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Today we're going to talk about the dinner
that I planned for our seven-year wedding anniversary.
Seven years is a--I guess in today's day, is a long time
so I tried to do something kind of nice.
It was a surprise, so you know, the usual pattern
for our anniversary dinners is
I do all the planning and she just comes along
for the ride so for instance, we went to a restaurant
that's right on the water and had a table that
was right on a deck that was right on the water
and there was champagne ready for us
and she had--she had crab [really lobster] and I had
a steak. "This is quality."
"Can we eat now?" "Okay."
For none of the anniversary meals that we've had before
had I hired any music. I decided for the seven-year,
I would hire some music. We do have friends
that are part of a bagpipe band so I hired
a bagpipe player and he played Amazing Grace and
a few other hymns and it was, it was really nice--
to be honest, I just ran out of time, I had to get something done
so I hired a bagpipe player--
but it turned out really nice. The meal was nice,
the ambience was nice, and I thought I pulled it off
to be honest, yeah
So I was not expecting the bagpipes
which is really funny that when we got there
I heard some bagpipes in the background I was like
oh that's interesting, we've got some nice
background music here, and he asked, "Do you like it?"
and I said yeah, it sounds nice
and then later on he like comes down
and like plays for us. People were like looking at us.
I bet they were thinking who are these Americans
getting a Scottish bagpipe player to play for them?
"We're here on our seventh anniversary dinner
we just had like bagpipes play for us.
The whole restaurant was enraptured by it.
I think people think it's weird that we hired a bagpiper--
is that what they're called?
Yes, bagpipe player, yes.
Um we had some really great comments afterwards
from someone who just said congratulations
on your anniversary and just to tell you it was a great
experience and I videoed some of the
playing and it just made the the evening for them
even nicer, so
yeah, so it's quite unorthodox for British people to
come up and actually talk to you that
are strangers and say something nice
out of the blue so that was really lovely.
Felipe asked me if I had heard of this thing
called the 7-year itch
which I didn't know, so he told me to google it
PEACE
it turns out that when you get into a
relationship seven years in, people typically get unhappy
with their relationship, that's what they say
and then they like they look for attention elsewhere
yeah I had never heard of it until people at work were
mentioning it actually
So the signs of approaching a 7-year itch I guess are
if you feel like you're frustrated or something
is being irritating towards you I guess, they say,
It all revolves--
it seems to all revolve around being annoyed,
or not satisfied with
what you're getting out of the relationship.
Yeah so that's just totally the wrong approach
to marriage, people if you haven't figured it out yet,
I'm sure we've said it a million times, yeah
marriage is not about how the person--other person is
gonna serve you and what you're going to
get out of it
and so I think because we don't have that mindset--
PREACH--
we just don't, we don't think this is gonna end,
like there's some impending doom
as JFK said, it's not what your country can do for you,
it's what you can do for your country,
likewise it's not what your marriage or
your spouse can do for you,
it's about what you can do for your spouse.
We had no idea what the 7-year itch was,
we're not gonna get it,
no and we're really happy.
yeah
there are always times where there's conflict or
I feel like annoyed or disappointed.
The reality is I have to change my mindset.
I have to grow up because I think that's a childish
kind of reaction to life.
Gratefulness is lacking when people start thinking of
what they're missing out on and if you
just remind yourself what you're grateful for,
you're not going to get that way about, you know,
picky and disappointed and that's the truth.
Everybody has something to be grateful for
and we can always change our mindset
to become more positive on our outlook on life.
mmm yeah I guess what you're saying is
it's about fostering an attitude of thankfulness.
The antidote to the 7-year itch is having a spirit
of thankfulness
that's right, so we're looking forward to
the next, you know, many many anniversaries and
I don't want him to make a big deal out of like the eighth
or the ninth, but I think the tenth year anniversary,
I would like to go on a cruise or something,
just putting this out there for you guys to keep him
accountable. And then we are hoping to do
like a rededication at like 20 years--
baby re-dedication? PEACE
No, a rededication of our vows
Oh right
Um, in the church and I get to wear a wedding dress
and everything again.
Does that mean I get to have a bachelor party again?
No,
oh my gosh, you know what?
Felipe's bachelor party was him, two of his buddies
and where do they go?
They went to see the history of America
We went to Williamsburg, Virginia,
yeah one of the oldest colonial cities of America.
yeah and all I see are pictures of them, you know,
in the reenactments and in the courtrooms and
taking photos with the actors and, I'm like,
what an interesting bachelor party, yes.
Thanks for watching I hope you enjoyed some of our
footage of our seven year anniversary and
hope that you guys are having successes in marriage
and are able to celebrate it with joy.
We'd love to hear what you think about the 7-year itch
and hopefully we can be an encouragement to you.
Bye! PEACE!
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