Hi, my Dears!
It's Part 4 of our series this week and I'm very excited about today because we
are talking about making a difference that you want to make.
This is something that I talk about a lot, especially with those of you that I coach,
as I am Progress Coach, so my passion helping people get what it is that they really want.
This started, of course, all of this Map-Your-Progress-ness, started in thinking about goals and the goals
we set for ourselves.
The things that we go after.
Really want those things mean—the time that we invest in actually pursuing those goals,
and the energy that we put into it, the intention, the expectation—all of this stuff around
our goals.
Beyond the top layer—that's what I get really excited about and has been the place
from which this all has come.
So if there's anyone that could let me know if could hear me, that would be wonderful.
'Cause we've been having some technical glitches this week.
But anyhow!
I shall carry forth.
I wanted to give a quick context for why we're talking about making a difference in relation
to progress and goals.
It's kind of two-fold: Part of it is for your benefit, as the person who is going after
these things.
My wish for you is that in whatever goal you set, and whatever you apply yourself to, that
you are able to have the experience that you most want to have.
So pretty much anything that we decide we want it's because we believe that we're
going to feel a certain way, if we were to achieve that.
Or that we get to be a person that we want to be in the world.
Or we get to do the things that we most want to do.
It's a logic the we operate under that says that if we achieve whatever that goal is,
then we will be able to experience whatever it is we want.
And what I've learned in my own life, as somebody who is a recovering perfectionist,
overachiever, very much into having high standards for myself, I realized after years of pushing
myself really hard to always be reaching, always want to improve and go after all kinds
of goals.
In a number of cases, eventually reaching those goals, that once I would reach them,
I would be very disappointed and at times even discouraged that I had gone through so
much.
Because I had wanted to have this thing and wanted to feel this way, and it didn't happen?
You know, I did everything that I was supposed to do.
I did all of the steps, any yet.
It was fleeting.
Or it wasn't there at all.
So when I launched Map Your Progress about a year and a half ago, and started providing
artwork that would help people track their goals and stay motivated and focus on their
next right steps and breaking things down into small pieces—and all of that—which
is very much more about the practical/tactical "how to get things done."
I've found that I couldn't not talk about this part of it.
I couldn't—in other words—I couldn't ignore the fact that I would be selling Progress
Maps, and having conversations with people, and hearing about what they thought they were
going to go after, and then having this sense that even if they were to reach that—that
wasn't exactly what the thing was that was most fulfilling for them.
So how do you even figure out what's fulfilling for you?
That's the obvious question, right?
And this was something that I kind of tussled with a little bit and was trying to come up
with ways that I could better support you.
And help you choose goals that would be more fulfilling and satisfying for you.
When a goal is more fulfilling and satisfying to you, when it's exciting to you and you're
kind of pulled by it, pulled by a sense of inspiration or enthusiasm or excitement or
curiosity—it's a very different experience, in the actual pursuit of that progress.
When you're being pulled by something that you love, rather than trying to push your
way toward something from a place of fear or "shoulds" or "I know I'm supposed
to do this thing" "I know I'm supposed to pay off my debt" "I know I need to
lose weight" When we come from that kind of energy, it often doesn't go well.
I mean, not surprisingly, because it's not fun.
It's not interesting.
It's not exciting.
There's nothing really compelling there.
It's a matter of wrestling with your willpower and trying to be someone that you're not,
which I—it's just, ughhgh.
It's the worst thing.
So my wish for you, is that you're able to connect to whatever it is that makes you
feel most alive and most excited and whatever thing that you want to give to other people,
which ultimately does make a difference in other people's lives.
That's the kind of stuff that I would love to support in finding out for yourself.
That's very much in the bucket today of what we're going to chat about.
OK.
I am going to tell you about a tool that I created.
For the purpose of wanting to make it easier to start to hone in on whatever that thing
is for you, that you really want to give and contribute to the world, So I came up with
this series of distinctions.
I call them Human Light Types.
It's based on this belief I have that, at our best, as humans, we are able to be sources
of light.
When defining light, that could be a lot of things.
It could be creativity, it could be innovation, it could be humor, it be joy, it could be
musical talent.
It could be anything.
But there's some combination based on your skills, your passion, your experience, your
weaknesses, your strengths—all of that—that you are well-designed for.
When you are engaged in whatever that thing is, you feel most alive.
You feel most powerful.
You literally brighten up and it's attractive.
It's magnetic.
It's noticeable.
People get excited *with* you.
And I haven't found any better life experience than that—than coming alive and being able
to share it with others in a way that is of benefit to them.
Because the experience that you get to have from being true to yourself, sharing, giving,
whatever that thing is that you love so much, and then to have somebody else on the other
end saying, "OHMYGODYES.
Yes, I love what you do!
Yes, I love who you are!
Thank you for being here.
I'm so glad that I know you.
I'm so glad that I met you.
I'm so glad that you're doing what you're doing in the world."
To be on the receiving end of that, feels amazing.
And that, is a total game changer.
So, that's what I want for you.
It's like knowing that this thing exists, I can't just keep talking about goals in
simplistic terms, about debt payoff and weight loss.
Because those are just part—it's like symptoms of what's out of balance, because
we're not in alignment with what it is that we're really here to do.
So rather than have you focus just on the practical/tactical of how to pay off debt
or lose weight or create new habits or focus on your sobriety—any of the number of very
logical, reasonable, adult-sounding things—what I really want is to have you use what you
love, what lights you up, what makes you come alive, as a means to get those other things.
This may sound a little abstract because I haven't gotten into detail yet, but that
brings me back to the light types and how do I paint this picture more clearly so that
you can start to see yourself in it and see what resonates with you.
Or what feels right to you.
The light types came about because a dear friend of mine had asked me who it is that
I coach, as a Progress Coach, who is the person that I most want to work with.
And it started me thinking about someone who has experienced a lot of things in their life,
and really wants to use their life experience in service of others.
So taking their own pain, failures, victories, strengths—all of it—not selectively, but
all of the things—and using that in such a way that they could share their story.
They could share the wisdom that they gained.
They could say "hey, this is what I've been through, and this is how I did it."
That was something that was super attractive to me because is *my* deal.
That's where I come alive.
And in thinking about that, and the kind of person that is able to share their story in
that way, I was thinking of heroes.
Of course my heroes are Oprah and Brené Brown and Marianne Williamson and Ani DiFranco.
All of these incredible women who have been through some shit and have come out the other
side, and are wanting to use their life and their truth and their story and their vulnerability
in such a way that it reaches out to people who are currently going through those tough
things.
And shining a light, basically, that says, "It's going to be OK.
You're not alone, you're not crazy.
You're a human being.
There are other people who have been through this and I can show you what I did.
Or I can show you what I learned."
That dynamic is something that, you know, for me is what matters most.
So when I was thinking about how I would describe people like me, who really want to be able
to reach others.
The idea that I came up with was a Lighthouse.
If you were to imagine a human, as Lighthouse, and being able to beam their light out to
those who are in the dark, who are in the storms, who are being tossed about, and just
want somewhere safe to go.
Just want to be able to move through.
A Lighthouse is that person who can reach them and say, "Come this way."
So when I was sharing this concept of the Lighthouse, with my dear friend, she's like,
"Oh, OK."
And she got it, and she's like, "So, what other light types are there?
Because obviously, not everybody's a Lighthouse."
I am a Lighthouse, I very much have a Lighthouse view of the world—and you can hear and see
that in most everything that I do.
Obviously, not everybody's like that.
So I kind of took that question and I spent some time, marinating and looking at different
things, and I came up with eight more different light types.
I have created a section on mapyourprogress.com where you can look at these different light
types.
But I just wanted to kind of briefly take you through the remaining eight in the hopes
that in hearing about them, you may start to see yourself.
Or you may start to recognize other people in your life that you care about.
For each of us, we have our own things that are most important.
It's not that one person is right and the other is wrong, it's just that there's
different things that do it for us, ok?
So the next one that I want to share about is called a Floodlight.
A Floodlight is somebody who is here to make a big impact.
They are about game-changing.
They are about creating legacy.
They want to really shift things in a big way.
And if they are not able to do that, it is miserable.
And it's not fulfilling.
And were they leave the planet without having done something big, that impacted the greater
community or humanity, it would feel like a life not fully lived.
I was recently chatting with a friend of mine at a holiday party who's a Floodlight and
I was asking him how things are going.
He's super smart and capable and builds all kinds of cool digital things.
And he's doing really great work for a company.
And he said, "Yeah, but I haven't, you know, really done the thing yet that's going
to contribute to humanity."
I totally got what he was saying, because for him, that is the measure.
That is the thing that makes him come alive.
This idea of using his skill set and his mastery of technology and coding and website design
to be able to create something that is going to have a huge impact.
Because that's him!
He's a Floodlight.
Make sense?
OK.
So the next one is what I call a Campfire.
People who, their form of light is if you imagine a campfire, and the vibe that goes
with that.
Campfires are people who bring other together.
Particularly diverse types of people and oftentimes has a connotation with either the outdoors
or a love of the environment or nature or finding that really important.
If you think about the kind of conversations that happen around campfires, where there's
a sort of an intimacy or a different context of quality to the conversation that kind of
stops the noise of everyday life and gets to a place of truth and clear communication
and intimacy.
That's exactly the kind of vibe the Campfires dig.
That's what they love to do.
They love to bring people together.
I have one friend whose a Campfire and she's a professor—and she's an anthropology
professor—that's because she loves different types of cultures and different types of people.
She loves her students coming from all different backgrounds.
She's able to welcome them all and figure out ways to connect with them and show them
where they are more alike than different.
But still being able to respect and appreciate those differences.
So that's *classic* Campfire—that's what lights her up and is meaningful for her.
The next one is Torchlights.
And Torchlights are all about justice.
You know, I think Braveheart.
I think of people who are natural leaders, activists, into revolution.
They want to stand for people who are vulnerable, who don't have a voice.
I mean, they can't imagine just living their life, without standing for other people.
You can't separate the two.
So if you're a Torchlight and you're not able to be making a difference for those who
you feel you want to protect or support, it's not going to be very fulfilling for you.
There's a real sense of passion and "if I don't do it, who will?" for Torchlights.
That's something you will come though in terms of what they talk about.
They'll usually be very aware of current events and what's going on and their polictics
may be progressive (from their perspective).
So those are Torchlights.
Then we have Lamplights.
Lamps are probably the most common type of light.
I say that simply because I have a quiz on mapyourprogess.com/quiz (I'll tell you about
that more in a second) where I've had people go through and self-identify what type of
lights they are.
Based on the results of that, based on the feedback I've received from so many of you
who have taken the quiz, the statistic suggests that most folks are Lamplights.
When I say most, I mean probably somewhere around 35-40%.
Now again, the stat is only as helpful as it is in this particular context, but that
is to say that for Lamplights, what is most important to them is their people.
Their family.
Those who they work with.
Those in their community.
The people within their realm, who they feel belong to them.
Who they come into contact with on a daily basis.
Their whole joy of being in the world is to love and support those people and care for
them.
This is where you'll here stories of parents who work multiple jobs just to be able to
put their kids into the right school or to support them in pursuing their dreams, talents,
stage-parents—things like that.
It could also be business owners and people who have a strong sense of whomever their
team is.
But they're really nurturing.
They're the kind of people that have a strong sense of duty and responsibility.
They will show up.
I mean, the world would not function without Lamps.
For those of us that are different light types, that are wanting to build things and go out
into the world or whatever, we couldn't do any of that without having Lamps in our
life to love and support us.
And they feel really fulfilled by that.
So it makes me a little sad when I hear somebody talking about, "well, I just want to be
a stay-at-home Mom, isn't that weird?"
No!
No, that's amazing!
Because that's what makes you feel alive.
That's what is most satisfying to you.
That's what's most fulfilling for you.
That feels like the best use of your time.
And we need people like that.
So bottom line is: Whatever you type is, just embracing it is the best thing that you can
do for yourself and for everybody around you.
OK, so the next type is a Flashlight.
Flashlights are all about adventure!
A slow death for a Flashlight is life in a cubicle.
Or mundane, routine.
Flashlights are not meant for that.
They are here to explore.
They're here to go forth.
They're here to travel.
To go into dark places.
If you think about somebody using a Flashlight, and the kind of person that would be into
that.
Think about the kinds of activities that they're doing.
This may even include military or law enforcement or fire fighters—these jobs that are not
easy, that not everybody can do.
But they have a sense of—not just adventure—but almost, "I need to go find out what's
going on.
I need to be there.
I need to make a difference.
I need to show up.
I need to see what I can see and who it could help."
Then we have Candlelights.
Candlelights are artists, the creative people, they're here to be themselves, to be shine
even on their own.
To be able to light other people up and not lose their own vibrancy.
They are about self-expression.
The whole point of their life is to be brave enough to share their creativity, their self—their
true self—they're often very sensitive.
What's painful for a Candle is feeling like they can't say that's true for them.
Feeling like they can't fully express.
If you imagine other countries in the world where expression is not encouraged or music
is frowned upon or dance or free speech—this is like the worst thing for a Candle because
they are here to be fully themselves and to share that with other people.
And that may be on a more intimate scale, in just the people that they know or come
in contact with, or it could be something on a much larger scale.
Something like Adele comes to mind.
Where she's really just wanting to be who she is and say what's true for her.
In the expression of that, that is her shining bright at her best.
So we've got two more.
We've got Stringlights.
String lights are all about fun.
They're about joy.
If you think about occasions where there are string lights, usually it's parties, festivities.
It's dressing up the mundane to make it more beautiful and magical.
String lights can be misunderstood sometimes because others won't think that they have
enough ambition or that the difference they want to make isn't grand, you know?
Which I would disagree with.
Because when you have a Stringlight in your life, this is somebody that can make even
the most ordinary, day-to-day, grind kind of thing, better.
They bring joy with them.
And they feel most alive when they're able to celebrate everyday life.
To laugh.
To bring a levity that is so needed in daily life.
They're all about having fun and inviting others to have fun as well and just enjoy
life.
And then we've got Spotlights.
Spotlights are the people who are here to push themselves to their full capability.
They'e often people who are not necessarily just performers, but they could be chefs,
for example, or athletes or even in just their particular vocation.
They just really want to be the best.
It's not necessarily the they want to be the best just for their own reasons, but they
really want to do their job extremely well.
They want to see how far they can take it.
So they will be gratified by the pursuit of excellence.
You will notice them because they are so committed to becoming incredibly good at whatever it
is that they love to do.
They're not going to be satisfied unless they are allowed to continue to pursue that
and continue to excel and grow.
And be seen by the people that are their audience.
Those that appreciate what it is that they do or are interested in it.
Those are the nine different types that I've shared.
Hopefully in listening to these, at least one or two of them has kind of resonated for
you.
Maybe in hearing the descriptions, you're thinking, too.
"Oh yes, that's totally my Mom or that's my best friend or that's my sister."
I found it really helpful to keep in mind that we're all different types.
One of the things that kind of gets my hackles up when we talk about purpose and these conversations—when
we get into judgement about other people and what they're doing with their life.
"I don't understand why so-and-so would quit a perfectly good job and then go try
and be an artist.
It's a ridiculous idea!" or "I don't understand why someone is so focused on their
career and they haven't started a family.
How could you not have a family?
That's ridiculous!"
You can start to hear where we have these different perspectives about what is most
important in life.
Or what would be most exciting or meaningful, valuable, whatever.
It makes me nuts when we start to criticize one another for being different.
Holding a different value and a different viewpoint.
Because it's so important that we have diversity, in terms of the lights we bring.
Our planet very much needs that, our societies could not function were there not diversity
in terms of our strengths and our passions and what we most want to contribute.
So it can be pretty instinctive, I think, to just assume that other people are like
you and value what you value.
But I would love to challenge you to start to consider these different perspectives and
be listening for them in the conversations that you'e having or even when you're
watching TV.
Just kind of noticing and making a little bit of a game of it.
I think it can be really helpful for appreciating who people are and who you are.
'Cause one thing that happens when we are in a position where, let's say, I'll use
the example of where I was a few years.
Where I was pursuing a path that was not about Lighthouse stuff.
It was more about kind of Lamplight things and Spotlight things—a combination of caring
for other people and seeing how well I could do in a particular track that I was on.
So when I started exploring the Lighthouse part of myself and was sharing these ideas
that I had or things that I wanted to do.
I would share them with people, who weren't necessarily Lighthouse-y.
They'd be like, "Oh!
OK.
Good for you.
Good for you!"
They wouldn't fully understand it or they wouldn't understand why it was something
important to me.
Why it would be worth pursuing.
Why I would leave a perfectly good job or set-up where I had consistently good income
and was well-received was doing.
But I felt half-dead.
And I didn't feel alive.
I didn't feel excited about waking up in the morning.
Sometimes, you know, when we have these conversations and when you're in this position where you're
starting to recognize, "OK, I'm successful at my life.
I'm doing the things that I'm supposed to do.
And yet, I still don't feel excited about it.
I don't feel alive.
I don't feel like I'm making a difference.
I'm just going through the motions.
I'm just showing up and doing whatever."
When you notice that, and you start to consider, say something like the light types (which
is just one tool, whatever tool works for you), and you start to connect to what that
kind of thing is that you want to be doing.
When you start to share it, when you start opening this conversation, and it's not
somebody who is receptive to that or can really understand that, then it can be discouraging.
And your Clever Brain, that part of your brain that does not want you to change, that does
not want you to grow, that does not want you to be empowered, that just wants you to stay
exactly where you are, doing exactly what you're doing and not talk about anything.
That part of your brain loves that kind of feedback.
Because when you're talking about something that you love and other people don't get
it, and they have kind of a lukewarm reception, your Clever Brain's like, "YESSS.
This is evidence that what you're into, sucks!"
Or that people don't care about it.
Or that it's not important.
Or it's weird.
Or whatever!
But your Clever Brain wants you to be discouraged.
So in terms of next right steps, I would love for you to go to mapyourprogress.com/quiz.
Take the quiz; there are eleven questions.
Then you'll receive a result that will say, "You might be…a Flashlight!" or whatever
the light type is.
What I would love for you to do at that point, is just kind of sit with that and see, "Does
this seem like me?"
Most of the people that I've talked to are like, "Yeah, actually that really did resonate."
But there's also a link that you can click to take you to the section on mapyouprogress.com
which is backslesh—backslesch?
Wow.
I haven't even been drinking today! mapyourprogress.com/lights That is the page where you'e gonna find
all nine light types.
So I would love for you to kind of click through and just read though some of the other light
types, anything that catches your attention or feels like it might be you.
Because I want to make sure that you're connecting to the one that feels most true
for you.
It may not be that it's just one light type that you connect to.
There may be two or three, which is totally fine.
It's not like there's a right or wrong way to do it, it's just that these distinctions,
the quiz, the section on the site, is really there to help you get more clear on what feels
true for you.
And what pulls at your heart.
And sounds exciting to you.
If you have already taken the quiz, then I would love for you to make sure the you check
out the other light types.
If you didn't already do that.
If you did, I again would encourage you to look at the other people in your life and
what kind of light types they are.
Because when we start to be sensitive to other people's purpose and the things that make
them come alive, then we're able to be of more support.
And we're able to better understand them.
Things that may have been hurtful or say somebody's putting a lot of energy into something and
you feel like they're not spending enough time with you, or you don't understand it,
some of those things can be easier to understand and relationships can improve because you're
able to see their perspective.
And understand what drives them.
And it can even help things too when you're giving gifts.
Or you're thinking about dates or experiences that you'd want to go on.
If you love somebody whose a Flashlight, go have an adventure.
Go to a place that you haven't been.
Flashlights hate going to the same places over and over again.
If you're married to a Flashlight, please don't go to the same restaurant over and
over and over and over again.
Which may be something like a Lamp, who actually finds a lot of comfort from doing the same
things and from having routine.
So just having an awareness and sensitivity to each others' differences I think can
make a significant difference in the quality of our relationships and how you connect with
one another.
OK, so I'm just referencing my notes, because I have been wanting to give you guys some
additional next right steps that you can take with you beyond this conversation.
Where you can start to take this information and bring it more into your life so that it's
of greater use to you.
So starting with the quiz, of course, and the results, and familiarizing yourself with
the different light types.
I would love for you then, to start to take some steps to support whatever your light
type is more so in your life.
It can be something really simple, as changing your social media feed.
So many of us are on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and all of that.
But if you very intentionally start to curate your feed and the things that you're seeing
on a daily basis with people or organizations who either are your light type or are aligned
with that lightype, that can feel really good.
I mean, it sounds so simple, but I've actually found that that makes a significant difference
when I'm tuning into something that has content that is interesting and inspiring.
And it causes me to grow and to think of how I might be able to shine brighter.
To be a more powerful Lighthouse.
So don't underestimate the power of inspiration.
Highly recommend that you adjust your feeds.
And then you can also start to subscribe to people's emails or maybe there's magazines,
there's books you could read, but just looking at how your life is right now, and the things
that you enjoy doing.
Starting to look at that from the perspective of your light type and intentionally bringing
more of that stuff into your life.
It could even be the movies that you watch, for example.
Any of that stuff that you can customize to your light type and what matters to you is
just going to be more supportive and encouraging of that.
It's just going to be feel better and better.
So taking that a step further, and you know, the topic of this chat is about the difference
that you want to make.
When you think about you light type, and the kind of things that you most enjoy doing.
I want you to think about specifically what scenarios, what situations in your life you
feel most alive.
Love for you to grab a pen and do some writing.
And just spend some time with yourself in this.
Think about: What scenarios in your life do you feel most
alive?
Where are you?
Who are you with?
What are you doing?
What's happening?
What are other people getting from you?
What benefit are they receiving?
So for me as a Lighthouse, when I'll share a story and I'll risk being vulnerable and
saying something truthier than people were expecting.
I'll have somebody come up to me and say, "god, thank you so much for saying that.
I really needed to hear that."
or "Me, too."
That stuff just makes my whole life.
Think about how other people respond to the light that you bring and that you contribute.
Think about who those people are, you know?
What are they into?
What kind of characteristics?
They may be similar to you.
But not necessarily.
I want you to use your imagination to start to paint a picture of what it might be like
for you to do more things that are aligned with your light and be thinking about who
most wants to receive.
Because regardless of what you light type is, I promise you: There are countless people
out there that would love to be in your light.
That would love to see you or feel it or just be around it.
There's something really enlivening and comforting and yummy about it.
So your people are out there.
But if you're dimming your light, if you're not connected to your type, if you're not
nurturing that and encouraging that part of yourself, it's much harder for you to connect
with those people.
So when you start getting an idea of who those people are.
You can think of them perhaps as your tribe.
But the people that you are here to shine for, who in serving—you become brighter,
you become stronger‚ you feel more alive and more on-purpose, more excited about being
a human being—and you consider who they are.
What kind of things they might be doing.Then start talking about that.
Start having conversations with people that are safe or who you trust.
Let them know about the kind of people that you're interested in meeting.
You would be surprised at how the Universe starts to organize and how things that you
didn't see before, become visible.
Doors that were not there before, become visible and start to open.
And random shit starts to happen when you put your attention and intention around being
the kind of light in the world that you want o be and connecting with your people
I'd like to take it even a step further than that, beyond the more practical, to what
I still think of as exceedingly practical, that often times people will regard as a bit
"woo woo."
So if you're allergic to woo woo, just stick with me, here.
Because I do think that there's a lot of value in this.
I really do this on a daily basis in my own life and have found it completely changes
everything and makes life so much easier.
In terms of you making the difference that you want to make, you getting to shine bright
as the light you are, and have people who are really excited about that.
And so grateful that you're in the world.
When you think about the visual of you particular light type; so for me—as a Lighthouse—it's
a lighthouse on the edge of a body of water, in the dark, with a beam going out.
So in the mornings, when I wake up, before I get out of bed.
I will lay there and have my eyes closed and think about myself.
I will visualize myself as having this beam of light.
And think about it going out and going around.
I will essentially ask—doesn't matter what you believe in, if you're spiritual,
religious, or not—but just asking for support that is beyond what you know of.
Certainly, with your intelligence and creativity, you can come up with things on your own.
But to be willing to be supported by something more than that?
Regardless of whether or not you can define it or you feel very clear on what that is.
It's totally fine.
Either way, you asking.
You visualizing your light.
You know, if you're a Flashlight, that beam's coming straight off you.
If you're a Spotlight, you're lighting things up.
If you're a Floodlight, Candle—think of whatever the light type is.
Envision yourself as that and your light becoming stronger.
Your light drawing in your people.
Just using that as a meditation, as a prayer, as a mindful exercise.
However you want to describe it.
I can be really, really potent.
Because often times I think, as humans, we have our own arrogance—that we know the
answers.
Or that we need to do it all on our own.
Or that certainly something couldn't something couldn't be outside of our own view.
And I think when we're the kind of achiever, perfectionistic types, we can get kind of
tunnel vision.
So having an intention, making a practice, I mean—it certainly cannot hurt.
But I would love for you to experiment with that!
And see what evidence starts to appear.
And what kind of things, like fall from the sky.
Or that you could never have imagined.
You know?
It's like—magical.
I don't even know exactly how those things work.
I just know that when I make a point of spending time, focusing on my light, visualizing myself
reaching all of the people that I could best serve, all of the people who are having experiences
in their life that I have been through, that I could support and guide them with.
I want those people to come to me.
I want to be connected to those people somehow.
I want there to be some sort of province or serendipity or some greater forces that cross
our paths.
So I ask for that.
And it is remarkable how they appear!
It's taken me years to wrestle with that.
Where my logical brain was like, "Nawwh, it can't be that easy!" or "That's
ridiculous!"
And yet.
I literally have a list of things that I keep track of, that it's like, "Yep!
Oh, this random thing happened, this incredible thing happened, this door opened."
And with the magic of technology, and the Internet and social media, we have never been
more connected.
You are one hashtag away from connecting someone who thinks you're amazing.
So I would encourage you to embrace the woo woo, to take these different ideas, to start
to play around with them.
I'm very much a believer in "all of the above" so experiment!
Try things out.
See what works for you.
I'd love to hear from you more about what you think in terms of your light type and
how you see that in the world.
There's something that I've been doing some months now, that's probably the most
useful thing I could provide in terms of helping you get clear on your light type.
What that might look like in a much more detailed way.
It's something called a Spark Session.
I have been gifting them to members of the Map Your Progress Tribe.
I will continue to do that only for the next two days, actually.
It's something that I will no longer do in 2017.
It's a two-hour experience that I offer, where it's not a coaching session, but rather
it's a deep listening where I'm really focused on hearing for you, whatever it is
that lights you up, that makes you come alive.
And it doesn't need to make sense to you.
You don't have to know how everything works.
You may not be clear on what that even is.
But you just feel this sense that you know that there's a difference you're here
to make.
And you don't feel connected to it.
In a Spark Session, we can connect those dots.
And we can start to see what, for you, the next right steps would be.
And I can get much more detailed when I have two hours to be with you, and really hear
things.
What's cool about a Spark Session is that—this happened again and again—where people will
say things like, "well, I've never told anybody this" or "god, I'd never thought
about it that way before" because we have the time and space and quiet for you to really
be able to go down into the layers of yourself and start to bring to light the things that
you already know.
That are intrinsic to you.
It's my joy to kind of be a mid-wife of sorts, and be there to help create the space
for you to experience that.
To know which questions to ask when, and start to draw that out of you, so that you can see
it for yourself.
And we can see what next right steps make sense for you.
So if that's something that's intriguing to you, I would love for you to apply for
a Spark Session.
As I said, you only have a couple more days to do that before they are no longer available
as a gift.
But will be part of something called a Progress Plan, which you can, of course, purchase.
But if you are interested in really getting clear on your light, and thinking of all the
different ways to embrace it in how you are crafting your life, then I would love to have
you apply.
If you go to mapyourprogress.com/spark, you'll see a link to a series of questions where
I get to learn more about you.
And then we can figure out the details in terms of setting up sessions.
You have two days left to apply.
However, I'm booked out such that we won't actually do the session until later in January.
But would love for you to do that.
It's really the most useful thing that I have to offer on this topic.
So I'm happy to give you some next right steps and some ideas here in this chat, but
would love to be able to help you take that much further.
So, Spark Session, there you go.
Tomorrow, we are going to be back at 3pm Pacific.
It'll be the five of our five-series for the week.
What we've been talking about this week has all been about really setting you up to
make progress on purpose in 2017.
In any time in the future, but since we're here at the end of the year, and often in
conversation about New Year's resolutions, then I think it's a particularly timely
period for us to reflect on what's working, what's not working, what you would like
to see happening in this next year.
So, tomorrow, for our fifth chat: What we're going to be talking about is really living
a life that matters to you.
And designing your life in such a way, kind of continuing the conversation on what I was
just mentioning in terms of curating your life.
But there's so many different layers and details and ways that you can start to customize
and tail-yer—tail-yer?—wow!
Tailor your life to be really true to who you are.
And to support to you.
And you being at full power.
And being able to make the difference that you want to make.
And to be able to make (progress) from a place of love instead of fear.
It's like night and day in terms of life experience.
So we're going to be talking about that tomorrow and what kind of things you can do
to start to take some next right steps towards customizing your life, so that when you wake
up in the morning, you're happy about it, and you're excited about things, and you
don't feel like you're just sort of going through the motions or existing.
Where you don't feel trapped in your own success.
That's something that I think happens a lot.
Where we get good at things, we're rewarded for being a certain kind of person to others
or maybe being in a certain job or having a particular role.
We do it, but inside it feels like it's sucking the life out of us.
So tomorrow, we're going to be talking about things like that and how you can craft and
design your life so that it's one that matters to you, that you're really excited about.
Cool?
So I don't know that we have any questions right now, but certainly if you're watching
this later, feel free to chime in and I'd be very happy to reply back to those.
I always love hearing what you guys have to say.
And I will look forward to seeing you tomorrow at 3pm Pacific.
Alright, Dears!
Thanks for being with me.
Bye!
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