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An old slave market in a 16th century town square in Cape Verde.

The slave house on Goree island, near Dakar, Senegal.

Haunting reminders of the slave trade that took place from West Africa.

The story of an innocent pastor imprisoned for a crime he did not commit.

A worldwide church prays, and, via social media a movement starts for his freedom.

For many centuries African kingdoms ruled this part of Africa of course.

And then in the 16th century European interests became more intense.

They were after gold.

Gold was that precious metal that could be used for glamorous things and for trading.

The intensity grew greater and greater.

However, at the point when the New World was discovered, and the need for human power came

into existence, the terrible scourge of slavery was used in an unbelievable way.

Of course slavery had existed for centuries before, but then the incredible volume,

over six million people, exported from this particular area,

towards the New World.

What a terrible scourge and blot on human history.

What's the connection?

What's the difference between commercial trade, gold, slavery and freedom.

I mean, how do these things connect?

You'll find out.

Goree Island is a small land mass just off the coast of Dakar,

Senegal's sprawling capital city.

The island is home to a small population, but by day the number of people swells as

tourists from around the world come to visit this UNESCO World Heritage Site.

There are no cars on the island and it is small enough to find your way around on your own.

The House of slaves, built by the Dutch in 1776, is one of Africa's most famous museums and

memorials to the slave trade.

Historians differ on how many slaves were actually held in this building,

but visitors from around the world make it an important place to remember the human toll of

African slavery.

The House of Slaves is there to memorialize the final exit point of the slaves from Africa.

Closest to the sea, at the far end of the building, is the Door of No Return - where Africans

left their continent never to return.

In July 2009, Pastor Antonio Monteiro left his home country of Cape Verde and,

together with his family, travelled to the country of Togo to work there as a departmental

director for the church.

His task was to work with pastors in eleven countries of that region.

The young man that had come to my office for help, he had accused me of homicide.

It wasn't organ trafficking.

He accused me of asking for blood so that I could make sacrifices or occult ceremonies

in the Seventh-day Adventist Church.

It was a time of lots of anger and discontent.

But after meeting with some family members, I started feeling more calm after praying

to God.

So when I went to prison I saw a crowd of 2000 people in a space designed for 500.

We are packaged like sardines.

On the first night I slept in a room with 82 other people.

But someone very thoughtfully saved me a space.

He said, "You're like a father to me, you can sleep here soundly".

My dear.

I wish that God will bless you tremendously in that place.

If you have work to do, do it quick, and come back home.

Back to your family, because we miss you very much.

I love you very, very much.

Amen.

But of course, I couldn't sleep.

I didn't know where I was.

I didn't know who I was with.

And I asked myself "how is it possible that a person like me is in a situation such as this

one.

How much longer?"

But every day I would wait until 9pm, waiting for someone to call me,

"Monteiro, you're going home".

>From Mauritania in the northwest to the Republic of Congo to the south and Chad in the northeast,

the West-Central Africa region of the Seventh-day Adventist Church is comprised of 22

countries.

Off the western coast of the continent, the territory also includes the ten islands of Cape

Verde.

Dakar is the largest city of Senegal and is located on the Cape Verde Peninsula,

Africa's westernmost point.

It is considered one of West Africa's most important and vibrant cities.

Muslims account for 94 percent of the population, Christians—5 percent and people with

indigenous beliefs—1%.

On a beach facing the Atlantic Ocean, lies one of Senegal's largest fish markets.

Thousands of people flock here every day to buy fish.

Brightly painted pirogues, or canoes, line the beach.

The waters off the West African coast represent one of the world's richest fishing grounds

and fish are one of Senegal's leading exports.

Lake Retba or Lac Rose, meaning "Pink Lake" is naturally strawberry pink in color.

Due to its high salt content, the water has the perfect living conditions for a certain kind of

micro-algae called dunaliella salina.

The algae produces a red pigment to assist in the absorbtion of light.

During the dry season and when the sun is brightest the color is especially vivid.

The lake has a high concentration of salt, up to 40% in some areas,

and salt harvesters can be observed, gathering the salt in the old traditional way.

Men cover their bodies with Shea butter to protect their skin from the salty lake.

The salt, which is largely used for preserving fish, is then piled on the shore to dry and

whiten in the sun for a few days.

Along with Pastor Antonio Monteiro, another Adventist pastor,

Bruno Amah, was also implicated.

These two courageous men had no idea what a long drawn out imprisonment and court case lay

ahead of them.

It has been a long time since we visit my husband in prison as a family.

I hope the kids will be okay.

He is doing well.

He said he went to church.

He organized Bible studies today.

And Bruno did the sermon.

They are both doing well.

I was very happy to see that he's kept his spirits up,

in spite of all of this.

It was a good time.

I miss him tremendously.

While in prison I considered myself a missionary.

I didn't consider myself a prisoner, because I didn't commit a crime.

Not against the country, and not against the people of Togo.

I took this mission and preached the gospel to high profile people,

such as the ministry of defense of Togo, prisoners and prison guards.

Every day I prepared a meal and take it to him.

The prison has food, but it is different from what we eat.

Bruno's wife takes food in the morning and I take food for them in the late afternoon.

Every day while preparing his food, I think "My God, why is this happening,

my God?"

But afterwards, I say "Let your will be done".

At one point, my second eldest daughter, Andreia, was very ill and had to be hospitalized.

Under normal circumstances, with a husband in the home, we would have coped.

Very often we would sit in the livingroom of our home in Lome.

We would reminisce about old times.

Sometimes we even laughed and felt momentary joy, but then we would realize that below the

photo of my husband, was an empty chair.

Liberia is home to four million people.

Liberia was established by citizens of the United States as a colony for former African

American slaves and their free descendants.

In 1822 African Americans first crossed the ocean, back to Africa.

Over the next 40 years 19,000 African Americans, other Africans and a small number of

West Indians, would settle in Liberia.

English is Liberia's official language but fifteen indigenous languages are also spoken in the

country.

Here the Seventh-day Adventist Church runs a very successful radio ministry.

Pastor Smith, actually, had a whole congretation of his own and he started listening to

Radio Advent, ok, particularly to the Berean hour and he came in touch with the Sabbath truth.

Because of his commitment to the voice of the Lord, he decided to become converted and not only

was he converted or, actually, convinced of the truth, but he thought that it was necessary to

share it with his congregation and when he did that some members of the congregation

actually slipped off but he remained and several of them have been coming back to the

truth.

I have never experienced the peace that I am experiencing now because I know that I am in the

true worship and I know that I have a covenant of worship with God.

The Sabbath worship make me to know that I have a covenant of worship with God.

I feel like a true child of God.

Radio Advent has led many people to Christ.

We were able to meet a few of them.

He used Pastor (Gemini Gettel) to just read a scripture because I believe we don't need much

words to get converted, we need just one.

It was that one that take me to the Adventist faith.

I need to ask God to direct me because He is my director.

In everything if we ask it will be given to you, he says, seek and ye shall find,

knock and the door shall be opened.

So I'm seeking to Him for direction.

I'm hoping that the radio station is even going to revive the entire nation,

Liberia.

That is the hope that I have and by the grace of God we are working towards that.

For several months, the Adventist Church chose to keep legal appeals and diplomatic

efforts out of the public media.

Seventh-day Adventist Church leaders and national ambassadors employed diplomatic efforts in

Togo, throughout Europe and at the United Nations in New York.

Local lawyers attempted numerous legal appeals.

Yet Pastors Monteiro and brother, Amah remained in prison.

The Adventist Church then decided to go public with the matter.

Police in Togo have found no evidence of Monteiro's involvement,

and church leaders are maintaining his innocence.

They recently visited Monteiro in prison and are working with government officials to secure

his release.

On November 20, 2012, a working group for the case was formed at

the world headquarters of the Seventh-day Adventist Church.

First in the news, millions of Adventists gathered for a day of

prayer last week on behalf of two church members imprisoned in the West African country of

Togo.

The month of March marks one year since Adventist pastor Antonio

Monteiro was imprisoned in Togo on unsupported charges.

Christmas cards.

Adventist human rights activists are encouraging church members worldwide to send Christmas

cards to three Adventists imprisoned on false charges.

The public awareness event "Pray4Togo" took social networks by storm last week generating

thousands of shares and retweets.

Facebook followers integrated with the Pray4Togo campaign more than 50,000 times,

while the event hashtag reached more than seven million Twitter users.

A petition with more than 16,000 signatures is on its way to Togo.

Send them some encouragement in the form of Christmas cards and let them know.

You are not alone.

You are not alone.

You are not alone.

As the date commemorating two years in prison was approaching, good news arrived.

A court trial had finally been set for Friday, January 10, 2014.

As I sit in the dark prison, I often reminisce about my home in Cape

Verde.

I miss the smell of the ocean, as the waves crash on a stony beach.

For almost two years, I haven't seen a sunset, and it is when darkness falls,

that I yearn for my family the most.

I also miss my church family, breaking the bread of Life with them,

spending time in earnest prayer and singing heartily together.

I miss my home town on the island of Fogo.

I miss the house where I was born with all its memories.

I often think of the church where I was baptised.

I miss my 95 year old mother so much.

I miss the mountains, standing tall and majestic.

When the dry acacia seeds hang from the tree, I know that the rainy season is approaching.

How much longer, dear God, how much longer.....

Ghana is famous for being the first country in Africa to gain independence from European

colonization.

It is therefore a symbol of achievement and an inspiration for African independence

movements.

This is the weekend retreat of the Danish governor back in about the early and mid

nineteenth century.

It also served as a plantation for agricultural purposes with slaves.

This is a very comfortable home.

Come and take a look.

Since the 16th century European governments involved themselves with the local African kingdoms

in commercial activity and the terrible slave trade.

Particularly this shows installations and plantations of the Danish government here along

the Gold Coast, now known as Ghana.

Here we also met a very interesting chief who told us about his ancestors as well as

how he appreciates church co-founder, Ellen G White's writings.

So when the law came into force in 1803, they were already in serious agriculture,

with the assistance of our enslaved ancestors.

It was our enslaved ancestors who helped them put up this building.

They finished their activities here in 1850 and they left.

When they left, they left our enslaved ancestors here.

That is why we are here, in short, at the moment.

So we are the bona fide owners of this area.

Ellen G.

White, it was a friend of mine who gave me some of her pamphlets.

I read it and I enjoyed it very much.

So I asked the fellow to give me a picture of her so that I always look at her and remember

her.

Ellen G.

White is a plain person, he writes what was revealed to him exactly.

That is why I like her very much.

I have appreciated a lot of things in her writings because she did not hide anything.

When it is green, she said it is green.

When it is white, she said it is right.

For me, God is the Almighty.

He created everybody.

He has the life of every human on earth, He does what He wants to do in everybody's life.

Valley View University is located in Oyibi, in the Accra region.

We are more focused in developing integrity among our students,

and excellence, as well as service to God and service to humanity.

So these are the three main qualities that form the core values of Valley View

University.

And we develop the students in this direction.

and most of the time this is our mission, it is a church institution and we inculcate the

integration of faith and learning in the development of the students.

And most of them, they really appreciate and they become Seventh-day Adventists Adventist

education has helped me spiritually, morally, socially and intellectually.

I'm complete, I have a well balanced life.

I came here half empty and I'm leaving very full and I am grateful to the Adventist

education.

The city of Praia, with a name that means 'beach' in both Portuguese and Cape Verdean

Creole, is the capital and largest city of Cape Verde, an island nation in the Atlantic

Ocean, west of Senegal.

Positioned on the great trade routes between Africa, Europe and the New World,

the islands became a prosperous center for the slave trade.

In more recent history, on these islands, many people were praying for the release of

Pastors Antonio Monteiro, and brother Amah.

First in the news, the Adventist pastor Antonio Monteiro was released from prison this week

ending almost two years of detainment in the West African country of Togo.

It was a moment....

I can't find words to describe the moment.

I was imagining there would be thirty or so people.

But when I saw there was a multitude, I thought "they are not here to see me.

It's probably for some politicians".

And then I realized that these people were actually here to welcome me.

There were not only church members, but also those who had been following the story for the

past few months.

It was very emotional seeing the crowds of people around our family,

supporting us.

It was a beautiful ending.

Because it was the climax of our efforts - that of intercessory prayer.

We sang his favorite hymn "Under His Wings".

We could see God's hands working.

It was a very emotional moment, for the Adventist church in Cape Verde,

and in the entire world.

It was one of the most emotional moments of my life, because we'd been through a terrible time

when he was in prison.

But I must say that in that day, I could see in Monteiro the face of God.

A God that is able to make the impossible, possible.

Pastor Antonio Monteiro tasted freedom at last.

What a reunion it was!

And what a reunion we can look forward to when Jesus returns!

Not far from Praia, where Pastor Monteiro arrived after being set free,

lies Cidade Velha, the old town.

Here in the 16th century town square, the whipping post made out of marble can be found,

a haunting reminder of the cruelty of the slave trade.

Transcontinental slavery made Cidade Velha the second richest city in the Portuguese realm.

Today, in this old town square, one hears the sounds of hawkers selling their wares to tourists.

Contrast this to the sounds of traders bidding for slaves, not that long ago.

The African Renaissance Monument is a colossal, and controversial,

monument commemorating the end of slavery and Africa's emergence from the past

oppressive European regimes that once ruled the continent.

A 49 meter or 161 foot tall bronze statue is located on top of one of the twin hills outside

Dakar, Senegal.

Taller than the Statue of Liberty in New York City, the statue was designed by

Senegalese architect Pierre Goudiaby after an idea presented by president Abdoulaye Wade.

Built by a North Korean company, the monument depicts a family emerging from the mountaintop:

the figure of a man, a young woman, and held in the man's left hand,

a child resolutely pointing west.

Visitors can go inside and take an elevator to the level of the giant man's head for a stunning

view across the city of Dakar.

President Wade once said, "It brings to life our common destiny.

Africa has arrived in the 21st century standing tall and more ready than ever to take its

destiny into its own hands".

It is this sentiment that is felt all over Africa these days.

Where there once was slavery, there is freedom.

Where there once was bondage, now there is independence.

Where once oppression was the order of the day, there is now liberation,

deliverance.

God made men and women to be free, from both physical and spiritual bondage.

In Galatians 5:1 we read, "Stand fast there, for the liberty of Christ has made us free and be

not entangled again with the yolk of bondage."

Slavery, unfortunately, is still alive and well in other forms in our world today,

not least of all, Spiritual slavery.

Many struggle under Satan's Yoke, but we have the Good News of the Gospel of Jesus Christ,

who died to set us free!

We look forward to the promise of heaven one day soon, where all those who cling to Jesus

now, no matter the circumstances, will experience true freedom throughout

eternity.

SADLY, AS OF THE DATE OF THIS PRODUCTION, PASTOR AMAH IS STILL IN PRISON.

PLEASE CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR HIS RELEASE!

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HOW TO ENJOY LIFE AND WORK

Techniques for finding pleasure at work and in life and for communicating better

with other people

Some ways to tranquility

If a worker's blood were analyzed at the end of his day, he would find it full

By the toxins of fatigue. If, on the contrary, the brain of Albert Einstein

After an arduous day of scientific reflections, it is very probable that it has not been detected

None of those toxins. From the physical plane, the brain is tireless; After eight

Or twelve hours of starting a task, you can continue to do so well as

at first. As JA Hadfeld says in The Psychology of Power, the origin of the

Fatigue is mental: boredom, boredom, resentment, the sense of worthlessness,

These are the risk factors that affect the performance of the sedentary worker.

If you are looking for tranquility and awakening your interest in life, you will

It is okay to follow these simple guidelines to ward off the harmful effects of boredom and

Nonconformity: Meet and be yourself.

Psychologists know this very well: behind many neuroses, many complexes

And even the most severe psychotic pathologies, hides one of the greatest tragedies

Human beings, that of wanting to be someone and something other than the person that one is. It is one of

The greatest causes of unhappiness that, as was said more than a century ago by the doctor

James Gordon Gilkey, is a problem as old as the world and as universal as life

Human

Daily, we meet men and women who strive to imitate others,

And in this effort they sacrifice their own authenticity. But do not be too keen to know

That no one wants a fake coin. Paul Boynton, who was director of personnel of the Socony

Vacuum Company, came to interview more than sixty thousand candidates and, according to him, the

Most frequent and most serious error of those who apply for a job is not to be them

Instead of acting naturally and being totally frank, they often

Give the answers that you think you want to hear.

Each individual is something unheard of in the world. It had never happened here and will never come back

To pass no one like you. For this reason, if it is a matter of originality,

It is enough to explore the difference itself. Like it or not, you can only sing it

That is, can only paint what is, can only write what is. So said sir

Walter Raleigh: I can not write a Shakespeare book, but I can write a

Book of mine For those who would like to be like others or just imitate them, acting as

Monkeys, it is worth remembering these other words of Emerson: Envy is ignorance and the

Imitation, suicide. Instead of being consumed by the anguish of not being like the others, it's time

To explore their enormous baggage of faculties, many times hidden or wasted.

Four good work habits. These four work habits are simple

To implement and the effects on your mood and energy will be invaluable:

1. Clear your desktop from all documents, except those related to the problem that

You have at hand at that time. The simple vision of a table crowded with papers, documents,

To-do reports and unanswered emails can be the trigger for a paralyzing anguish.

And as Charles Evans Hughes, president of the Supreme Court of the United States,

Men do not die from overwork. They die from scatter and worry.

2. Do things in order of importance. Even if it's hard to do it or go to

Against their tendencies or customs, a good plan to prioritize the most important

Is worth much more than improvising on the fly.

3. When dealing with a problem, solve it immediately if you have enough information

to take a decision. Account HP Howell, member of the board of directors of US Steel,

That there the meetings tended to revolve around endless discussions, after which

No conclusion was reached, forcing everyone to postpone the meeting and take

Work to their homes. Fortunately, he managed to persuade his teammates to make problems

Be addressed one by one, and in each case a decision, without

Delays And the result was amazing. From now on, all matters seemed to be resolved

At the meetings and it was no longer necessary to carry a pile of reports and a series of unknowns

Which would never be solved.

4. Learn how to organize, delegate and supervise. It is true that delegating to the wrong person

Can lead to major disasters, but it is even more true that refraining from delegating

Is a sure source of worries, tensions and fatigue.

The place where you will most easily find young people who have raised

Large companies, but have been unable to delegate important responsibilities,

Is in the obituary sections of newspapers.

Ale] is boredom and avoid fatigue.

According to a report in the Archives of Psychology, which chronicles an experiment

Led by Joseph E. Barmack, students who were subjected to a set of tests

Deliberately bored they felt tired, complained of headaches and arrived

Even to get irritated. When evaluating its metabolic processes, it was found that its pressure

And their oxygen consumption decreased with boredom, and that the same metabolism

Accelerated as soon as the same person began to feel interest and pleasure in the work.

In other experiments on fatigue, performed by Dr. Edward Thorndike of Columbia,

He kept several young people awake for almost a week, keeping his interest alive

in something. The result, according to his own conclusions, is that boredom is the

The only real cause of job decline.

Note that you rarely get tired when you do something that is very interesting and

attractive. Similarly, if you put enthusiasm in your work will combat boredom and,

Doing so will reduce fatigue and drive away concerns. Even if your job

It seems boring, pretend like it is not and try to find the fun side.

Like that kid selling ice cream and instead succumbing to boredom and complaining,

Decided to take an interest in the processes annexed to ice cream, and after becoming an expert in

Products and chemical processes involved in its elaboration, came to win a contest

For college students on the uses of cocoa and chocolate.

And so, enjoying a seemingly trivial task, he went on to assume challenges every time

greater. It is the same logic of that manufacturer of screws that imposed continuous challenges,

Like the amount of screws that would make in an hour, or of that American, salesman to

Domicile, which with a very precarious French was dedicated in Paris on sale door to

Door, imagining that each time he played a theatrical role before a different audience.

If you make it as if you enjoyed your work, then it will be much easier to enjoy it

And it will work faster and be more productive. The influence of our form

Of perceiving things in real life is not a novel discovery; Marco Aurelio

He described it eighteen centuries ago in his Meditations: Our life is the work of our

thoughts.

If you want to avoid fatigue, which in turn is breeding ground for worries,

Also try to rest and relax. According to Dr. Edmund Jacobson,

Laboratory of Clinical Physiology at the University of Chicago, any state

Nervous or emotional disappears in the presence of complete rest. Learn to relax

At work and at home. Let your muscles and your whole body rest. Will not require

Greater efforts, for relaxation is nothing other than the absence of all tension

and effort.

Value what you have.

Would you sell your legs or your eyes for a billion dollars? How much would I order

for his family? How much for his friends? Add up all the items and check that

You are not willing to sell everything you have or for all the richness of

The ten largest magnates. Then stop and ask yourself: Why the hell do I care?

And you will quickly realize that your motives are insignificant.

There is a thousand-year-old phrase to remember: I was sad because I had no shoes, until

That in the street I found a man who had no feet. Eddie Rickenbacker, who survived

Twenty-one days on a liferaft lost in the Pacific Ocean, he understood very well

Its meaning, as it was emphasized, after its rescue, by stating that if

You have the water you need to drink and all the food you need to feed yourself, never

You have to complain about anything.

Those who have not survived a shipwreck or a similar tragedy, we disregard with

Often the value of what we have in life. For Schopenhauer, one of the greatest

Tragedies of our human condition is encoded in that bitter tendency not to think

Almost never in what we have, but always in what we lack. And there are many who

Only learn to live truly the moment they learn that they are going to die. But

The one who does not stop grunting and protesting, not only risks his mental and physical health,

But also your home, your business and your friends.

Relativize the criticisms.

When he was Prince of Wales, at his fourteenth birthday, King Edward VIII attended a

Of a naval school in Denvonshire, where he received strict training. Some day,

One of the officers found him crying and after investigating the causes, he knew that

Some cadets had kicked him. The principal of the school called the boys and, after

To clarify to them that the prince had not accused them, he asked them the reasons of the aggression.

These then confessed that, when they were naval officers, they wanted to be able to say

Who had kicked the king. A very eloquent response that reflects the hidden meaning

Of criticism and aggression: if we are nobody for others, then we will not take

The annoyance of molernos to sticks or of unloading against us his fiery arsenal of invectives.

In short: behind every unjust criticism is hidden a hidden compliment.

When someone stands out among the masses, they will never be safe from censorship. Others

They will speak of him. And many times they will speak badly, driven by jealousy and envy.

Schopenhauer synthesized it years ago: The vulgar enjoys immensely with the defects

And the follies of the great men. The most violent and excessive aggressions, such as criticism

Unjustified that always fall on every public person, do not generally say

Nothing certain of the assaulted, but they do reveal great truths of the aggressor.

No one can prevent them being unfairly criticized, but anyone can make the criticism

Unjust fail to affect him. This was learned by Major Smedley Butler after many

Years of suffering for the flood of reproaches that were thrown at him. Finally,

Tanned by experience, could hold the following: When someone curses me now

I do not even turn my head to see who is talking. What does anyone who fills

Importance all the darts and arrows that throw you from afar?

This does not mean that criticism should be avoided or criticized. On the contrary, in trials

Well-meaning there is an inexhaustible source of wisdom and no one is perfect, all

We need them to improve. But you must ignore the endless criticism

Unjustified and systematically on anyone who stands out.

There are two formulas of denoted scope to achieve this. One is condensed into the words

By Matthew C. Brush, president of the American International Corporation: I have adopted

Standard do everything the best I know and I can and then open my old umbrella and leave

Let the rain fall upon him, and not upon me. The other was taught to Charles Schwab a

Old German who worked in his steel workshops. After his peers

Had thrown him into the river after a discussion about the war, Schwab approached him, who

Muddy, and wanted to know what his reaction had been and how

Had responded to his aggressors, to which the old man replied: I laughed and nothing else.

Laugh and nothing more: you will see how quickly your opponents lose all argument and

The promptness with which the quarrels fade.

Basic techniques for dealing with people

While one hundred and fifty New York police officers and officers fired on

The floor where he was hiding "Two Pistols" Crowley, this legendary "murderer

Of police, "considered one of the most dangerous criminals in history

Of New York, wrote a letter addressed to

Blood could be read: Under these clothes I have a tired but kind heart, a heart

That it would not hurt anyone. These words, written by the same man who had shot

In cold blood to so many policemen, they are the daily bread in the corridors of the prisons.

Such seems to be human nature, and it would not be exaggerated to say that, out of every hundred people,

Ninety-nine are incapable of criticizing themselves, no matter how great their mistakes:

While maintaining an elevated image of themselves, blame others for guilt

Of all evils. Because to the difficulty for self-criticism the facility

To criticize others, taking advantage of the slightest pretext.

If all people consider themselves so perfect and so good, then the possibility that

Someone who receives the criticism with pleasure is infinitely small. Hence the criticism

Is dangerous, because it damages the pride of others, affects their sense of importance

And makes their resentment emerge. And it is not only dangerous, it is also useless,

Instead of causing lasting changes, it puts the criticized in a defensive attitude and for

The common, trying to justify itself.

The renowned psychologist BF Skinner demonstrated with his experiments on behavior that

An animal learns much faster when rewarded for good behavior than

When he is punished for his bad behavior. And later studies have extended these

Conclusions to humans. Instead of censoring people, we should try to

Understand it. Anyone can criticize, censor and complain, and almost all fools do.

But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.

After suffering an accident that almost cost him the life and that of his crew of

Not for his expertise, Bob Hoover, a famous American pilot, personally reviewed

The fuel tank and confirmed his suspicion that he had been charged with fuel

Of reactor instead of common gasoline. He then went to the airport and asked to see the

Mechanic in charge of the airplane. When he arrived, sick with anguish and conscious of

His unforgivable mistake, Hoover did not scold him, nor even criticize him. He put his arm

On his shoulders and said: To show him that I am sure he will never do it again,

I want tomorrow to take care of my F-51.

Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, taught the following: Everything you and I do

Arises from two motives: the sexual impulse and the desire to be great. In the same way,

John Dewey, the noted American educator, argued that the deepest

Human nature is the desire to be important. The best way to know and understand a

Person is, therefore, in knowing how to satisfy that desire to be important. And just like some

Was called "Admiral of the Ocean and Viceroy of the Indies", and others have demanded

That they be treated as "His Greatness, the most excellent Mr. President," as well as insane asylums

Are filled with subjects who have found in madness the importance that in sanity

They have been denied.

If some people are so thirsty for importance that they reach dementia, imagine for a moment

The miracles that you can achieve by just offering your neighbor an honest appreciation

Of its importance. Charles Schwab, the first president of the United States Steel Company,

Who was skilled as few in this art, defined his success with these simple words: Si

Something I like, I am warm in my approval and generous in my praise.

Stop thinking about yourself for a few minutes and begin to observe the qualities of those who

surround. Then you can recognize your strengths and appreciate them in a sincere way. And with the same

Strictness with which it feeds the bodies of its children, can feed the esteem of all

Their fellows. That was Emerson's formula, whose personal prestige did not prevent him from proving

Honored and sincere appreciation for other people: Every man I know is superior to me in

Some sense. In that sense, I learn from him.

You can earn more friends in two months by truly caring for them from the

You could win in two years trying to get others interested in you. Does

About twenty-two centuries, the Roman poet Publilio Syro already knew this mechanism:

We care about others when they care about us. This is well known by dogs,

Who manage to make a living by simply showing affection to their owners, because they know that

Humans, regardless of any rank or hierarchy, like those who

Admire them or simply rejoice in their company. Do the hello test

The others with enthusiasm and enthusiasm, demonstrating the taste of them, and you can observe

Results

Even the most prestigious and busy people succumb to genuine interest in them.

When Dale Carnegie ran a literature course at a Brooklyn institute, she wanted

Invite some of the most recognized writers to give a lecture and present their ideas.

To do this, he wrote a letter with his students expressing to each writer the

Admiration they felt for their works and how much they would be interested to hear. Each letter

Was signed by about one hundred and fifty people and in all of them it was said that they understood

The difficulties to travel to the institute, but in any case they would appreciate

Much if they wrote to them the answers to some questions. These writers

So much liked the letter that they had no problem in leaving aside their tasks and arrive

To Brooklyn.

Actually, it's not about anything new. This is what Zoroaster taught his disciples

Persians three thousand years ago, just as Confucius preached in China, Buddha on the banks of the Ganges

And Lao Tzu in the Valley of the Han. That is what Jesus taught in the mountains of Judea

Almost twenty centuries ago: Do ​​to your neighbor what you want your neighbor to do to you.

Almost everyone you stumble across feels superior to you in some sense;

A sure way to reach the heart is and sincerely recognizes it.

Disraeli, one of the most astute men who have ruled the British Empire, affirmed

The following: Speak to people of yourselves and listen to them for hours.

Always ask yourself what is in the other person that you can honestly admire and do not have

Scruples in mentioning it. When Donald McMahon, a garden architect,

In the house of a prestigious judge planning the restructuring of his garden, had the opportunity

To meet his dogs and approached to say: Lord judge, you have a beautiful

Hobby, then praising the animals and congratulating him for the prizes they had

won. The effect was surprising. That same judge who had shown himself dry and distant

Invited him to meet the kennel, spoke to him for an hour on the subject explaining the

More thorough details and, in the end, before saying good-bye, asked if he had children

And, in the affirmative, offered him a puppy as a gift. McMahon was enough

With a simple comment to forge the friendship of the judge and, by the way, take home

A puppy worth hundreds of dollars.

If there is a secret of success, "said Henry Ford," it lies in the ability to appreciate

The point of view of the neighbor and see things from that point of view as well as from his own.

If you want others to be interested in something, put yourself in your position, think about what

Like them, talk to them about what they want and show them how to do it. Do like those parents

Whose son had the bad habit of wetting the bed and always blamed his

Grandmother, who slept with him. Instead of reprimanding him, they paused to reflect on which

Were the wishes of the child.

It was easy for them to understand that he wanted to feel older, and that meant having a bed

Own and sleep in pajamas like his father. The mother took him to a tent so that he

And, when he installed the bed in his room, in the midst of the emotion, his

Father simply said, "You're not going to wet this bed, are you?" Of course

That no, replied the boy, rising up in pride and, in fact, the problem was overcome.

When you want to get someone to do something, there will be only one way to do it

And is to make that person want to do it, to make him understand the way in which that person

Something may favor him. Trying to persuade someone to do something, limiting themselves

To show him the advantages that something has for oneself, it will hardly be able to wake up

Their enthusiasm. Every seller will be able to corroborate that the best way to convince someone

To make a purchase is to inquire about your needs and offer you products

Or services that help you solve your own problems.

Get others to think like you

Woodrow Wilson, President of the United States during World War I and

Which played a crucial role in the resolution of the same - for which he was awarded

With the Nobel Peace Prize -, stated the following: If you come to me with the

I think I can promise you that mine will close faster than

Yours, and added that when the approach is respectful and seeks a genuine dialogue,

It will be quickly noticed that the differences between the two parties are never so great

As was thought, and the points in common, on the other hand, are much larger than expected.

Lincoln knew very well that more flies are caught with a drop of honey than with a barrel

Of gall, and all the great anecdotes of his life contribute to corroborate his thought

That softness and friendship are more powerful than fury and strength. If you want

Prevent others from closing your doors, then approach them in a friendly,

Even in front of those with whom he has reason to be annoyed.

So when you talk to someone, do not start discussing the divergent points. For him

Begin by emphasizing, and continuing to emphasize, all those things in which they are

agree. Throughout the conversation, continue to emphasize common points

And try to show that, in the end, the two pursue the same purposes. Each

Yes you get from your interlocutor is a door that opens. Each not for the

Contrary, it will be a difficult obstacle to overcome, because when someone gives a negative

By answer, all your pride will require you to be consistent with yourself and hardly

Will retract. Maybe he will understand later that this was not a mistake - he explains

Professor Overstreet - but he has to take into account his precious pride anyway.

Twenty-four centuries ago, as he wandered through the squares of Athens, Socrates set out to evidence

The contradictions in which they incurred those who believed themselves to be the possessors of the truth. He

He knew very well that if he came to them with criticism and refutations, none would be willing

To dialogue with him and the exercise would be of little benefit.

That is why Socrates simply asked questions. And I always started by asking those

Things with which he knew that his interlocutor would agree. Then I kept winning

One statement after another, accumulating an abundant number of yeses in their favor, until

That at last, almost without realizing it, his adversary was coming to a conclusion that few

Minutes earlier he would have strongly rejected.

Socrates did not intend to assert his own truth. In fact, he himself repeated his

Disciples his classic only know that I know nothing. If you still consider it to be more

Intelligent than Socrates, and he is always right, so instead of wasting time

Questioning the mistakes of others, should be enjoying the millions of dollars

Which would guarantee the fact never to err, neither in bets nor in business.

Although we have a strange tendency to think that, if we do not always

The less we have it most of the time, in fact we are much more fallible than

Which we are willing to accept. Just as we do not like our mistakes made

Public, we have nothing to do with blaming others for their own faults.

When, for example, you tell someone else you are wrong and then add

I'm going to show you what it's really like, what it's insinuating is that you're more

Ready and she, before finishing her first sentence, will have already won an opponent.

Only those who step softly go far. If it is imperative to correct another,

Do it subtly, with such skill that no one thinks you are doing it. Even

If you are sure that the other is wrong, you will find it much more profitable to start

By a phrase like well, listen, I think of another way, although perhaps I am wrong.

When someone makes a mistake, he sometimes admits it to himself. And if you know it

Arrive softly and tactfully, you may admit it to others and even come to

Take pride in their frankness and equanimity in doing so. Benjamin Franklin, one of the

More able men and diplomats of American history, wrote: The form

Modest in which he expounded my opinions, he was looking for a sooner and shorter reception

contradiction.

Very little is obtained from a discussion, be it with a client, with the spouse or with

Some adversary. RV Crowley, a salesman for a large New York timber company,

Came to understand one day that his company lost a lot of money because of the discussions

That he was winning.

If what you want is to gain affection or respect or friendships, then it is preferable that you

Refrain from winning fights Remember these wise words of Alexander Pope: It must be taught

To men as if they were not being taught, and to propose unknown things as if they were

Forgotten

You may not win a public recognition for your genius, but if you succeed

Other people to take ownership of their own ideas, then

Greater possibility of being realized. The words spoken by the Chinese sage Lao Tzu

For twenty-five centuries, this attitude has been taken up and they contain an incomparable wisdom: Reason

By which the rivers and the seas receive the homage of a hundred torrents of the mountain

Is that they are kept below them. Anyway, nobody likes to be forced to do so

To do things and we all prefer to do things that we feel as our own.

This was what Eugene Wesson understood after losing countless contracts for his eagerness

Of originality. Every time I visited one of the great designers of New York, Wesson,

Which sold models for textile manufacturing, was leaving without making any sales. After

A hundred attempts, this man decided to change his strategy: went to a buyer

With half-finished drawings and asked him to help him finish them.

The buyer told him to leave them there for a few days and, after these, he gave

Some indications on how best to complete them. Wesson returned with the drawings

Finishes to present them again. All of them were accepted by the client. Since

That moment, this designer was enough to let his client feel that the ideas

Were his to have guaranteed the most constant and lucrative contract of his life.

In the same way that people prefer to do what they consider to be theirs, people

Are also inclined to those alternatives that they consider more noble. Therefore, if your

Purpose is to influence someone's behavior, pause for a moment to think

In a good and dignified motive by which a person would perform a certain action, and

Show it that way. So Cyrus HK Curtis did before becoming

A prestigious publisher: for his magazine to obtain articles from prestigious writers

To whom it was not in a position to pay a reasonable sum, merely offered them

A check of a hundred dollars that would not go for them, but for a charity.

Also, when Lord Northcliffe found in the newspapers a photograph of him that did not

Wanted to be published, wrote a letter to the director, and after talking about respect and

The love we all have for the mother, said: I beg you not to publish again

That photograph of me. My mother does not like it.

Simple Techniques for Leadership

A good leader knows how to draw attention to others' mistakes and influence their behaviors,

Indirectly and subtly, avoiding the angry reactions and resentments that can provoke

In many people criticism or direct orders. The practical examples that are presented

Then collect some valuable techniques to ensure that others want to cooperate,

Instead of rebelling.

On one occasion, while Charles Schwab was passing through one of the metallurgical workshops

To his charge, found a group of workers smoking under a sign that said Prohibido

smoke. His reaction, then, was exemplary; Instead of rebuking them, he approached them

And offered a cigarette to each one, saying to them warmly: "I will thank you very much, my friends,

That smoke these outside. It is a simple matter of tact, which makes communication effective

At all levels.

When Lyman Abbot was invited to deliver a speech on the occasion of the death of

Prominent Henry Ward Beecher, wrote with great care some solemn words,

Which, when completed, read to his wife. Although she realized that the discourse

Was very poor and could only get yawning in the auditorium, he merely suggested

So complimentary that this speech would be an excellent article for a literary magazine.

Abbot immediately understood it, tore the papers and on the day of the ceremony he pronounced

An effusive preaching without even using notes for it.

In some cases, the best way to correct another person is to refer first

To their own mistakes before criticizing those of the other, since for any person will be

Much easier to listen to a list of your own shortcomings when it comes from someone

Who has admitted, with humility, his own.

This was very well known to EG Dillistone, an engineer from Brandon, in Canada, who knew that a

Simple reprimand would not be enough for his new secretary to stop incurring so many

spelling mistakes. He, like many engineers, had personally faced

To that problem and for that reason had decided to use a small alphabetized notebook in which

I wrote down the correct way to write certain words.

Thus, to the next letter plagued with faults, he approached his secretary and, after telling him

Who had found a word he thought was badly written, explained that he himself always

He had problems with that word; So he told him, then that was why he had

A small personal dictionary, which he took out of his pocket to consult the

Form of the term. Dillistone never knew if she had copied her system,

But the truth is that the errors started to decrease in an accelerated way.

Instead of giving orders and imposing reprimands, a leader knows how to motivate others with

Guidelines, asking the right questions and arousing their motivation. This was what

Which made Ian Macdonald, CEO of a small business specializing in parts

For machines, when he received a lucrative offer for a very large order, but with

A deadline so limited that it would be difficult to meet. Before accepting and signing

The contract, Macdonald convened a general meeting and explained to his employees the

Situation, clarifying the benefits that the company would

Accept this proposal. He then asked them if they came up with any ideas

On how to adjust the production processes to arrive to fulfill the delivery. Everybody

The employees then contributed their opinions and assumed the challenge as their own, feeling

That they could do it. In effect, the contract was accepted and the parts manufactured and delivered

On the agreed date.

Finally, if you do not want to gain the enmity or resentment of the other, let him always save

Its prestige. On one occasion, the General Electric Company found itself in the painful obligation

To remove Charles Steinmetz from the direction of the calculations department, for, although

He was a genius of the first order in everything related to electricity, his

Work in that managerial position was being deplorable.

The problem was that the company did not want to lose a man under any circumstances

So valuable, and to make matters even more complicated, everyone knew that it was

Of a very sensitive person. Then they came up with a magnificent idea. They offered

To Steinmetz the pompous position of "Consulting Engineer of the General Electric Company",

Allowing him to leave the position he had been occupying and remained in the company

Doing what he was a most outstanding figure and, in passing, saving his own

Reputation to feel that as a homage.

In conclusion

The prestigious psychologist Alfred Adler, disciple of Freud, maintained the following: The individual

Who is not interested in his fellow men is the one who has the greatest difficulties in life

And causes the greatest hurts to others. From these individuals all failures arise

.

Often our own individualistic blindness inclines us to neglect relations with

The others in the strenuous attempt to achieve our goals.

But if they have in common all these guidelines to face everyday situations

And to have a placid and valuable life, is the way in which they emphasize the importance of assuming

The perspective of the other; Without sacrificing its own authenticity, in the same attempt

To satisfy the legitimate interests of others we can achieve our own

goals