Dressing in lolita gives me the impression to have the right of dreaming.
There's a lot of elegance, it's fine, delicate, and the colors are vivid.
It's a representation of beauty for me. To me, you can't be lolita and have disheveled hair. You need to assume your clothes.
I don't what to say but it's just that I like it and that I please myself when I wear that kind of clothes and am with my friends.
I can exist like I want because after all under the dress, with or without the dress, it's me and it'll always be me.
But it allows me to feel good, the concept allows me to feel good. Because lolita is also a concept.
"In the land of lolita..."
What I mostly like is its "fresh" side with the flowers. And I like the two big bows here, it's beautiful and with that lace it's sumptuous.
And most of all, what's really researched in lolita dresses is the print.
And since every print is unique, every time a new one is released everyone is jumping on it
and thus, if you really want it, you need to be there at the right place at the right time.
A hairpin is very very rare, when they release a hairpin you need to jump on the occasion.
Especially since hairpins aren't very common and they look differently on someone's head than a simple Alice Bow.
Also, putting lots of things in your hair is OTT. It means having lots of things on you.
I decorated this outfit with all the accessories I have like, for example, wearing gloves with lots of rings.
But what I find to be good taste is having lots of things, but not too much, or else it looks -sorry to say that- it makes you look like a Christmas tree.
Having just enough and not especially a huge lot is what good OTT is to me.
There, mom!
It suits you wonderfully. It's the next one you want if I understood?
Yes!
And the shape? Do you like it? That kind of shape is unusual.
At first, mom and dad were absolutely not ok with me wearing pink. They told me "It's not wearable! I mean, you can't wear a dress with ponies on it!"
I kinda took it slowly thinking it was more of a whim than anything, but when I noticed that it really was important to her,
that she felt better in those clothes than in the one we choose together in other stores,
Well... we needed to invest a little in it, then a little more...
And so, you were saying that the little dotted cardigan was...
In the end it actually looks funny!
Do you sometimes swap your dresses?
Yes! I love lending my dresses but if some people don't want to I would understand, from fear of damaging them, but I like taking that risk.
And even then, I lend to reliable people that I know very well, people that generally take care of their dresses.
I know who I'm lending to, it's not as if I was lending to anyone
I don't lend to everyone.
Because lolita costs a lot of money and telling yourself that by lending a dress, that you had a hard time getting,
to someone who, in the end, doesn't care as much as us, will damage it...
It kinda hurts my heart. Because, well, you had a hard time getting it and we care about it.
This one is at 290€ but Angelic Pretty dresses like the one I wore before are (about) 359€.
Even if normally in Japan, it's like 100€. This one is at 290€ but Angelic Pretty dresses like the one I wore before are (about) 359€.
Even if normally in Japan, it's like 100€.
There are also websites where there are dresses that are at, for example, 35€, and they're way less expensive.
It's almost the same type of quality except there are less fabric options, while here there are fabrics with different textures...
What you can also do is going to websites specialized in second hand dresses.
Second hand is dresses that were already worn by people that want to resell it on the internet.
But you need to be careful about the notice because on some websites, they have a notice where they tell you about the quality of the dress, the number of times it has been worn, if it's damaged or not.
They always put pics to show you if there's a little stain of something, they circle it in red,...
So, after that, you have to be willing to want the dress despite her damages.
Everyone is dressed with dull colors like black, grey... and it doesn't make me happy.
When I go in the subway and wear pink, even if some people are going to criticize, at least, I'm sure that I bring some cheerfulness in that dull world.
I think that it's a style that looks doll-like, more "childish" and it matches with my way of thinking and who I am.
Are you scared of growing up?
A little.
Why?
Because I don't want to have a lot of responsabilities like paying bills. I don't find that fun.
The world as it is now, doesn't allow us, being different, to take more freedom.
Since the world was world, the Man must work to feed himself, the Man is must do this and that, needs to be conscious of other people, realize he's not alone...
Which makes it in a way that in the end people trapped themselves in one type of life,one type of person,in only one type;
the type which is our opposite and is called "normal" which means with no differences, without being capable of having a real personality,
without doing anything really attractive to them and tell themselves that they are "themselves".
-Welcome to Josca's home-
What was difficult was talking to my parents about it.
It's not exactly simple to come up to your parents and say "By the way, I would like to be lolita!"
At first they were quite surprised, and they kinda braked and said "In what kind of adventure are you getting us into?"
At first they looked at me funny because telling right to your parents, I mean you can't really tell them otherwise,
that you wanna be lolita when you already have a "manga" style with pleated skirts
and all of a sudden say you wanna change to be lolita... that surprised them.
I took one year to convince my parents by talking to them about it constantly.
This is something I love a lot which made me fall in love when i saw it. It's a phone case.
It's a little imposing.
Yes but it's so cute. I rarely use it as a phone case, I usually clip it on my bag. What I like a lot about it is the little face of the bunny.
The lolita's soul is the soul of gaiety.
It's a soul different from all of the other souls, it's the soul of the "little girl" in yourself, the soul of femininity,
of finding beauty in things, of romanticism... Of everything the world has lost to us.
I don't only count lolitas that have dresses. I also count lolitas that are lolita in the soul, who are discreet, at home, and dream to be like us.
-Welcome to Château de Breteuil-
I didn't even know about that movement, I didn't even know about the dresses... I didn't know anything. She showed it to me 2 years ago. It made me laugh, as I found them a bit... ridiculous.
But by seeing them again and again, seeing the dresses, pretty things that are well made, well sewn...
I admitted it was pretty, not on everyone, but it's pretty when it's well worn. But you have to know about it, be into it...
It's like everything else; by seeing it again and again... Like when you listen to a music playing on the radio, at first you don't like it, they play it again and again,
and at the end, you find it cool and you buy it. It's kinda the same thing.
At first, I had trouble getting used to it. Some outfits are quite exuberant. But I'm here today, to make her happy.
And I tell myself it's not a bad movement, they're nice, they're girls that wander around in dresses that aren't ugly,
they drink tea, eat little cakes... It's not a dangerous movement so, well.
Now they're still teens, but what if it continues?
We'll see!
Will you still tolerate it as much?
Well, I think she should. It's my point of view, and I think she should change,
but I think she'll change by herself the day where...she gets married, has kids...
Or maybe she'll stay this way and introduce her lifestyle to her kids and her husband.
But I'll always tolerate it. It's my daughter so I'll tolerate.
People find me weird compared to her (Josca). But we're the same. We both come to school dressed "normally", well, "normally", what's normality?
To me, being "normal" is being who you are inside, dress the way you want,.. as long as we like it it stays "normal".
There's not a special style called "normal" and all the others are called "weird". Normality is what we are ourselves and not what others want us to be.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people who are complexed by their appearance or mentally, or that were belittled too much and they can't understand.
People always need to be with "the others" in hope to feel better, to say "Yes, I have friends".
But that's not what life is. When you are yourself, you see life differently,
you see it from your point of view, and not from "the other" point of view.
They know they're unhappy so they tell themselves "other people must be like that too!"
A style really doesn't hurt anybody. Everyone could be able to wear what they want and tell yourself "i'll buy that because everyone wears that" ,in a way, it's being scared of being different, scared of people judging. But I'm sure that at least 50% of people wouldn't want to be dressed the way they are. That they are sad about it but they don't dare. And when they see lolitas they'll compliment them, because in a way they're kinda "envious".
It's a fear of asserting themselves.
Exactly. The other ones are complexed, and when they see lolitas they feel bad they feel ashamed for them. And since they feel ashamed for them they take the shame for themselves and they become aggressive.
If we were self conscious we would be really discrete and we wouldn't dare to show ourselves in public in colorful dresses, exposed to people and their remarks.
Like, for example the remarks we have is that this style is very..."look at me". Sure, you can say it looks this way even if it's not our intention,
but if I was really feeling self conscious I would probably dress in black, with discrete things, and hide in a corner.
When we are together in the street she's rarely dressed in lolita because it's not always easy because people stare. But I entirely assume being with her when she's dressed like this in public.
And how does your surroundings see her?
My family accept it just as it is.
And what do your friends say?
They say "don't you find it weird she dresses like that?" or "did you know she dress like that" and I say that yes, that I know it and don't care. And if they're not happy about it it's the same thing.
We don't have to force ourselves to be something else than what we are just to please people, people we don't know, that aren't our parents, family...
That'll never talk to us and that don't have a word to say on what we should do of our lives. Life is long so we need to profit and make it nice and not waste it.
What does it feel like to be stopped constantly by photographs?
It's kinda embarrassing. But it's true that often when we go to Paris, we stop for that and sometimes it lasts 10 to 20 minutes or more,
because more people stop again and again to take pics and they say, "Oh please, just two minutes, we want to take a pic!"
So sometimes it's cumbersome, but ah well.
We don't do that to be noticed, and sometimes when you're in a hurry well... And sometimes they don't even ask permission and we feel like circus freaks.
Aren't you scared about your picture getting deflected?
Yes, often. And I never see the pictures in the end so it's kinda scary but what can we do besides posing or go away? There's not a lot we can do.
And even if we tell them no they consider they're right anyway because we're dressed flashy. They don't wanna hear anything or admit they're wrong.
-A big family-
I'm going to introduce you my several sisters reunited here. To begin, I'll introduce you to Loliz, my big sister.
Hello!
It can have different significations: you can be sister with another lolita if we share a fraternal link or simply because it's a great friend
but also because some of us need advice, to be guided in lolita...
And also know some things that you don't know when you just started.
-Loliz, 31 years old: big sister to Josca-
She's really my little sister that I wish I had. There's the sharing we have in between sisters,
like when you share the same passion, and I get along with her family, her parents...
I come to at her place sometimes. I maybe feel the need to protect her from the viciousness of some girls and...
Does it exist?
Unfortunately yes, Josca is attacked quite a lot but well.
And there, is my sister "Miwako," she's my "twin sister."
-Miwako, 18 years old- Josca's twin sister
A twin sister is someone who's always there for you and who guides you when you make mistakes. Josca is always there to put some light in my life.
Every Wednesday she would come over for Spanish lessons and every time it made me happy for the week. And if I need someone to talk to or if I need help for something she'll be there.
Seeing her gives me confidence.
Tea parties are always grandiose, that's also why we don't want to miss them.
It's an extremely prestigious event, not everyone can especially attend it. It's an honor to attend it because we're always in fabulous decors.
It's also a way to meet our correspondents and talk about our experience in lolita and have a good time!
-In the best of the worlds?-
The girls' universe can be closed, ruthless, even elitist... If you don't have the last dress released or you suck, you don't have money...
Of course, they're not all like that thankfully, or else we wouldn't last long in that environment. But sometimes you need to put yourself in a bubble and not listen to what the others say
and continue to live our passion with our friends that are true and sincere.
-The surprise guest-
-Aoki Misako, Kawaii Ambassador-
-Autographing her book-
There, I'm waiting in line, as you can see the line is huge, to get a dedicace and a picture with Aoki Misako!
She's a lolita icon and also a well-known Baby the Stars Shine Bright model. And for me, she's kindness incarnated.
Yes but you can be a princess and a doll at 31yo too! It doesn't mean anything, women are all princesses, whoever they are.
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