personal
Views on it and
Experientially as I as a coach as a facilitator as a guide as someone who is a witness to
Suffering as someone who is a witness to
others addictions as someone who is a witness to
the
Cycles that we play in our life
So I'm here. You know really
Just bringing about some of these things that that I think
You may you may not
Like what? I'm going to talk about because
Perhaps you've defined yourself based off of the suffering in which you've lived so far
Instead of all the joy and abundance that you have right now
And so that's one of the areas of how suffering can become an addiction in our life is
How do we talk about ourselves do we talk about ourselves as overcoming trauma or do we talk about ourselves as
motivation as
Abundance as love as something full of something
Or do we talk about how we used to have something and because we don't have that anymore. That's what's made us so strong
That the lack of things is what made us strong right so I'm not saying that your
story is
inauthentic or
Unreal or not to connect to the gratitude you may feel for having something shitty in your life
Right we can even put it that way. I had a pretty toxic family in my life, but I am
really entirely grateful
For having this family because it's made me a better
Empathizer it's made me a stronger person
It's made me able to communicate these things because of where I came from however
This is where the switch happens. I do not believe that
It is
important or pivotal
To be focusing on what I don't have or what I didn't have or what suffering that I did have
Or what suffering I may in the future have
Where in turn I still feel it serves me to actually focus on my limitlessness
than my limitations and when we allow suffering to
Become this pivotal forefront of what we feel like discussing what what may concern us that we can't live in the now of
Where we are?
Knowing that we have everything we want
Knowing that we have everything that we need
Knowing that we are safe right here and right now
if we cannot live in that now space without worrying about suffering and a future or
Feeling the suffering of the past
This is where I feel it doesn't serve us
So this is where that addiction and that cycle
It's part of our art our play space essentially are we allowing and suffering to be part of our place?
But it's part of our thoughts based part of our emotional
Holding are we holding in space for suffering because we feel in some way shape or form
without suffering that we cannot learn something so
this is where
It becomes you know these are big questions. Do you feel that you could?
Live a life without suffering and still grow in that space
Do you feel that suffering is the only way in?
Which you learn or grow and do you feel that you're suffering?
Is the only way that you have learned how to empathize your personal suffering is the only way in which you've learned how to?
Empathize with others be there for others be a guide for others be a facilitator. Just like me
I held space for that right, but however
Without any of this turmoil in my life. I still feel I am Who I am right
Without my story
I still feel that my
Questions and the way in which I listen and the way in which I care and the way in which I have compassion
is
enough
That my abundance the things that I do have is enough and I don't actually require
My story of suffering now now whether or not the suffering actually happened it happened, but do I want to emphasize?
But that that's suffering
is
What's made me who I am
Is it really the suffering that made me who I am or is it my abundance is that my resilience is it my?
extreme love is it my extreme awareness to the
Infinite love is it those things
so this is the addiction that I choose to have in my life the
Remembrance that there is enough the remembrance that there's actually an infinite amount of love what if that became your new
Addiction what if that instead of worrying about the suffering that you may have?
Feel the depth of which the infinite source of love is about to shine it's light on you
What would that feel like in your life if you allowed?
The infinite amount of love to shine it's light on you
instead
of
worrying whether or not you may suffer in the future and
Feel that intention when you put that intention now into your life that I am willing to open my door to
infinite love an infinite source
Anything that I feel
That I'm lacking I'm actually opening my door to have it right now
that there is no lack that there is no suffer because I
Do not deserve these things and in that space of knowing that I am a good person
And I deserve everything I want it in fact even people who you do not feel are good people deserve
Everything they want and this is something that I say very often
Knowing that and
living in that space of knowingness
That abundance and love and the infinite gratitude and the infinite love and that actual channel of divine faith that
is
The addiction that serves everyone
and
it's with this addiction of worrying about suffering and
Worrying about the suffering that we had that we live in a space of lack
It's in this space that we believe that. There is a space of lack
So both suffering and a scarcity mindset go hand in hand the more that we allow ourselves
To feel as though suffering
is
is
This necessary we're also allowing space to feel that scarcity is necessary
So this is where I'm going to start to bring and the ideas of the law of attraction and why it became so popular
It became popular because people started to realize
How much they allowed?
Suffering to be a part of their day-to-day life
And how unnecessary it really was and that's what was so exciting that people were able to
See oh wait oh
Wait for one moment. I'm allowed. I'm allowed to think about what I want. I'm allowed to
Feel it deeply without
Without shame or guilt attached these things
I'm allowed to feel what I want without feeling like I don't deserve it for one moment and
At all those spaces this is where that's suffering
Really wants to come in
When you talk about what you want, what what what sometimes gender may happen right we start thinking about well
Whether or not we deserve it
We start putting shame or guilt around the areas of whether or not we deserve what we want
It's already like Oh, or we go to the space well. We're never gonna get it. It's not possible
For it to happen. It's not possible. I can't believe this possibility of actually having what I want
I can't see it. It's too hard to see because I only know suffering right
How is that statement? I only know suffering that's all I've known in my life
So I'm really really
Scared to step into the space of abundance and lack of suffering because that's not how I know life to be
Right life is suffering
How many people do you know that say life is suffering?
Right
And so of course in that space we're we're we're so used to we're so used to society to saying
Life is suffering to actually say the opposite is both like feeling like you're too much of an optimist
You're you're not a realist
You are living in a space of like an unrealistic
Like diagram right like all the sudden. You're a dreamer. You're not really thinking in reality however
Where does it serve you to think or feel?
That you don't deserve it because life is suffering
Where do you feel that that actually plays a role in your life that that I'm not allowed to dream
Because life is gonna. Fuck me over some way
And yes guys I swear all the time so if you don't like it well
Sometimes the big swear word is all like it's the only word that really brings that emphasis, so
So you do what you got to do?
but yeah
Where is it in our life that we feel that life just has got to fuck us over in some way it because it has
now it will
So
And and and where does that serve you?
To have that mentality that I'm just gonna be screwed so I better not actually dream
I'm just gonna be screwed
So I'm gonna back away from my dreams because it's not
possible because everything in my life thus far has been suffering and
So this is the addiction right you have only seen your life as something
That's unachievable as something where I'm not allowed to receive love. I'm not allowed to find true love
I'm not allowed to be successful in my career. I'm not allowed to have a good family dynamic
I'm not allowed to have friends that love and care and respect for me
I'm not allowed to have these things and this becomes an addiction because this is your thought pattern and this is what you're
Allowing in your life
Because when you say you're not allowed and when you say that you're going to be suffering
And when you say, that's the only way well, what do you think's going to happen? The only way that you believe?
But if you start to actually
Open space for the opportunity
And you allow more energy to be giving
Into the space of abundance when you allow more energy into the space of I deserve because guess what when suffering
Does show up if it shows up you already know what to do you've done that before so don't don't even worry
Right don't even worry if it does show up because guess what you've already dealt with it and guess what you're pretty good at it
So guess what you don't have to actually focus on it if or when it actually shows up. You'll be fine
So what do you actually have to beside the things that you don't focus on the not worrying actually
Because that's actually unusual for you
that's actually the harder thing is to not focus on worrying and
Now focus on the what-ifs are the what codes because guess what those
Emergencies that happen those like levels of actual suffering that may or may not
show up in your life and
I'm going for the may not
That's just me
You're already built you've already had enough suffering you're already built
You're already built to do whatever needs to happen in those times of suffering and you already know how to deal with it?
So guess what you don't have to focus on it anymore. You don't have to put any attention
Into future possible suffering because you already know
Exactly what to do for those, but do you know what to do if you had everything you wanted?
Would you know what to do if you had the love of your life in your life right now?
Would you know what to do if you had the job dream the dream job that you wanted right now?
Would you know what to do if you had unlimited funds, and you never had to worry about money anymore?
Would you know what to do with that? Can you give yourself space to actually dream this?
Can you give yourself space instead of the amount of space that you've given yourself to worry or focus on your negative?
backstory or your future story of what-ifs
Can you give yourself a hundred percent time?
This week on just the dreams
Can you wake up every morning now and just think about how abundant your life is right now?
Can you give space for that?
Ah I needed a little breather from that I got I got real
So yeah, I just want you to
Recognize how often are you giving in space for the abundance?
How often are you giving in space for just the I have enough space?
How often are you giving space for the?
Infinite that just really exists for you always in you around you
And how often are you giving space for that?
and
This is the addictive behavior that is part of society
That does not need to exist anymore whether or not suffering exists or not
It does not need to be the focus it does not serve us
To allow suffering to be the focus and Wow there is suffering I am not
discrediting the diversity of life without the
Diversity without the suffering we wouldn't recognize how awesome the awesome is right so the diversity exists
But to choose the suffering over choosing the abundance seems fucking ridiculous
It's absurd
So can we as a whole as a people at least as a mindful modern Nomad
The abundance over suffering can we as a
an
embodiment of infinite love and gratitude choose to look at our life as
abundant or
choose to focus on the abundance that we want or choose to focus on the
Infinite source. That's ready to give to you as long as you ask
So I'm not like a Christian or anything else, but like in that kind of regard
But I really like the the line that says God said ask, and ye shall receive
God did not say let me guess right
God didn't say like you know say absolutely nothing
God didn't say I want you to focus on all the worries
God didn't say like I want you to just talk about your suffering or think about what?
You have already suffered about or worry about everything in the future. That's it ask and you shall receive
That's what God said right so the infinite source is asking you
What do you want the infinite source is please just like tell me what you want
And I'm gonna give it to you and not only am I gonna give it to you
But I will probably give you more than you're even capable of imagining for yourself, so I want you to ask for it
That's what I want. I want you to focus on. What is this abundance that you actually want?
What it is it looked like tell me every single way you want this abundance and then also?
What do you feel you already have abundance in because these both these spaces are
Our focus this is what makes us feel like our dreams are possible right is
allowing us to
remember
What a we already have and be to allow ourselves to dream without
Worry or concern of the what-if or that?
I don't deserve or the shame or the guilt or any of these things and just recognize that
There is infinite source and there is enough
And
That I don't need to suffer anymore in fact. I've actually suffered enough for my whole life. If life is suffering I've suffered enough
I've actually suffered enough I've learned from it
And I'm done with that suffering if life is suffering I've actually had enough I've had enough suffering
But if I don't feel life is suffering I've still had enough suffering
Right if I don't feel like I need suffering
Then what does that allow in my life
So
I'm gonna leave you with this every morning
I want you to wake up and I want you to just say like three things that you feel
That you have enough of right now
and then I want you to say three things that you desire and
I say this because
In the morning time we are in our purest space. It's when we feel the most about it
It's when we're the most open and available
For this kind of energy to allow and it's the rest of the day and all the other addictive
mentalities of suffering that we allow to attach to us
Especially as an passes and path especially as people who are taking on
other
People's energies especially those that are trying to help are trying to do good or trying to create some sort of you know
facilitation of change in a positive way
So
Leaving out the suffering does leave more energy and room for creative. Yes it does
Yes, it does because where is our abundant space?
But in that kind of core space in our belly right which was like really allowing for motivation for
productivity for
better digestion for the openness and vastness and
expansiveness of what we deserve right because we're we're really opening space if we don't actually have to worry about the suffering then we get
to play again
Right and what does play but creativity?
Right because maybe we don't feel a plane is okay in a space of
Suffering if something it's gonna happen then then where is there room for play. Where is there room for?
actually fun
if we're all just worrying about
What could happen or what has happened and while as a facilitator?
I am definitely a guide of let's talk about your shit
Let's like like let's get it like in you know let's let's work it out
I also feel that there's a point in time where the suffering is not necessary to even talk about anymore
Whereas it has no use anymore?
When there's a certain amount of clearing and a certain amount of space open and available
What do I want you to put in there but abundance?
Limitless infinite love infinite gratitude that expansiveness that hole in divine light
So I might get pretty cheesy in this room. I might get get pretty woowoo, but you know
Sometimes we got to get wound
So yeah, I hope this was a
Really useful video for you if you ever have any other questions comments or concerns
you can always feel free to
Privately message me if you are a facilitator guide healer
Light worker, or you want to make the world a better place, and you want to start doing an online business
And you have no frakkin idea how to start
I am your lady. I love foundation work. I love helping you set it up. I love making your dreams
Come true
Because I believe your abundant already
Right so having one person believe your abundant on your Rockstar path
towards
Also creating that openness and expansiveness for others if we all are on this path
Creating openness and expansiveness for others some crazy shits about to happen
And what a better time than now?
Right there is no better time than right now to be doing this kind of work
so please feel free to message me and
Let's I do like a free breakthrough session to kind of just see where we're at where you're at what's been holding you back
From doing what you believe to be true in your life, and where can we take it?
So I really want that to be
You know I want your dreams to come true. Just as much as you do so yeah. I love you and
Keep following these videos if you ever have any awesome articles you read that's about mindfulness modern
nomadic anything people
Facilitators all that if you ever come to Thailand. I do teach a course here
Annually on this emotional body mapping and how to actually channel if you're looking into becoming a light worth your healer or guide
in any way
So if you want to know more deeply on how to channel this for other people as well as yourself both in the physical and
emotional aspects of your body
And yeah, I'll talk to you soon
Infinite love and gratitude
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