if you correct a man too much again it can make him feel like it's like a child
why don't you do this how come you didn't do that and he feels like you
know child and no man wants to feel like a child
thank you so much for tuning back in to our second act with Paige and Silke we're continuing our conversation
today on love and relationships and we're happy to welcome Richard Drobnick
back to our program Richard thanks for joining us again ...thank you so much as
you may recall from our last segment Richard Drobnick is the director of
the Mars and Venus Counseling Center in northern New Jersey and he specializes
in marriage and family counseling relationship counseling correct Richard
right yeah which is you know exactly what we want today because not only do
you speak from a man's point of view which is we were always interested in
hear what men are thinking you've also you don't just talk from theory you talk
from practice you've been married 32 years right that's a huge accomplishment
so so you you you walk the talk so to speak yeah and then we you know what we
want to focus on today is the emotional needs of men and women and how they
differ and what men wished women understood you know about them so
Richard what are the inherent emotional differences in men and women ...you know
men want to feel trust it like a can-do guy they want to feel that a woman can
count on them let's say a man has his grumbles at work and he comes home from
work instead giving a lot of unsolicited advice
nagging ..yeah okay there you go or just letting him know what he could
do what he should do how he should do it like the unsolicited advice a man feels
that is like criticism like it's a way of saying you can't really
count on me and so it'll feel like criticism and it'll deplete his energy
so one important piece of advice is that for man to feel counted on is to maybe
say something like oh that's really a difficult thing at work but I can count
on you or you got it I you can handle that that kind of theme now if a man
says well I need I need I need some advice about this of course and
then you can give it but not unsolicited that'll deplete him okay ...so that's the
big that's what that would be one big thing men wish women ooh don't stop the
unsolicited advice yeah we can call him like the home home improvement committee if you want to change your man to be a
certain way he's gonna feel well what's wrong with me the way I am well and and
you know what a big aha thing for me on our last program and also you know in
today is another point is the alone time that men really need and how that is
misinterpreted by women so what do men wish women knew about needing their
space their alone time their cave time ...what when a man goes to work let's say a
man when he goes to work it's easy for him to get focused on work to goal
oriented in his head achievement oriented and forget about his wife so a
man has to remember that on his need is to feel appreciated and a woman needs to
make sure she lets him know that but a man also has to remember to give her a
text give her a call what about what you would say that what what men wish women
knew is that if I don't send that text if I don't give that call it doesn't
that doesn't mean that I forgot about you that was a big that that hit me like
wowI needed to know that because I feel like that all the time
that's not true at all it's not true at all ... you see what I like about our
conversation Richard is not is like if you don't get the text or you don't get
the email understanding those differences going back to your point of
Education you know maybe by knowing those
differences that we're trying to get out today we don't make an issue out of it
because there's no issue there necessarily yeah it's a balancing one is
that we don't make an issue of it but if if we if we're not getting of one's not
getting her needs met enough then it becomes an issue
well that's true that's true and he can be educated and remember to do those
things because it's important to his woman
yeah to both of us the other thing that that I found again to me was new
information and I'm pushing 60 here is that men naturally that men naturally go
through a cycle of getting close pulling away and getting close again tell us
about what does that mean what what do men wish women understood about that
what a man wish women know about that is that once again the cycle is natural
okay a man can feel this need this need for closeness and connection and feel
very satisfied and close and then when he's off doing his own thing that he can
be very unfocused goal oriented and not have that need as much until he then
remembers I do need that closeness and connection and we couldn't call it a
rubber band the jargon of Mars Venus but he's out there then he'll remember he
needs that closeness and connection and then be back ...I guess Richard the you
know the point or one of the points that also spoke strongly to me is that the
man's independence that you know we shouldn't take it as a slight because
women do tend to feel emotionally isolated when that happens you know it's
not a slight at all again a good metaphor again I I started to use this to kill
this metaphor for the woolly mammoth thing but one
man's out you know at work with doing his thing he's doing it for his wife
he's doing it for his family he knows that he knows that but she doesn't know
that and if he doesn't let her know that of course she might believe that so he
can come home from work and be ridiculed and go I'm what am i doing I'm doing
this for you you know what I don't get it and then a man will not understand
being criticized or judged and a woman's not understanding why he could have
forgotten about me so once again education it's ...well based on our
conversation in your article would you agree that maybe one of the number one
things men wished women understood is just that they need to feel needed yes
they need to feel needed we say needed again appreciated
recognized recognized accepted what I'm doing is good see some good in
me not just what I didn't do today not just what I forgot to do but remind me
tell me what I did do so needed but also appreciated in all these words
yeah it's a broader maybe than just needed but it falls into that kind of
category ... limit the unsolicited advice I think we said yeah yeah and you know you
can always say something like gee honey um can I make a comment about
something or you know thought about something well you have to say well it
was for your consideration of you know blah blah blah might be some advice or
a suggestion and he's so much more willing to hear that then why don't you
do that and you didn't do that if you correct a
man too much again it can make him feel like it's like a child why don't you do
this how come you didn't do that and he feels like you know child and no man
wants to feel like a child so there's a way of saying that in a way that will
help a man be able to hear that as constructive information well like you
said it really is all about education no matter
how old we get we just we don't get it until it's you know somehow pointed out
in in these sorts of conversations and we hope that you know some of what
you've heard here today will resonate with you I will link to Richard's
articles and all the information absolutely to best educate yourself read
the book men are from Mars Women are from Venus we'll link to that as well
Richard thank you so much for joining us again and we'll see you again soon on
another episode of our second act with Paige and Silke looking forward to
Thanks thanks Richard bye-bye
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