you are just not satisfied with maybe your body your friends where you live
your career you don't really like what's going on but where do you go what do you do
III get it I had a midlife crisis apparently
we all go through it we all go through it
thanks so much for tuning into our second act with Paige and Silke for your second act of
life hey Silke hi Paige well today we want to revisit a
subject we've talked about in you know to various degrees and that is well
reinvention some call it today we're gonna call it midlife crisis and you
know why that is or isn't bad you know as we go through this I know that you
have a take on it that we wanted to discuss so I'm gonna ship it over
to you so you know I think I'd start with you know what are some of the
causes that create midlife crisis besides being in your midlife with age
right so we have the societal messages about aging which can be pretty
frightening cuz they're not the best messages the fear of the aging process
oh my god who's gonna take care of me what if this happens to me what if you
know what if what if what if always living in the what ifs
the losses and you know we could have a loss at this age but it really is all
the losses that came before midlife and I'm not talking death I'm talking so
many different forms that lost come in you're going through a divorce or a
change in a relationship some course you've got to change with your adult
children now that doesn't feel comfortable or is not healthy or
whatever that might be career changes maybe you're done doing the same thing
you've been doing all this time financial challenges that's a huge one
you know how much more can I work to take care of myself when I get to be X
amount of age and then any kind of traumas that have occurred in your life
that you haven't dealt with like these are some of the causes that kind of come
together when we happen to be in midlife well and what
you know what is the difference really between a crises which you know implies
something very negative to a reinvention well I think like anything crisis gets
our attention but we shouldn't have to live by crisis for life to get our
attention it's about you know connecting to your knowing which I always say and
paying attention and be aware of what's going on that's why we're giving people
you know these are some of the causes so as we segue into that which is
perfect Silke let me talk about a little bit of the symptoms that you may be
experiencing you know you're just dissatisfied and you might not even know
why you're dissatisfied but things just don't feel as good as they used to maybe
your relationship isn't giving you what you want it to give you anymore
maybe you're feeling down and depressed you're focusing a lot more on your
appearance and everything has to be perfect oh my god I'm getting older you
are just not satisfied with maybe your body your friends where you live your
career but you don't know what to do with it you kind of feel stuck this all
feels kind of yucky you don't really like what's going on but where do you go
what do you do i I get it I had a midlife crisis
apparently we all go through it we all go through it to to the extreme I mean
to one extreme or another everybody does it differently and you know emotionally
they're you know the stages are think about it how many us deny I'm not in
midlife I'm not you know no I can still do this I can still run and do
triathlons this or that my body can still do what it wants I don't have
wrinkles let me just do some of this this this I'm good things aren't sagging
you know denial denial denial and then when we finally realize holy crap I'm in
midlife then it's easy to get angry and frustrated because what can you do about
it you're here and then sometimes you can get depressed and you can get down
because you see people younger than you doing this this and that and thinking oh
my gosh they're doing all that is there anything exciting and adventurous left
for me is there anything new for me that like a 20 year old in the 30 year old
are experiencing for the first time and then sometimes people withdraw and they
can really isolate which is not always a bad thing if you're withdrawing to kind
of figure out what's going on and reaching out for help and figuring out
and then we hope that on the other side you begin to embrace you begin to
transform and shift into what you want your second act to be like so crisis
midlife holy crap is it a bad thing no because things like
this force us to pay attention to shift and change those things that we haven't
shift and changed are those things that we haven't had time to to grieve or
figure out that maybe we can do now to step in and transform in our second
act see to me I think it's the recognition that life is finite that
there is an end to life at some point and we're getting closer and closer to
it and thus becomes that crisis thinking if you will that causes you to
re-evaluate and see if this is really you know am i living my purpose my
passion is do I want to go on like this and to me it's more you know the
reaction of how you handle it is what makes it you know good or bad you
know I mean in my case I could be described as the ultimate midlife crisis
I left a 25-year marriage and totally changed my life some people might say
well that's a crutch you know to me that's it was all very very positive so
I'm wondering are you you know what makes it healthy and what makes it not
so healthy and remember you're what you deem crisis for you can look very
different for someone else so it really is coming down to when you're in a
midlife of anything everything from years prior starts to cave in and the
reality of what you said oh my gosh I have less time in front of me and I have
more time and back of me but remember this we are all given the exact time
that we need to finish do what we need here in this lifetime
whether you want to believe that or not so if you're going oh my god I have to
do this as this this and this you'll become more scattered and not as focused
so go within it's okay if you have these feelings these emotions if you're going
through this feeling dissatisfied that's okay it's kind of like being an
adolescent again where you're having all this this stuff hit you you have to work
through it and I would suggest working through it with someone who can help you
go through what are the stages where are you now what are the losses what do you
want to shift and change and for women huh we have a double whammy because our
hormones are going crazy at this time too which exacerbates the feelings that
were having make sense it absolutely makes sense and
you know when we say the word midlife crisis of course right away what we
think of immediately we are at least I do think of a man in a Porsche you know
with somebody 20 years younger than him and that isn't that is one reaction I
suppose to you know dealing with whatever you want to do to improve your
life but I think what you're saying is or
I believe what you're saying is that really we have to work on ourselves and
then external things don't do anything to fix that external things have never
done anything to fix internal things at any stage of your life and it's not
gonna happen now it'll just be a short-term fix for a long-term issue
that's waiting and pleading for you to step into to go wow this can be better
than you imagined so it's okay if you have some fear while you're going
through it but at least you're stepping into it and exploring where am i why am
i dissatisfied what can I break down to figure out what's going on and what I
can do next because you're not dead yet
well and you know that that kind of leads us into what our next segment is
going to be on and talked about so you know facing your emotions and not
suppressing them so let's wrap the segment up Paige and
what would you like to leave our viewers with anything else just that it's okay
most people go through it step into it don't look for something external to fix
something internal and just know don't be afraid of what's down in there
because what's down in there is gonna be what's best for you
very good Paige thanks we'll see you on our next segment of our second act with
Paige and Silke for your second act of life thanks so much for watching for
more information on living your life to the fullest after 50 please visit our
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How to Create Happiness in Your Life Every Day | Jacqueline Way - Duration: 14:19.
So we heard in the introduction that you
started this charitable organization - 365give
and why don't you just tell us about your
start and how that all began.
Absolutely. Well, it started a lot of years ago
and as many of you heard - it's my super fun fact,
no longer up - I am a mother to three super beautiful
little boys that I adopted locally here in Vancouver.
Now I know, not all of you think that having three boys
is fun but my kids are great and when I started the
adoption process you go through a lot of
questions and one of the questions that came up as we
were going through the process was what are your
expectations for your child? What do you
want him to be when he grows up or her.
At that time we didn't know.
And my answer was pretty instant.
I just really wanted my child to be a kind,
compassionate, happy little human being.
That was all the expectations I had for
my child and I realized when I took a look
around our world, raising a happy child these days isn't
quite as easy as we think it is.
The World Happiness Report actually tells us that over
220 million children suffer from anxiety and depression.
Children. And none of you are out of this.
Another 1 billion adults also suffer from anxiety
and depression. So I decided that I was going to do
something a little differently with my son.
And many of you may have heard that the first five
years of a child's life are their most
important years so at the ripe old age of three I
decided I was going to start instilling what I hoped for
for my child. And so on his third birthday,
over birthday cake and ice cream, I sat my son, Nick,
down and I said "Nick, we are gonna do one thing to
give back to the world every day for one year."
Yes, he had the look on his face of "Mom what
the hell are you talking about?"
So you know I had to go about this a little bit differently
and roll it out in three-year old terms so I got out the
crayons and the pencils and off we went and I said
"Nick we're gonna do one thing to be kind, helpful,
compassionate to either an animal, a human being -
another person - or the planet. And that's how we
got going. So every day for 365 days my son and I
committed to doing one daily give every day.
Excellent. And you started blogging along the way
as well so you started to tell your story a little bit.
I did, so my son actually asked if we could share it with
friends and family and I am NOT that scrapbook kind
of mom, so instead I decided I was gonna start a blog
and we named it 365give. Kind of made sense.
Now I'm not some inspiring writer or some social media
guru - this was the days before Instagram - and so I
started blogging and every day I just wrote a little story
about what Nick and I had done to give back
to the world everyday. You know our actions had to be
small and really simple. So simple a three-year-old
can do them. And so it was easy for me. Every day we
tracked our stories and it was really neat
what happened because obviously we kind of
were hoping our friends and family might check in every
now and then to see what we were doing.
But things really changed and people started reaching
out to us from all over the world because they were
actually inspired by my little three-year-old boy, Nick.
And what were some of the early gives that you did?
Oh yeah, our gives. Well you know what, I actually
happen to have right here … so this is our
daily giving list we made. We sat down. We got out the
crayons. I think they're gonna pop it up there. There it is.
So this is how simple we made giving and
some of our favorites, and we still do them to-day,
you know the donating towels and blankets down at the
local SPCA is always a favorite because when we got
down there we got to spend some time and
volunteer our time with the cats so my son
It made his day it would be like "yes" let's go
to the SPCA today and he loved that part and just
getting to spend some time and volunteering his
time while we were down there. A couple
of other favorites that, you know, were also very fun is
... we are blessed that we live down at the beach so you
know a really easy project we could do is when we went
down to go play at the beach we would pick up garbage
along the way. You know, we didn't do it for long … we
are talking about a three year old here so
but for three minutes we would pick up garbage
and very easily we could pick up a bag of garbage.
It was one of our daily gives we said to the planet.
One of the ones that we still do as well today and
as most of you know the Salvation Army
out there we would give our toys and all the
clothes that we no longer needed and we actually call
this a double daily gift because we are helping the
planet by making sure that our things we no longer
wanted weren't going into the dump and of
course it's helping people along the way.
And I think our favorite, and we still do it every
Christmas morning even to today, is we make cookies
on Christmas Day and we go and deliver them to our
local firehouse to thank them for all of their service.
And what were, this is one of my favorite podcasting
questions, what did you learn about yourself, what did
you learn along the way, what did
Nick learn? You know I think that I'm going to have to
give you two parts to this one. I think one of the first
things that I learned as a parent is that creating a daily
giving habit is actually really easy. You know I kinda
look at it like brushing your teeth every day and
I'm telling you right now it's easier to teach a
three-year-old to give than it is for them to brush their
teeth every day. But when you start thinking about it like
that, once you get into that daily habit of doing it,
it sticks with you and I can tell you right now and even
aren't still to this day in our family we make it a daily
habit and we name it in our house even if it's something
really simple - my son helps me upload the dishwasher,
he helps me set the table, we name it "you did your
365give" today so it has become a culture and when we
don't do it we really miss it. That's cool. I was telling
someone about this and about our interview today and
they said "all these great things that we wish we had
as parents." I'm glad to hear that, thank you. I wish I
could go back and do this with my girls. You know what
… it's all possible. And I know in our conversations that
you've learned some things about happiness
along the way. Maybe you could just share that.
We have well you know one of the things that I really
learned, and if you ever take a child down to the SPCA
and spend some time with those cats, you think that
you are the one giving but what you come
to understand is how happy it makes you
and every time Nick and I did our 365give, this smile
would always end up on his face and I actually came to
realize that by doing our daily give, he was becoming a
really happy the little kid and it was amazing to watch.
Cool. So after you did your initial 365 days, yes, things
built on the blog. Just continuing with your story, what
sort of happened next? Well you know if anybody
has ever heard the saying here "when you
give you receive." I'm just gonna throw this little story in
here today because I haven't told it too often but
on day 365 was the day my son's fourth
birthday that our second son came home.
He is, sorry, still to this day, the apple of my eye
and just six months later his little brother came home
and then things started to change. But what really
changed was when I got a call and it was from a
girlfriend of mine and she's a teacher here in Vancouver
and she asked me if she could take the 365give concept
into her classroom. She wanted to teach her students
how to give back to the world and she wanted to teach
them everyday how it was done. So we went to work
and we created an educational program.
It's actually a tool for teachers that
incorporates a daily giving practice with their
everyday curriculum. So as the kids are doing their
science and their math and their reading and their
writing, they also get to choose how they're going to
give back. Our program is a little bit unique because it's
powered by the kids. Instead of their teacher telling
them that they have to do this to give, the kids actually
get together and they get to choose how they want to
give back to the world. Choose causes or choose the
planet, things that are really they're inspired by and
show them how they can make an impact. And it's been
amazing to watch these kids as young as
kindergarten come up with daily giving ideas they can
do together. They give back to their schools,
they give back to their communities, they give back to
their families. And we keep watching this ripple happen
and it's been an amazing journey to watch. And then, as
Roger mentioned, you did a TEDxStanleyPark talk in
March a little over a year ago and then the video went
up in April I believe - and just tell us what's happened
since then because, I don't know if Roger mentioned it
or not, but you're up close to 2.4 million views of your
video. Amazing, amazing well and I have to tell you I'm
so humbled and and Nick and I feel so blessed.
If you want a kid that's surprised when their mom has
2.4 million views on YouTube you become the
superhero in the family. So along with my other boys.
You know when when we did that talk and when I did
my talk - I call it "How to be happy every day"
because what I learned along the journey and I don't
know if anybody here has ever heard this before, but
have you ever heard of the "Helper's High" before?
Anybody ever heard that term? So, I'm just going to
explain this a little bit and I'm going to tell you about
the talk. When you give, your endorphins actually
kick in ... you get this high … they literally call it
the "Helper's High" and researchers been studying this
for decades. What else happens is something
called the "happiness trifecta."
And its this brilliant combination of things that go off
and fire off in your brain that includes dopamine,
oxytocin and serotonin. So when you're giving, you're all
fired up and you're ready to go and you know, you're
feeling on this natural high. It's amazing. And so the talk
ended up being called "How to be happy every day, it'll
change the world" and what we realized from the talk,
as soon as it went up, people are really looking
people all over the world are looking for that key to
happiness. And the more views we got every day, and
even to today, the power of just one voice standing on a
stage telling a story like everybody here is today, is
amazing how it ripples and 2.4 million people either
have gone out and given at this point or we've planted
a seed that we know one day will stick with them.
And that one voice and that one action from my son
and one talk has taken our organization from a small,
local, Vancouver, not-for-profit to now a global
organization. We have over 250 schools in 30 countries
participating in the … we call it "The 365give challenge."
Thank you, thank you. We are so blessed. We get to
connect with people from all over the world. We have
thousands of individuals, we have hundreds of families,
we even have businesses that have come and joined
and are now part of our community and what we see
and what I hear every day from the people that email me, to the comments
on the TED talk … it's possible, it's actually possible
to change the world and it's why we're here today.
We're here to inspire brave actions and now I can
tell you it's actually possible. With one small daily give
it can ripple around the world and it's amazing.
Cool. So one final question: I'm sure you've heard
today hundreds of stories, maybe thousands of stories,
as a result of 365give. Could you just share, pick one.
Okay. I think because this one is relevant to Vancouver
rather than somewhere on the other side of the world,
I'd like to share this one with you. Last year I had the
opportunity to work with a youth philanthropy group
here in Vancouver so these are high school kids.
And I had 12 kids and they wanted to do something with
365give and show their community that they too could
make a difference. And we know the challenges with
being a high school kid student these days. So we got
together and we came up with a special day and we call
it "Do one give day." Well these kids let me tell you
- they got every school in our district involved, they
accomplished 4,000 daily gives in one day just with our
school district and globally another six which made
10,000 daily gives in 30 countries globally and these
kids just amaze me of when you give them the power to
go out and change the world that they've made it
possible. So we're looking forward to moving that
forward this year and and bringing more people on
board and making even a bigger change. Thank you.
Thank you. That's from my West Vancouver kids. I just
love them. Kids really get it, don't they. Yes, they
completely get it. It's the rest of us that have to catch up.
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A WEEK IN MY LIFE | FUMIYA VLOG - Duration: 13:38.
Today, I'm here at Philippines restaurant in Japan.
Wow! There are stage!
Mr.Fujita!
There are many Filipino food!
I don't know the name of this food!
I'm gonna eat Sinigang and...
What's this?😂
I don't know this food😂
Sinigang is good!
Lately I've started to like Sinigang.
Masarap!
Good!
My hair has grown!
Since I'm always having the same hairstyle,
I wanted to have a change of image!
I haven't decided of what hairstyle I'm gonna have, but I want to change my image!
Today, I'm gonna try freestyle basketball
I got this ball from my friend!
Let's play!
Please show us your basketball skill!
Kenta: Wait!!
We're taking a break now.
And we are gonna eat Takoyaki!
Japanese street food
Wow! Amazing!
What's inside the egg?
It's only egg😂
Your reaction is so fast😂
I'm gonna eat this!
It's so Delicious!!!!
I got some package!
Kpop artists have their hair until the nape of the neck, and it's getting popular in Japan too,
so I would like to do that today.
I want to have other hairstyles too!
I want to dye my hair too!
Anyway, I bought this snack!
I'm craving for a chocolate egg!
I don't know why
Chocolate egg is so delicious ,right?
I really like this
I found The Incredibles!
I like Disney movie!
I've watched The Incredibles many times
It's so interesting!
And recently I watched Incredibles 2!
It was nice!
My favorite character is Dash
I like Dash!
He is a fast runner.
Let's eat!
This brings back memories!
This is seldom sold in Japan
I only wanted this toy when i was child
But now I want to eat this chocolate
Good!
This chocolate tastes like from other country.
I like this chocolate,
because it tastes like my favorite ice cream Magnum
I used to drop my ice cream and got scold by my parents!
I like this chocolate!
I'm gonna open it!
It's not Dash!
What's this?
I really don't know how to use😂
This character is Jack-Jack
Oishi!(Good)
I got some package today!
It's like an electronic cigarette
This does not harm the body!
It doesn't contain nicotine and tar.
This contains vitamins!
I'm not sure if this is really good for the body,
but it's better than cigarette for sure!
I'm not sure, but I bought this!
I actually used to smoke before,
but then I got a lung pneumonia and had a hole in my lungs!
Had an operation.
After that, I quit smoking.
But i wanted to try this! so bought this!
This is Mint flavor!
I might start to like this!
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NARUTO 🍥🍥🍥 | Draw My Life - Duration: 4:47.
Naruto is a manga series written and illustrated by Masashi Kishimoto, published by the publishing
house Shueisha Inc.
Naruto Uzumaki is a teenage ninja who has the Nine Tails fox, Kyubi, inside.
12 years before the beginning of the story, this demon had attacked the Hidden Village
of the Leaf, and killed lots of people.
As a consequence, the leader of the village, the fourth Hokage , sacrified his life to
seal it inside Naruto when he was a newborn, and so stopped the massacre.
Because of this, Naruto suffered abuses during all his childhood, by those who considered
him the Kyubi itself.
As a solution for this, the Third Hokage, who had to retake power after the sacrifice
of the Fourth, issued a decree where he banned mentioning anything about the demon's attack,
and whoever did this, would be severely punished.
In the present times, Naruto graduates from the Ninja Academy.
He becomes friends with Sasuke Uchiha and Sakura Haruno, with whom he starts the TEAM
7, along with his sensei Kakashi Hatake.
While they learn new abilities and meet new characters during their missions, Naruto fights
for his dream to become the leader of his village, a Hokage, and be recognized as someone
important.
During the Chunin Exam, Orochimaru, one of the most sought for criminals, and some ninjas
from the Hidden Village of the Sand, they attack the Hidden Village of the Leaf.
Naruto stops the Íchibí, the 1 tail beast and its container, Gaara, before they destroy
the village.
Orochimaru kills the Third Hokage as an act of personal revenge.
Jiraiya one of the Legendary 3 Ninjas, who had trained Naruto for the exam, starts the
search for his old team mate, Tsúnadé, to name her Fifth Hokage.
During the search, it is revealed that Orochimaru wants to find Sasuke , to offer him the power
he so desires to kill his brother Itachi, responsible for having killed the whole clan.
Sasuke accepts and goes train with him, betraying his village and turning into a renegaded.
Sakura stays in the village training with Tsunade to be a ninja doctor and be able to
help her friends.
In the meantime, Naruto decides to leave his village along with Jiraiya, during 2 years
and a half.
His main goal is train and prepare to save Sasuke, and make it as the Hokage of the Hidden
Village of the Leaf.
Naruto's name comes from an ingredient in ramen, which he loves, made of fish based
pasta with a pink spiral in the center.
It is also the name of a Japanese city with natural rapids nearby.
Uzumaki means whirl wind, and the whole name altogether makes reference to the belief that,
when energy flows in a spiral movement, it is unstoppable.
The character never had any love or attention during his childhood.
This led to his wish to turn into the leader of his village, in order to have that recognition
and respect he never had.
In order to achieve this, Naruto has great determination, something we can tell by his
self confidence – he always completes every mission easily.
His strong competitiveness against Sasuke helps him move forward, be persistent and
become stronger and stronger, both physically and mentally.
. The manga, which has come to an end already,
is formed by 72 volumes.
There are two anime adaptations: Naruto and Naruto Shippuden, which continues the story
of the first one, and finished with its last episode in March 2017.
Naruto has also given room to several movies and OVAS, and tons of videogames.
As a continuation of the saga, Boruto: Naruto Next Generations was created, the manga first,
followed by the anime adaptation.
It tells the adventures and trainings of Boruto Uzumaki, Naruto's son.
Naruto is one of the most sold MANGA SERIES in history.
With an uncountable legion of fans, Naruto is one of the most important mangas in Japan.
It captures so many people because of its story, characters and exciting adventures.
Who's your favorite character??
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I've been working with someone the last while and a big thing that we were working
on, was trying to get them to execute something small and simple.
Traditionally they put a lot of time into doing a near-perfect job, getting it
exactly right before it's out there. So that concept of just doing something
small & simple, maybe even easy, compared to what they think it should be,
has been a hard thing to execute. This is myself included, I would rather
get something that's perfect than just put anything out there. It's
something I battled with to try and get around that mentality, The thing is
he's started this now and he's now executing these small workouts, these
short workouts which he thought didn't make any sense and had no value.
Now he's seeing the value in the workouts, he's making progress and because he's
executing these small things we can now do bigger things and get closer to what
is a more beneficial, more perfect workout. This was just a small thing I
just wanted to chat about, whether you spend time trying to do something near
perfect or something just getting it out there no matter what it is and it's that
balance between the two that will ultimately lead to your success in fitness
and probably success in other areas too. We'll chat soon
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Your positivity inspires our calling,
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You inspire us to do more.
You inspire us to transform lives.
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Whoho hello and welcome everybody, today is the 2nd part of our series on
how to literally find your life purpose in a reasonable amount of time.
So if you haven't watched the first part of this series I recommend you do so, because
you're going to get a lot of important information that you will need for this very video.
So you probably remember that the model that I wanna talk about is
the amazing model of Ikigai which is this ancient Japanese concept for
anything between life purpose and the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning.
Your driver, your guiding star, literally that one thing that
everything in your life is about. There ARE a couple of disclaimers and you
will find them in the last video, the most important being: This is a big
concept, but let's chillax everyone. Because -you know- you don't have to find your entire life purpose
in 20 minutes.
But it's possible to have some sort of working hypothesis. So relax, if the insights
you're going to be getting the next five minutes aren't like "boom, boom, boom, boom, boom"
(if they are, congratulations), and
if they're not it doesn't mean that you're lost.
So here we go: From the last video you will remember that there are these four
things, the four purpose areas as I like to call them. And these are the
things that you love doing, the things that you're really really good at, the
stuff that world needs, and the stuff that you can be paid for. And there are
a couple of really, really interesting things and insights that can pop up,
if you look at the overlap of these exciting areas. These overlaps are the
things we're going to focus on today.
So the first overlap is passion and passion is where talent meets love.
It's where stuff that you're really good at meets the stuff that you love doing.
And I think what is so important to note here it is is that it's not actually
stuff you have to be paid for nor does it have to be particularly useful. Right?
So you know my ... one of my passions is... I love googling late at night
amazing and exciting venues where we can host our seminars in. You know, maybe even a
little bit useful but frankly -I mean- I spend so much time doing that but you
might argue whether that is really a very productive thing. And other things
-I don't know- I love old furniture, I'm really good at you know like distinguishing
different styles and -you know- actually styling other people's apartments. And I have this
massive pinterest wall of different antiques.
I don't know- I just have this massive passion for this. And... as said I just
want to highlight: Your passion does not have to be your job. That's one of
the little tiny insights that I love about this model, you know. It doesn't have to
be your job because per sé you don't have to be paid for it nor does it have to be
particularly useful.
If the passion is the overlap between your talents and the
things that you love doing, actually it kind of excludes by definition all the
stuff that you're mediocre at or really bad at. And why is that so interesting?
I'm just going to jump back to this whole "I-want-to-be-more-passionate-with-
my-career"-kind of questions just because we get those a lot. If you are asking
yourself "How passionate a I... like... is my job really my passion?" Think about the
degree to which things you're really good and ... the things you love
things that you love are represented in your daily life on your job. And think
about to which extent are there things that you are medicore at or bad at.
Or that I feel "less than l.o.v.e." for.
Two points here: 1) The things I just said are really good to
evaluate, but also -as said before- 2) your passion does not have to be your job.
So if it is -I mean- LUCKY YOU. And if it isn't -you know- have mercy.
Because I know for instance in my own story I am massively passionate about
what I do. But this had to grow over -I don't know- five or six years.
And I started the job I do today as hobby, as a hustling project. And what I'm seeing
is and it's far more important to really -you know- understand what your passion is
than to make it part of your career directly. Because one thing I can share
with you are with you for sure and that is: If you turn your passion into a job
but you don't have the the skillset and it's just not sufficiently
useful for other people, the amount of money/payment you might be
generated for this just might not meet your standards. And if the job you are
picking that is based on your passion does not provide for a life that you
love, you're going to start sabotaging your own job, your one passionate thing.
And that the last place where you want to be, because you will just start hating
that thing that's in this magic overlap between talent love. And that is such
a bad place to be. So yes, you can evaluate your job according to you how
passionate you really feel about it. And if it turns out that you are actually
not so passionate, have mercy. Have mercy and rather create space and time
for side projects, for hustling projects for great hobbies that will give you
that passion. And then later on you can still think about how to turn that
into a business or how do I include that more in my career. So that was a long
speech, but I just think included it because this is such a central point in the
questions that we are getting. So I hope it's gonna be valuable for you guys.
So the second amazing overlap is between what love and usefulness.
So between the things that you love doing stuff that the world needs. And we call it your "mission".
We call that your mission, because it's something that you just enjoy and it's
needed. And that's why you do it -you know- it doesn't have to bring you money,
you don't even have to be very good at it. So a very common example is people
being a parent. Probably -you know- everybody makes crazy mistakes as
parents. We've all been wounded by our parent by our parents. And we as parents
will wound our children. It's probably the hardest in the world.
Nevertheless -you know- it's ... once you have your child, it's just your mission and
you do it no matter what. For other people and I just remember a super,
super cool coaching client that we had. She is someone who had this mission to
build this mentoring program for young people that are neither in education,
employment or training or in any sort of structure provided by the government. And
you know: Was she the very best person to build this organization? We don't know.
But she loved mentoring, and she loved the idea of a very big
organization. And that's what she's doing. Is she being be paid for it? Well... not yet.
But that's what I'm saying, right? And for me personally for instance, I guess you know
my biggest mission is to support the the International heads of all these
international NGOs that we've been working with. If you know my
own story you will know that I have been helped so much by these organisations.
And they have this massively big place in my heart. You know, in the past we gave
we gave a way up to like 40 percent of our revenues as scholarships for people
from the nonprofit sector. So hey, are we the best people to ever help them?
Idon't even know. Are we making money from this? Definitely not!
Is it needed? Yes! And do we love doing it? Yes! So...
There's one really great thing about this whole mission... little ... overlap... kind of.
And that is: It is actually impossible to fail in your mission. And what do I mean by that?
Someone might take away your stage. You know, The Arc might fail as an
organization or the mentoring organization of our client, of my friend to
be fully honest might also fail. Right? You might actually fail as a parent to a
pretty high degree. But doesn't mean that you cannot choose to pursue that
path? No, it doesn't. You will still be that person to who being a parent is
massively, to who mentoring these kids is
massively important. And I will probably never stop -you know- doing everything I
can to support these international NGO. So that is maybe the one cool thing to
give us peace of mind: If you know what your mission is, it is impossible to
fail it. Because no matter how dire the context is that you are in
you always are probably going to have a choice to go on this direction, or
this other action... And knowing where your mission is will point you towards the right one.
So here we go the next overlap and that the one between talent and profit, i.e. the things that you
are really really good at and the stuff that you can be paid for. Now... if you're
here to get rich quickly, this is probably the box that you want to have a
lot of really smart things in, because yeah I mean obviously being very good at
something that you can be paid for for really well yeah might just end up being
massively beneficial for your bank account.
The challenge for most people though is that at least by definition your
profession does not have to be something that you love. And it might also be
something that is not particularly useful to the world. Having said that
though remember how we said earlier that, if -for instance- the passion project that
you're having or that passion business that you're thinking of building does
not provide you the lifestyle that you want - if that's the case then you would
actually start sabotaging that very own beautiful project of yours? In order to
actually prevent that the whole "profession" box is really the box to optimize.
So more practically, what am I talking about? If you are
knowing already that you have the side hobby, the side hustling project that
you really would love to develop, but you are worried that it will not pay you enough,
relax about it. Just be fine with the fact to have it a little bit
separate. You know, you don't have to move towards the center of this Ikigai
right away or in one year. You have your entire life to do it and a lot of
you a little never. So relax about it. And just think about the ways how you
can -you know- have a profession and how you can sort of balance this
with everything that you put under the passion overlap "shlash" corner, right?
So, I mean even -you know- at The Arc there's so many people who are pulling off their
own massively amazing project which fulfills them which is absolutely
fantastic for them. But at the same time they're working as freelancers to finance
their living. And -you know- sometimes this is looked down upon a little bit in a
sense that... yeah... but you have to you know quit your job and throw yourself in there
fully. But I think that's a little bit of an unfair judgment because
for me, I personally think it's pretty daring to actually pursue
something of which you don't know yet how you are going to make money with it.
So if you are really very self-critical around
"oh-my-passion-just-isn't-worth-being-funded-or-being-paid-for" You know, relax!
Oftentimes something will pop up over time and... maybe there's just no
market for this. And that's fine. We also use the "profession box" or overlap or
whatever you want to call it, as a counterweight. If you have for instance a passion that
you feel, you struggle to make money with.
So the last magic overlap is "vocation"
where usefulness meets profitability or profit. So where
what world needs meets what you can be paid for. For a lot of people it's
really hard to get the heads around between the difference of "vocation" and
"profession". How are these things even different? [pause] Weird! And I think
I can explain it best using a small example from my own personal life.
Because I guess for most people it's easy to identify their profession,
the stuff that they're good at and that they can be paid for. Vocation is a
little bit harder sometimes and maybe you don't even think of anything in
particular right now or maybe what you were thinking of is pretty hypothetical.
But here is the personal example: So I have been working with someone who is
actually a former teacher and who has this crazy social enterprise. And he has
all these ideas around how to lower school absentism. So basically how to
lower the number of students and pupils that are missing from school, because
they're like... for a lot of reasons. So what he came up with it was actually a
software that would monitor these absentisms where people ore actually in
that case the teachers would have to log. Now is he really loving IT?
He's a teacher I can tell you he's not completely against it, but it's definitely
not the biggest love of his life. And is he massively good at programming
IT systems? Well for sure not. And he basically had to hire a programmer. But is it something that
the world needs? And something he can be paid for? Definitely yes! So that
particular business for instance is a good case of showing what a "vocation" means.
I hope this made it clear for you. So let's start off and get down a couple of
things for that.
So that's it already. That's sort of the end of the second
episode of the series. And I am going to challenge you to just go back to your first
Ikigai, those magic 15 words or mantra that you have come up with after
the first video. And just look at it again and see: Does it still make sense?
What's the overlap between all the things that now you've come up with
and things that you've already come up with out the first video? Just iterate
and see what happens. Maybe -you know- you are a little scared or would be
like "Wow, how will I ever get this done?" or like "thanks for that" [frustrated], maybe you are even
a bit disappointed. The one thing I can tell you it: There's an actual risk of
you just putting that piece of paper aside and not doing anything.
The risk is real. We know this because, hey, it's very easy to
not follow through upon the stuff you really should be following through. But
-you know- they're surely out there are a lot of people who don't want to part
with us, but if you're one of those people who DO want support with us, dare to
contact us for a coffee chat. It's a 45 to 60 minutes free coaching where we will
find out if The Arc is really for you, whether or not we can support you. And
yeah what the next steps could be. So if that is something that excites you
dare to click on the link below. Check out the website, we are
organising bootcamps, retreats, coachings, amazing events across Europe
and yeah it's a super open community... whose people are really just
waiting -you know- for you to be welcomed. Don't be scared, it's really a hell of a lot of fun.
And see you soon!
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Holiday Life Hacks - Tangled Lights, A Fuller Christmas Tree, Elf Donuts - Duration: 3:32.
OK SO DOES
ANY OF THIS SOUND FAMILIAR
LIGHTS THAT YOU JUST HAVE NO
PATIENCE FOR BECAUSE THEY ARE
A TANGLED MESS OR HOW ABOUT
ROLES ARE WRAPPING PAPER I
DON'T HAVE TIME FOR IT THIS
HOLIDAY SEASON WHICH IS WHY
I'M HERE TO THE RESCUE SO WE
HAVE A COUPLE OF LATEX TODAY
THAT WE ARE GOING TO TURN
THIS MESS INTO ABSOLUTELY
BEAUTIFUL CREATION OK SO
FIRST OFF LET'S GET RID OF
THIS WRAPPING PAPER YOU
ALWAYS LOOK FOR A PLACE TO
STORE IT RIGHT WHY NOT A
TRENDY LITTLE WASTE PAPER OK
CUTTING MERRILL'S A PAPER IN
THERE AND THIS WILL TALK
NEATLY INTO YOUR CLOSET
BEHIND THE DOOR YOU CAN
ALWAYS HAVE A HANDY WHEN
YOU'RE DOING A LITTLE BIT
TRAPPING YOU COULD JUST HAVE
IT IN ONE PLACE AND PROBABLY
THE HIGHER THE WASTEBASKET
BIG HEAVY ROLES RIGHT EXACTLY
GOOD IDEA OK ONE DOWN THESE
LIGHTS ANNOYING THERE ARE
ALWAYS TANGLED UP BIRD'S NEST
EVERY TIME YOU GET THE JOB SO
IF HE FINALLY MANAGED TO GET
THEM UNRAVELED AND YOU KNOW
HOW TO TRAVEL THEM BACK UP
WEALTH THE BEST THING THAT
YOU'VE GOT A HUNDRED OF THESE
ANYWAY 5000 1000 YOU JUST
BASICALLY WRAP YOUR LIGHTS
AROUND YOUR COAT HANGER AND
YOU HAVE YOUR PLUG AND AND
THIS LITTLE THIS LITTLE HOOK
AREA NIE THAT YOUR LIGHTS ARE
QUICKLY STORED YOU CAN HANG
HIM IN THE GARAGE YOU CAN YOU
CAN PUT THEM IN THE SAME
CLAUSE THAT YOU JUST PUT YOUR
WRAPPING PAPER RIGHT RIGHT
THAT'S A GREAT IDEA OF THESE
THINGS WERE BAD YEAH SOMEONE
TANGLED THESE UP REAL GOOD
DUTERTE WILL HAVE A WORD WITH
THEM OK SO IT'S TAKEN CARE OF
NUMBER TWO ALL RIGHT NOW
THE THIRD TRICK YOU'RE
STANDING NEXT TO A CHRISTMAS
TREE LITTLE BEAR I LOVE
THE CHRISTMAS TREE BUT IT
NEEDS AND THAT'S WHERE I
THINK GARLAND WILL FIT VERY
WELL. SO IF YOU HAVE AN EMPTY
SPOTLIGHT IT LOOKS PRETTY
BEAR RIGHT AROUND THE MIDDLE
YOU CAN ACTUALLY USE GARLAND
TO FILL YOUR CHRISTMAS TREE
TO MAKE IT LOOK FULLER TO
MAKE IT MORE ALIVE HE GETS A
GREAT IDEA AND IF YOU'RE GOOD
ENOUGH WHICH IT LOOKS LIKE
YOU ARE YOU WON'T EVEN NOTICE
IT? THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT'S FILLED IT LOOKS
NATURAL AND OF COURSE IF YOU
HAVE A NATURAL TREAT YOU DO
WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE
KEEPING IT WATERED AND YOU
WANT A KIND OF COLOR MATT IT
TO THAT GARLAND AND YOU KNOW
THAT SOME OF THIS STUFF AND
THAT MAKES IT LOOK EVEN MORE
FALL YEAH YEAH. LIFE HACK
POINT TO 2.0 RIGHT THERE OK
THERE'S OUT FROM THE SHOW YOU
HAVE AN ELF ON THE SHELF IF
YOU HAVE KIDS AT HOME YOU
PROBABLY KNOW EXACTLY WHO
THIS LITTLE GUY WELL WE FOUND
A FUN CRAFT THAT WILL BE A
NICE WE'RE TALKING ELF
DOUGHNUTS NOW WE HAVE A
COUPLE OF CHEERIOS PROBABLY
GOT A BOX OF THESE IN YOUR
PANTRY OR SOMETHING OR OTHER
THEY'RE VERY CHEAP AT
THE STORE BUT IF YOU TAKE
CHEERIOS AND YOU PAINT THEM
BROWN WITH A LITTLE OR
CHOCOLATE ICING AS I LIKE TO
CALL THEM YEAH. EVENTUALLY
WITH VERY LITTLE EFFORT WITH
WASHABLE PAINT AND A FUN TIME
WITH THE KIDS YOU CAN MAKE
DOUGHNUT YOU CAN MAKE DONUTS
FOR BUDDY OR JOHN OR WHATEVER
YOUR OWN GERTRUDE OR WHATEVER
YOU GOT TO USE THAT
PAINTBRUSH YEAH. OH YOU KNOW
WHY DID YOU DO WANT TO USE
CHOCOLATE ICING THAT IF YOU
THINK YOUR KIDS ARE GOING TO
EAT THEM THAT MIGHT BE A
BETTER IDEA YES SO YEAH
FROSTING PEANUT BUTTER IS
ALSO A REALLY GOOD ONE IF
YOU'RE LOOKING TO MAKE DOUBLE
DONUTS PAPAGENO KEEP THEM
BUSY WE WENT THROUGH LIKE
THREE OR FOUR LIFE TAX FOR
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