9 Things You Need To Stop Doing If You Want To Be Successful
Earl Nightingale, American motivational speaker and author, once said, "We become what we
think about."
Perhaps truer words have never been spoken.
The human mind is an incredible thing, and having the right attitude and mindset has
routinely been stated by numerous successful people as being a pivotal key to success.
Sometimes, however, it is easy to get side-tracked.
Situations in life can get in the way of our goals, self-esteem, and personal well being.
Truthfully, success is a subjective term, and everyone will disagree over what constitutes
being successful.
In this video, I'm going to show you 9 things you need to stop doing if you want to be successful.
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So, here are 9 things you need to stop doing if you want to be successful.
1.
Stop Expecting Perfection
Often, we get frustrated when things don't work out the way we want them to, or as quickly
as we'd like them to.
We stress over small details, or beat ourselves up for getting one thing wrong, or forgetting
to dot one I or cross one T. People are fallible.
Mistakes and drawbacks are a fact of life.
Nothing is nor will it ever be perfect, and that's okay.
Stressing out over minute details or things that would have been impossible to get to
is unproductive and unhealthy.
Start saying that you will do your personal best, because at the end of the day, you're
not in competition with anyone but yourself.
Example: Jennifer Lawrence is someone who everyone seems to be talking about right now,
but did you know she was rejected for the role of Bella Swan in 'Twilight'?
She also didn't take theater classes.
She just trusted her instincts and worked as hard as possible to land acting roles.
Obviously, she wasn't perfect for every role, but she didn't expect perfection.
She takes her failures and rejections well, trying to learn from each situation.
2.
Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
It's always important to know your limits, and people will always try to test them.
Human beings are social animals.
We want to interact with others and feel like we are a part of something or like we are
special to someone else.
People also, for the most part, like to please others.
Sometimes, however, it's easy to be taken advantage of.
Whether it's helping a co-worker with something when you can't really afford to, or loaning
a friend money you can't really afford to give.
Out of guilt, people often say yes to people and situations that they really should say
no to.
Don't be afraid to trust your gut and say no.
Sometimes you can't stay a few hours later because you had other plans or important errands
to run.
Sometimes it's okay to say no to that co-worker that keeps nagging you for help but is really
just stalling because they don't want to work and know you'll help them.
Sometimes it's okay to prioritize other things over work.
Saying no is healthy.
Saying no means that you know your boundaries and can demand respect.
Example: Margaret Thatcher is known as being tough.
She was a powerful politician.
She also knew during her career when she had to take a stand, and sometimes that stand
meant saying no to bad political and economic policy.
3.
Stop Negative Self-Dialogue
We all can probably play back in our minds every negative or embarrassing thing we've
ever done to ourselves, been subjected to, or done to someone else.
Whether it's tripping over one's shoelaces in the fourth grade, or being fired from a
job, wronging someone else, or overhearing someone speaking negatively about us, those
thoughts are forever solidified in our minds.
Replaying those thoughts, however, and constantly punishing oneself for past mistakes, is counterproductive
at certain points.
At some point, it's more important to learn from situations and move on, instead of psychologically
beating yourself up.
The next time you find yourself saying, "I'm not pretty enough", "I did this horrible
thing once five years ago and I'll never forgive myself", or any type of statement
along those lines, turn off that negative self-dialogue.
Look in the mirror and say something kind to yourself.
Read some inspirational quotes.
Acknowledge that you are taking steps and making an effort to be a better person.
Admit to yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and most importantly, that making mistakes
is okay.
Example: This video does a good job of listing Steve Job's failures.
We remember him anyway, and we remember him as a pioneer and someone who didn't give
up.
When things go wrong, and they often do, it's easy for us to remember every mistake we have
ever made along the way.
Sometimes it's easy to lose sight of our goals because of that lack of confidence.
Don't give up and attempt to stay positive.
Train your brain to think of things in a new, more positive way.
Most of all, keep working hard.
Failure doesn't have to be permanent.
4.
Stop Focusing On Just Today
Successful people tend to understand the value of a good plan.
They plan out their day, their goals, a budget and they plan how much to save for retirement.
That doesn't mean they don't have fun, though.
They most certainly do!
They just make sure to plan when it is appropriate and inappropriate to have fun.
They make time for productivity and fun, but still save and think about the future.
So, stop just focusing on today and having fun.
Think about where you want to be in five, 10 or 15 years down the road!
Having a good focus aids in success!
Example: Neil deGrasse Tyson has been in love with the universe and science since he was
nine years old.
Because of that love, he worked long-term to study the things he cared about.
He was accepted into Harvard where he majored in physics, eventually moving on to advanced
education.
His list of accomplishments would take up another full article in and of itself.
5.
Stop Ignoring Your Goals
Stop believing things will just work out for you because you're a good person.
Good things only happen to people who make an effort.
A part of making an effort is setting goals for oneself.
As evidenced in the previous point, it's not enough to just focus on the day at hand.
It's important to manage time and set short-term and long-term goals in order to be able to
track progress and have something to strive for.
Example: Alan Turing is considered the father of artificial intelligence and computers.
He also broke the code to the Nazi encryption machine called Enigma.
He faced many challenges along the way, such as the inability to identify with others and
being charged with indecency, for which he was eventually pardoned.
Despite his personal struggles, though, he managed to break the code for Enigma, saving
approximately 14 million people from death and in turn helped end World War 2.
6.
Stop Isolating People
Successful people understand that not everything is about work, church or similar obligations.
Some things are about family, relaxation, and hobbies.
It's easy to get the impression that everyone who feels or defines themselves as successful
probably has no spare time on their hands, and in some cases, that's true.
However, it isn't always.
Social isolation can kill people.
In fact, many successful people have mastered the art of balance.
They don't isolate the people they love because they have large goals or something
they want to accomplish.
Instead, they incorporate those they love into their goals and hobbies.
Example: According to a recent Forbes article, many leaders feel lonely.
It's okay to know how to work alone and prefer that, but it's also important to
be able to rely on your staff, friends, and family for support.
Involving people in leadership or product processes makes them feel valued and provides
valuable feedback.
Successful people enjoy that relationship.
They also enjoy their time away from their goals and work to spend time with their loved
ones.
7.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Everyone Else
Successful people understand that the only person they can compete with today is the
person they were yesterday.
They are too focused on themselves and their goals to worry about anyone else.
They don't want to compare themselves to others because it's counterproductive.
However, they do analyze where they have weak points and are able to genuinely admire people
who have mastered things they have not.
There is no use to comparing yourself to someone else.
It's counterproductive and harmful to your self-esteem.
It also helps to harbor negative self-dialogue.
Example: Taylor Swift is one of the most successful recording artists of our time, but before
that, she was a struggling musician in Nashville playing at small venues and coffee shops.
She would turn in demos to various studios, covering a variety of songs.
It was only when she started playing and writing her own music that she got noticed and became
the celebrity she is today.
She faced a lot of adversity as well.
There were people who doubted her skills and told her she couldn't sing.
Her confidence and faith in herself overcame that.
8.
Stop Living In The Past
Successful people learn from their failures, but they do not live in the past.
They take the skills and lessons they acquired from their failures and apply them to the
present and future.
Don't live in your own personal past.
Don't define yourself by who you were.
Define yourself by who you are today and by who you're working toward becoming.
Example: Would we even remember Thomas Edison if he gave up on his ideas before becoming
successful?
Can you imagine simply focusing on what happened yesterday?
So what if yesterday was a failure?
Try again!
Failure teaches us about what doesn't work, and helps us get closer to a process that
does work.
Choose your attitude and control it.
Move forward.
Remember, failure is feedback.
9.
Stop Tolerating Dishonest People
Successful people appreciate other people for their unique traits and gifts.
They do not attempt to harm, belittle, or in any way demean others for their own successes
or ideas.
They are open to relationships with others, but know when to cut the cord, so to speak.
People can be too forgiving when it comes to being wronged, and it's important to
know one's limits.
Successful people do not tolerate negative and dishonest people, because they are too
busy loving honest, sincere people.
Example: Everyone.
We have all had frenemies.
We have all invested in people who did not return our investment in them.
Successful people know how to weed these dishonest people out.
No one wants unneeded negativity around themselves or around the people they love.
Well, that's the 9 things you need to stop doing if you want to be successful.
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